If you could ask your parents/grandparents anything and have them answer from their heart what would it be?

[Telekinetic-Potato]

Imagine you had a dream where you walk through a snow storm and eventually happen on a family member by a campfire. It feels real but you're pretty sure you're dreaming. Who would you want it to be, what would you ask them?

[LaFemmeFatale_1]

I would sit down with them and listen for days.

My grandma has Alzhaimer’s and grandpa passed away 5 months ago.
He was very 82 but he was very strong and healthy and we didn’t expect him to go for another 15 years. So, I didn’t ask all the questions I wanted to ask. I thought I had time.

Before my grandma got Alzheimer’s, I used to listen her and ask the questions all the time, but my grandpa, was more of a quiet type, he was very wise and would never talk too much.

I would not ask just specific questions, I would sit down and tell him to tell me what he wanted to share from his youth and his life.

[jennifer_bloom]

I would ask them who their favourite person is from child hood outside their family and before they married because I think the best thing about my grandparents is their kindness towards others, all very smart but I don’t consider that their best quality.

[OneNineZero]

Why didn't you kill me when you had the chance?
I would ask that to my mother
Long story short after I was born I heard it from a distant relative that my mother was not ready to be a mother and decided to abort me she even went to the clinic, but she changed her mind
I never got to ask her this what made her keep me
I lost both of my parents when I was 17 so now I would never know

[mb120101]

I’d just ask them interesting history questions and about my other family members

[Dburns1268]

I would want it to be my Grandma who I love very much. I would ask her if she's proud of me and how I've lived my life. If it just happened to be my mom, I would ask her if she ever really loved me. This is a great question... thanks!!!

[gabby100]

My dad, his death always has troubled me,. I would like to know why he didn't tell us about his heart problem..

[FictionalCharacter]

I’ve asked my family questions all that I can, only to be given lectures and put downs with the rare words of wisdom

[Telekinetic-Potato]

Emphasis on from the heart

[FictionalCharacter]

Mmm…I guess their lectures are heartfelt 🤷🏻‍♀️

[TexasRed95]

I would ask my grandfather about his time in the military. He was a marine in Vietnam and from stories I have heard I understand why he never talked about it. But I like talking to soldiers as long as they are fine with it.

[Tiptoetamm]

I'd want it to be my my sister. I'd ask her what the hell she's doing outside in the snow making a fire? Id ask if everything was okay?

[queenkilldozer]

I would want it to be my grandmother and I would ask her if I'm doing this whole life thing properly or not.

[little_rose]

I would ask my granny if I am her fav grandchild because I know I am. She just never says it but I know she loves me the most.

I love her SO SO much too!

[Iron_Man]

I wouldn’t ask them anything personal just normal conversation that’s good enough

[kiki18]

Pop, why Do you want me to have a bond with my father so badly?

[linka_pat307]

Their relationship between my mom and dad that actually didn't have any memories

[Anonymous]

Honestly? Nothing. I'd walk past plain and simple.
Losers can teach only 2 things:
1) To not become them.
2) To not do what they did.

[Anonymous]

How do you sleep at night knowing what you allowed to happen

[innerman]

why
seriously why did u date eachother

[Sour-rose]

"Will you still love me if I go down this road?"

[flirtatiousgirl]

Could someone be dead?

[Telekinetic-Potato]

Yes.

[flirtatiousgirl]

I don't want to ask something but I want to say this. I would say I hate you to that person

[Telekinetic-Potato]

Why? Who's the person

[flirtatiousgirl]

He is my father's father

[Telekinetic-Potato]

How old were you when you started to feel this way? I imagine it would take a lot to disown your grandfather.

[flirtatiousgirl]

since I was 15

[Telekinetic-Potato]

It sounds like you've harbored a lot of anger at this person for a long time. What do you think this person would think of that if they were still alive?

[flirtatiousgirl]

I don't care him

[Telekinetic-Potato]

Of course you care, you hate him. If you didn't care, you would be indifferent. This person's influence on your life is still hurting you otherwise you wouldn't hate him.

[flirtatiousgirl]

Anyway, the more I talk about this, the more my anger grows.

[Telekinetic-Potato]

I hope you find peace one day. But I think for that to happen you're going to have to accept what happened and move on from your anger.

[flirtatiousgirl]

How?

[Telekinetic-Potato]

It's going to take a lot of soul searching and asking yourself uncomfortable questions.

The truth about people is that we are all human and share the same capacities. The same thing that made the best person be the best person is in all of us just like the things that made the worst people do the worst things is in all of us too. That includes you and me.

When people wrong us, we dehumanize them. We don't take the time to ask what position that person was in mentally and even if we do, we tell ourselves with certainty we don't really have that we would never be like them.

How sure atlre you that you fully understand this man? How sure are you that he didn't have his demons that he couldn't control just like you have yours now.

You can feel sorry for yourself and lie to yourself and let yourself be consumed by hate, you can disassociate that damaged part of yourself and keep doing that when there's a painful experience until there's nothing left.

Or you can exercise compassion and understanding. And learn from the shortcomings of others, having respect for the fact that this man was once a small child and something happened to him over the course of his life to make him that way.

If he did what I think he did, he's not evil, he's weak. And by continuing to hate him, you're weakening yourself.

[flirtatiousgirl]

yes, hatred and grudge are eating me. just like cannibal people. my soul is eating my body

[Telekinetic-Potato]

Your sarcasm might turn into bitterness one day. And if it does it will ruin all your most meaningful relationships

[flirtatiousgirl]

I don't sarcasm. so I just made an analogy

[Telekinetic-Potato]

Oh! My bad, I've been day drinking.

[flirtatiousgirl]

Oh okay

[DJade10]

Are you proud of me now?

[Jltakk]

Did I fail you? Would be my question

[t-8900]

Can relate

[lily_drawzanime]

I would probably ask if I'm adopted