Do you ever sometimes feel happy for other peoples success even if it's been a failure related to your own life?

[MCheetah]

This is kind of hard to explain. I'm asking do you feel happy when others succeeded where you failed? Or do you feel jealous/envious/spiteful when others succeed where you failed?

I brought this up because I sometimes feel upset about how short I ended up, and how romance, dating, relationships, women, etc., are literally unobtainable for me. (Real actual relationships, not me simping to a gold-digger, drug addict, cheater, or an abuser, or someone.)

Although I feel bad my own chances for love are literally impossible unless I can somehow find a way to grow taller in my 30s, I'm starting to feel happy for other guys who do find happiness with someone despite their own setbacks. Like tall men who used to struggle talking with women or needed to mature more first or something. The old me would've been jealous and spiteful. But for some reason, I'm now happy for their success, even if it also makes me feel a little sad for my own locked fate.

Does anyone else ever feel happy when others succeed where you can't?

Maybe this question is even stupid and I shouldn't have asked it... I'm just curious. If it's dumb, I'll erase it in 24 hours.

[FinalFantasyBro]

I don't get jealous that easily, I generally can knowledge other achievements of course I something would get jealous and knowledge my short coming but it usually comes and goes. I remember one time when I was attending school in Arizona this one girl has managed to top everyone in math class while I didn't at all made it at all, instead of being pissed I just congulated her and knowledge that I suck at math which is the truth because I can't work around with all those numbers.

[Phoenix-gb]

I don't think it's mutually exclusive, you can be happy for someone whilst also being envious, jealous or just upset that it's something you currently don't/don't think you'll ever find.

I'm happy for all of my friends who found partners, got married, have kids etc, but it doesn't stop it eating away at me that I'm unlikely to experience that in my life.

[Lliam]

I'm not jealous if people can do things better than me. There's always going to be somebody who can. I don't sweat it. I can be happy for their achievements. I'm not in a competition. I just have fun and enjoy life.

Also, I keep trying to tell you that 175 cm/almost 5'9" or 180 cm/almost 5'11" (you've used both numbers when describing your height) is not short. The average height of an American male is 171.5 cm/5'7.5". Obviously lots of guys of average and even below average height find good relationships.
You're not ugly, either.
Instead of blaming things you can't do anything about, maybe you should focus on the things you can do something about. I say this with respect, brother.

[Mangospacho]

If I’m just feeling miserable in general, I’m not going to just be happy for someone because they’ve had good things happen. If I know someone who has been in a rut and something good happens to them I’ll be happy for them. What I absolutely can’t stand is when another good thing happens to someone who has already had a lot of good things happen to them and other people are shocked and offended that I’m not happy for them.

[MCheetah]

Yes, I perfectly understand. I just feel like daily life has become so awful in general for most people that it's hard for even the lucky people to not become depressed nowadays. I used to be the same was as you, but now it's like I feel "At least SOMEONE is happy out there." Regardless if they 'deserve' more happiness or not. I'm not one of those foolish "happiness is a choice" types and I don't think you can pretend or trick yourself into feeling happy.

[melanieeeB]

I can be happy for others, their success has nothing to do with my own achievements.
Back in school I had a friend who was never happy for me when I got a good grade and it was awful, I learned from that and know how bad it is to be hateful.

[melanieeeB]

And no your question is not stupid! It's something common that happens and I personally just find it sad. Sure it's not nice when I fail but I can try again! It's not the fault of someone else, that I have failed, you know what I mean

[Lliam]

Great answer.

[Berethor]

If it someone that I admire then yes, if it someone that I don't admire then no.

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[exitseven]

When I see somebody get ahead because of who he is related to or whose ass he kissed it pisses me off but if he deserved it I would be happy.

[Fuentes]

I never been jealous of anyone i only see myself as competition

[LadiesFavoriteToy]

Don't care but I do feel sorry who loath in there own misery

[JosyJosy]

I do sure. I don't compare myself with them.