What do you think about now a days adult children cutting toxic parents off?

[Alwayreckles93]

Decades ago this topic was considered tabu. Now people are waking up and realizing hey I don't have to deal with this abuse anymore. I wonder if when boomers get in their 80s nursing homes are going to be pack. Not all I do knew people that do have a fantastic relationship with their parents but a narcissistic parent will say What did I do wrong? I give you a roof , food the bare minimum necessities. Honestly I feel I have more respect for people who didn't wanted any children andbdid everything possible to avoid having children. In my case I have absolutely no contact with my mom. My mom believes she did nothing wrong and she is better then other moms out there. I wonder if here on this site there's other people who happen to cut off family memebers. That how when I'm sick you are my nurse uh no honestly the nursing home is the place for narcissistic old parents.

[IslaTheWitch]

My parents weren't ideal, as their parents, the war generation, weren't. Should I punish them? I don't feel like that. They didn't do it on purpose. They tried their best.

During my therapy, I've heard many times how toxic they were. I admit it was a case. But still, they didn't do it on purpose. They simply didn't know better.

I'm mature enough to distinguish when someone wants to hurt me and when good intentions turn into shit.

My mom passed away a few years ago. I did everything to cover her expenses and make her last days comfortable. If needed, I will do the same for my father. Simply because even if they didn't have many skills in raising kids, they were my parents and put effort into my health, education, and other important things. In their own way, they cared for me and out of the respect and feelings I have for them I feel they deserve my support.

[Alwayreckles93]

Im honestly very impress with your answer. You don't have any ressememt with against your parents. Yet whatever your parentsdi you forgive them even when your therapist told you they were toxic, That is a good thing because you get to feel at peace. Something I need to work on.

[IslaTheWitch]

@alwayreckles93 you will get there at your own pace... don't push it

[Alwayreckles93]

I dont make my parents happy I left the catholic chruch my mom got upset andnask mento not ever speak to her. I problem had broken the Lord's 10 commandments.

[Alwayreckles93]

I apologize about my spelling my spell check went off like crazy.

[Yabbut]

My mom loves drama and she sees people in terms of what they can do for her. Having someone in my life that is constantly causing drama and trying to drag me into it just causes a lot of unnecessary stress in my life. That's not how I want to live. I finally cut her out of my life when she did something unforgivable because I didn't do for her what she wanted me to. I let her live her life and I live mine.

[Alwayreckles93]

Did your mom came up with the what have I done to you story? That's my moms favorite line.

[Alwayreckles93]

Girl I bet a lot of nursing homes are going to be packed from our parets generation.

[Yabbut]

She has acted like she did nothing wrong.

[Mansearching]

I've witnessed that. Not because of toxic parents. Just adult children doing that.

in my opinion... both sides need to put pride behind them and just be parents and children. Leave petty things alone.

[Exterminatore]

I think it’s sometimes necessary. I think when it need be done it should be done.

[Alwayreckles93]

I have this one friend her parents had past away they were narcissistic still she has dreams about them yelling at her. Few months ago pentecostal pastor said it was a sin to put parents in nursing homes. I ask my new pastor and he said no.

[Exterminatore]

We should honor our parents, and certainly care for them in their old age, but when a parent has been as bad as your mother it’s probably best to just cut them off. They will damage you and poison your soul with their behavior.

[Alwayreckles93]

Yes Sir the Baptist pastor told me. Silence is the best way.

[Alwayreckles93]

Yes Sir. I hadto leave in family gatherings in order to avoid saying something hateful out if anger. Sometimes anger won't let me think.

[Alwayreckles93]

I told baptist pastor that it got to a point to where my mind would think its easyer for a satanist or devul worthshipwr to enter heaven instead of me. He told me that satan wants us to have doubts about our selfs. That Jesus has forgiven me. I am just going to continue serving the Lord.

[Exterminatore]

He’s right. Unless you can see a very definite sin pattern in your life that you’re not trying to change, then you have no reason to doubt. The grace of God will take away your sins. We aren’t perfect, but we should be getting more and more holy with our conduct as time goes on.

[Anonymous]

I feel like everyone has the right to cut toxic people off in their lives, however, I have seen some children who were disciplined/ told off for doing something wrong by their parents, and then the parents were labelled as a 'narcissist' 'manipulator' or something along those lines, I do feel like a lot of people throw around those terms and it makes it hard for children of actual abusive parents to be heard and understood.

[Alwayreckles93]

Yeah you do have a good point there can be spoiled selfish kids out there. But in my case my mom would use food as a form of punishment.

[Opinion Owner]

Wow thats awful, wishing you health, happiness and healing <3

[DizzyDesii]

Its bout time. Im On my way! To doing the same

[Alwayreckles93]

Girl go for it. Yes its funny how boomers believe its our job to be their doctor. We like not going to happend nursing home it is.

[Demonatrix]

You are not the only one who has cut off toxic parents or family members. I've had to do it myself.

[Alwayreckles93]

Has your life felt more in peace? Mine has.

[Demonatrix]

Definitely. My life is better for it.

[Alwayreckles93]

Less stressful.

[WhiteBoyChill]

I feel like the vast majority of the time people say they’re cutting off “toxic parents”. Its more just spoiled and entitled kids that are angry they didn’t get their way

[OddBeMe]

All for it since I did it a few years ago. Never felt better.

[Bklynbadboy12]

That a pretty normal occurrence now a days. Some people that have kids just aren't good parents

[goaded]

It makes perfect sense to me.

[NathanDavis]

good...