Decades ago this topic was considered tabu. Now people are waking up and realizing hey I don't have to deal with this abuse anymore. I wonder if when boomers get in their 80s nursing homes are going to be pack. Not all I do knew people that do have a fantastic relationship with their parents but a narcissistic parent will say What did I do wrong? I give you a roof , food the bare minimum necessities. Honestly I feel I have more respect for people who didn't wanted any children andbdid everything possible to avoid having children. In my case I have absolutely no contact with my mom. My mom believes she did nothing wrong and she is better then other moms out there. I wonder if here on this site there's other people who happen to cut off family memebers. That how when I'm sick you are my nurse uh no honestly the nursing home is the place for narcissistic old parents.
My parents weren't ideal, as their parents, the war generation, weren't. Should I punish them? I don't feel like that. They didn't do it on purpose. They tried their best.
During my therapy, I've heard many times how toxic they were. I admit it was a case. But still, they didn't do it on purpose. They simply didn't know better.
I'm mature enough to distinguish when someone wants to hurt me and when good intentions turn into shit.
My mom passed away a few years ago. I did everything to cover her expenses and make her last days comfortable. If needed, I will do the same for my father. Simply because even if they didn't have many skills in raising kids, they were my parents and put effort into my health, education, and other important things. In their own way, they cared for me and out of the respect and feelings I have for them I feel they deserve my support.
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My mom loves drama and she sees people in terms of what they can do for her. Having someone in my life that is constantly causing drama and trying to drag me into it just causes a lot of unnecessary stress in my life. That's not how I want to live. I finally cut her out of my life when she did something unforgivable because I didn't do for her what she wanted me to. I let her live her life and I live mine.
I've witnessed that. Not because of toxic parents. Just adult children doing that.
in my opinion... both sides need to put pride behind them and just be parents and children. Leave petty things alone.
I think it’s sometimes necessary. I think when it need be done it should be done.
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I feel like everyone has the right to cut toxic people off in their lives, however, I have seen some children who were disciplined/ told off for doing something wrong by their parents, and then the parents were labelled as a 'narcissist' 'manipulator' or something along those lines, I do feel like a lot of people throw around those terms and it makes it hard for children of actual abusive parents to be heard and understood.
Its bout time. Im On my way! To doing the same
You are not the only one who has cut off toxic parents or family members. I've had to do it myself.
I feel like the vast majority of the time people say they’re cutting off “toxic parents”. Its more just spoiled and entitled kids that are angry they didn’t get their way
All for it since I did it a few years ago. Never felt better.
That a pretty normal occurrence now a days. Some people that have kids just aren't good parents
It makes perfect sense to me.
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