Are you good at small talks?

[Kulotz]

Do you have any tips? Personally, I am very bad at it.. but I observed that as I grow up it gets better..But still I dont have that talent to maintain a small talk

[BadApple69]

I am great at it.
First tip… don’t care if it doesn’t go well. Some people won’t talk to you no matter what.
Second tip: know their interests so you have something to talk about. If you don’t know anything about their specific interest then ask questions about it.
Example: a boy likes fencing… you know nothing about fencing so you say: I heard you like to fence, how do you score points in fencing?” People love to talk about their interests.


I have talked to people in the checkout line at a grocery store about what’s in their cart.
“Oh I see you have that store roasted chicken in your cart have you had it before? Is it good? I’ve wanted to try it but haven’t had the chance yet”
Trust me, most people want to talk if you are coming from a place of kindness.
That could be the third tip: come at them with kindness and a smile. You’ll have a better chance of getting the conversation started.
Fourth tip: honesty. Always be honest.
Last tip: practice. Go to stores and talk to random people about random things…. And have fun.

[GuyAnswersGirls123]

My way is to shift it out of small talk.

Someone: How's are you?
Me: Fine, and you?
Someone: Doing good. Nice weather we're having.
Me: Yep. Do you enjoy zombie films?

But I can do it for a short period. The idea to me is to make it less boring by getting invested in the mundane.

Like my default mindset is, "I enjoy pizza but it's just food." So I correct it like, "Hell yeah! I love me some pizza! NY-style pepperoni for shizzle! What's your pizza place? Yeahhhh! Partayyy!!! Woooh! Shopping! Restaurants! Weather! Yayyyy!"

[GuyAnswersGirls123]

There's also a way to make even mundane small talk kind of philosophical.

Person: Nice weather we're having, isn't it?
Me: Isn't all weather nice in a way?

Like that. You can spin it and twist it and have fun with it.

[GuyAnswersGirls123]

Also just questioning the nature of our existence and all the things we tend to take for granted can help.
https://youtu.be/jJtl_uvd89Y

[PrettyCrumblBb]

Someone: How are you?
Me: I'm fine, how are you?
Someone: Doing good. Nice weather we're having.
Me: Nice weather for a zombie apocalypse.

[GuyAnswersGirls123]

@PrettyCrumblBb Excellent!

[silyt_ghoest]

I got that forced-to-socialize-with-old-politicians-since-before-i-could-walk rizz. I'm great at it. I was also a shit influence on friends, so I had to be good enough parents would see me as the best.

[sheenagwapa]

yes i think i'm good at it... just simply ask a bunch of questions and listen. i'm more of a listener than a talker

[TommyMountainFigure]

It's really easy. to 'small talk.' You just have to be well versed in lots of different general topics, be confident and most important, learn when to engage in the conversation and when to listen to what is going on around you.

That's all there is to it.

With regard to the 'general topics' I mentioned above, read a well balanced daily newspaper, online or hard copy. I prefer hard copy because it contains so much more.

[BCRanger10]

It's just a matter of making connections between topics. You can talk about, for example, how a sudden change in the weather disrupted your plans for a gathering at home, and how that gathering at home was meant to celebrate someone's engagement or graduation, and then that can go to your relationship with the person and so forth.

[lightbulb27]

yes very, but used to be awful at your age.

the solution is to become interested in other people. have something to share, present yourself in a confident manner.

[Justneedtokno]

Sometimes I’m pretty decent at it especially if I’m in a situation that caused for it other times I think I weird people out. Awkward.

[Sonorous]

Can't go wrong with asking them questions about whatever they seem interested in.

[strateguy632]

ask about his plans for the next few days. tell him your plans and hopes.

[LiamS95]

Usually all you have to do is establish a common interest or two and the small talk will flow naturally from then onward.

[MushyKiwi]

No... not really... just introducing myself and long talks 🙂‍↕️

[exitseven]

I suck at it. I usually talk about how great the 80s were.

[gorydetails]

ask people questions about themselves. Everyone loves talking about themself.

[Rangers]

No, I don't like talking with people. I don't even use pleasantries or greetings, most of the time. I just get down to business right away

[TheSpaceGnome]

I hate small talks, I prefer talking about really interesting stuff.

[OtterMan68]

no, I suck at it. I'd much rather discuss history, literature, or philosphy

[Nice222]

I am horrible at it. It seems to me like a waste of time and awkward.

[Account]

I am absolutely horrible. The worst.

[Jennz6]

Keep it short

[MrDaveAPSI]

Not really, no

[NathanDavis]

Yep.

[ab2shifty]

I’m okay at it

[BLP11520]

I have a PhD In small talk🤔