Can't get over her...

[Anonymous]

my ex and I have been broken up for a few months now, and I still can't get over her.. she got herself a new boyfriend shortly after we broke up and she knew I still wanted her then. I don;t know if she still knows I love her and I want her back more than anything. she knows I've been sad lately because she talks to me every once and a while but I won't tell her why, which is I still miss her and love her. I don't know what to do, I just can't get over her, I'm interested in no girls besides her. she is the only girl I want., I just don't know what to do any more..,. help?

[Anonymous]

I feel your pain bro.

There is only one way to do it. You need to cut yourself off from all contact with her. Delete her number, call history and texts too. Remover her from your facebook/myspace pages if you have not already done so. Don't ever try to talk to her or call her. If she does any of those things, you need to ignore her. She will either not care and leave you alone, or she will become upset by it. How ever she reacts you need to get some space away from this girl.

BE CAREFUL: If she get's upset about it and peruses the matter, you may give her an explanation and nothing more. You're moving on, and you staying in contact with her is not going to be a part of it. Don't tell her how you feel or anything, and don't burn any bridges. People love mysteries, she'll figure it out... and if she doesn't care then f*** her.

You can always re-establish contact with her later. Don't blow up at her, don't e-mail her, no goodbyes no nothing. Just drop it.

ANOTHER THING: You obviously want her back. That being said you should know, that no girl will take back a desperate guy who isn't over them. It's not attractive. And she will never miss you until she truly looses you. Your best chance at being with her again is to get over her. This demonstrates strength, and self-respect which all people find attractive. Before long you'll have some one new, and you won't even care anymore if you talk to your ex or not.

[jincuj33]

I'm speaking from experience when I tell you you're #1 priority right now should be to get over this girl as quickly as possible. This girl will mess with your mind if you let it linger for too long. Questions of "What does he have that I don't?" and "what did I do wrong?" will plague you until you get over her. She's moved on and the quickest way to get over her is to rid yourself of any memories.

You basically have to take an inventory of all "things" that remind you of her and purge them all. Throw away or stash in a closet any trinkets, photos, letters, etc. that remind you of her. Take up a hobby and keep yourself occupied. Also, ask yourself, why would I want to get back together with a girl who rejected me and then moved on with another guy shortly after? Who's to say she wouldn't just do it again if you got back together down the road.

[Reeses-pieces777]

I pretty much agree with everyone else here. You need to get over her, it takes time and effort. She's with someone else now...be super busy with stuff and then you don't have to always have her on your mind-it's healthier to not be thinking of one person all the time...

When my ex-boyfriend and I broke up, I just was really depressed and missed him, but just didn't talk to him anymore afterwards, just went on and joined a bunch of extracurricular clubs at school, took up sports, worked more, w/e to keep my mind busy, hang out with friends, but whatever I did, I distanced myself from the person who hurt me...so that's what you need to do...

If you still want to be wit her, perhaps maybe when she gets dumped by this guy, then maybe. But it'll be different. It won't be the same. I don't know if you know what I mean. But my ex-boyfriend wants to go out with me now, and I've been single for like 2 years because I didn't want to go out with anyone..so so heart broken...anyways, if you two are meant to be, she'll come back to you, but right now, it's not the best thing to be talking to her right now...she's with someother dude.

[FlgirlAna]

Tell her. Tell her your not interested in anyone else she's the only one you want you love her and you regret ever hurting her and if you could you would spend eternity trying to make it up to her and showing her you love her and your sorry And if there was ever a girl you would marry it would be her. Tell her no one will love her as much as you do. Do it in person and look her in the eyes pull her to you for a hug and sneak a kiss in on her neck softly. And ask her what's it going to take for her to take you back good luck sweetie maybe you could even make her a cd with some romantic pleading songs this will go over far believe it or not as corny as it is. You'll be on her mind after this she'll reminice and think a lot about it. ex. of a song would be Edwin Mcain ILL BE, and Michael Buble songs Maybe a few colbie caillat something to get her softened up to you. I know you think this only works in movies but your wrong were do you think they get the ideas to write the shit. Girls LOVE romantic even the tomboys who don't get mushy like me.

[lovergirl03]

Yeah I do agree with everyone else here, even though I'm in the SAME situation as you! I too want my ex back and can't over of what happened because I still love him. But I'm trying my hardest to get him still...i can feel exactly as you because I know its not easy to move on when you still love that person, but I too am not msging him, so you should not either, if you keep talking to her, you'll be getting updates on her life and how she's doing with her guy and all, so dont, it will be a teared apart feeling man. Try to avoid her completely and keep yourself busy for a bit. But Do Not hope she'll come back or else it will keep you disappointed for long time. Just move on for now, if she comes back, she was meant to be yours, if she doesn't then she wasn't.

[Adidas12]

Hey I was just looking at your response to this q and I'm in the same boat. Do you mind if we share stories about our ex's sometime. I would like a girls point of view. If so, thanks. If not its fine.

[lovergirl03]

Hey, sure we can discuss things since our stories are the SAME...u can msg whenever.

[asnchic118]

Well, the first step is to tell her how you feel. Then you might know if there is any chance for you guys to be together again. If you know what you did wrong on your part try apologizing and showing her that things have changed, that YOU have changed.

[larry42]

u have 2 move on you can't make her like u

u are lucky that she wants 2 b your friend.

u probably haven't found anyone else

who interests you bcause your thinking

about her all the time. get some

hobbys and focus on school work

and you should get over her.

good luck

[Anonymous]

My story is very similar except that I am the girl... I broke up with my boyfriend for some trivial reason, we were very happy as a couple. Soon after I got myself a new guy but it's been 6 months with this guy, I still miss my ex. I think he misses me too but he avoids me, I know he's trying very hard to get over me.



You should really talk to her, if she rejects you then move on but what if she misses you too?

[Littletad]

You need to let her know how you feel and let it give you closure. A final, "No, it's not going to work" is what you need to hear. But whatever you do, don't keep it inside of you. It will soon eat you from within.

[Crocie]

At the end of the day there is more to life. its all up to you. Your true mates can be a big help. Get excited about finding someone who does feel the same way as you.

[Jd_Ecid]

Best thing to do in my opinion is first find out if there is any chance of you two getting back together, If not move on because you beating yourself up over a break up is the worst thing you can do.

[1FastFC]

I agree with that guy. You have to prove you are strong. Its hard I know man I'm going through the same thing and I'm still working on it

[rudnick_z]

if she really does not like you than she loves this seeing you upset because it shows that she still can have control over you

[Anonymous]

MOVE ON. If it didn't work out it wasn't meant to be. IT WILL GET BETTER. If it's been over a month she obviously doens't want you back and can live without you as you with her.

[Anonymous]

Get the Second chance romance system (just google it) and try it! Good luck!

[faberfan]

Who broke up with who?

Why?

[Asker]

She broke up with me because I lied about talking to a girl.. I never cheated on her or anything, she thinks I had a crush on her when I really didnt. I was just talkin to her

[acmocaco]

Okay, this is where you need to recognize bullshit. She's using it as an excuse, its not the real reason. And if it is the real reason then she's got some issues that you don't want to deal with