If the person you are talking to is not asking you questions back would YOU take that as a sign of disinterest?

[Still-alive]

Like they are talking to you, but only replying to your questions and such. you are the one guiding the conversation basically. they aren't asking you any questions about you or really taking an initiative at all. would you also take this as a sign of disinterest on their part?

Yes i usually take that as a sign they are not interested in talking to me

It depends on other things but this could be partly a sign along with other signs

Not really, i wouldn't take that as a sign they aren't interested

I have a different opinion on this (please say)

[ChrisMaster69]

I tend to go with they may have other things going on.

I tend to view conversations on any medium a two way street.

it’s not just about question answer it’s about how it all flows.

the question sets the topic, then you might have a long conversation about say ‘Favourite dessert’.

now if that is drying up and it’s singular closed answers, it gets awkward.

this now depends who they are and what they mean to you.

Often it’s a case of giving them some space and time, making sure they are still okay.

other times, it’s cut your losses.

It’s always a juggling act

[Still-alive]

" I tend to go with they may have other things going on."

i try to go with this too but it also depends on other things like what they do for a living if they tell you this and also if i notice they are engaging with others but not you so much. kind makes you feel outcasted in a way. i''d peace the F out at that point.

your other points are well reasoned though and i have found myself understanding how best to have a good productive conversation. just getting to that point however can still get a bit tedious at times.

[ChrisMaster69]

@Still-alive I guess this links to the other conversation about blocking and ghosting.

Could this lack of conversation be seen as an precursor to being ghosted or blocked?

[ChrisMaster69]

@Still-alive thank you most appreciated

[spartan55]

To me it's either: disinterest, selfishness, lack of self awareness, lack of social skills (having a conversation) or some sort of ugly mix of these.
In other words, thanks for comin! Next.

[Still-alive]

lol you got it right

[spartan55]

Thank you for the MHO

[CrazyGirl2]

Yes, if I’m talking to a guy, and he isn’t asking questions, but rather he's just parroting back to me my own words, I’ll eventually begin to believe that he just isn’t feeling anything for me, and he’s just not that into me! Either that or he’s just a really shitty conversationalist, and to me you better be more than just unbelievably sexy, you better be able to hold my attention during a conversation as well! So I guess I am more saying that if he’s doing that, then even if he IS into me… I just won’t be into him!

[Still-alive]

definitely. I used to think i was bad at talking myself, but im kinda realizing others are way worse than me lol.

[CrazyGirl2]

Definitely

[DarkCarousel]

Partly, yes. I have had that experience with texting a guy that I met through a dating app. The conversation is good because I ask questions but he never asks questions in return. I sort of wonder if he's not interested or if he just assumes I'll talk about myself if I want to. Hard to tell.

[Still-alive]

or he good just be a terrible conversationalist too. but generally i see you there and feel the same

[DarkCarousel]

I wondered that too. I try to ask what their personality is like, if they are shy or outgoing, etc.
Hard to tell.

[Still-alive]

indeed. and as i told others here i would respect them a heck of a lot more if they just told me outright they aren't interested. i would accept that better.

[crazyish]

I don't know. People confuse me. And then I'm not like a lot of people either so my perspective is usually skewed. I don't assume anything. You can't exactly carry the whole entire conversation so I usually let it die out a bit and just let them decide if they want. There is just too many reasons why someone is not giving effort but yes it could be because they are not interested.

[Still-alive]

i'd just wish for just a little interest on there part at least, but i do try to give them the benefit of the doubt though.

[alleon]

Yes. If I’m interested in someone. Even if an answer or question is a dead end, I just move onto something else to keep the convo going. And if someone on the other end can’t even be bothered to TRY. I become disappointed and then become disinterested. Just feels like they aren’t trying and I’m clearly not worth their effort so bye bye.

[PaynefulPleasures]

If at first everything was chat, chat , chat,& then nothing or short chat. Yes they've lost interest, new supply, bored. They could have the decency just to tell you what's going on ✌️

[Still-alive]

totally agree with your last sentence lol. cuts out all this guessing work :P

[PaynefulPleasures]

Yeah gives you closure so you can get on with your life

[AllieAnderson]

I'm usually the one who isn't asking questions, but that's not because I'm not interested, it's because I usually already know what the answer will be.

[Still-alive]

and what answer is that?

[AllieAnderson]

Depends on the situation or the question asked.

[Still-alive]

ok lets say you're getting to know a person or they are getting to know you, you wouldn't say ask what kind of work they do for instance? you know basic info?

[TheSpaceGnome]

the number of questions and frequency of them that a person has will be caused by lifestyle choices, comprehension skills, number of problems, financial status, etc. and who they ask is usually who they think best can answer in a lot if cases, so it's unrealistic to expect anyone to have the same amount of things to bring up as yourself, regardless of who you are.

[TheSpaceGnome]

there are actually a lot of people i would live to talk to more, but i don't spend as much time with for this very reason

[TheSpaceGnome]

love to talk to more*

[valentina4eva]

yes i would take it as a sign of disinterest tbhh🙁🙁 if she isn’t asking questions back or putting any effort in then prolly not interested😣

[Still-alive]

got it for the next time i message you ;) lols

[valentina4eva]

😂🤣😂🤣

[valentina4eva]

when it’s me i’m just a terrible texter lolol

[Still-alive]

its alright! i might be bad myself lol

[loveslongnails]

It's something to be alerted to right off the bat. It's not necessarily a bad sign, but it sure isn't a good one so keep your eyes and ears open. Maybe he's a bit scared, or maybe he's self-centered and doesn't really care. If you pursue a relationship, watch this and if it's a pattern, get out because it won't get any better.

[awkfemme]

Yeah I have a trick I use when I notice guys won’t ask a question back lol. I ask a question and he answers it but doesn’t go into detail. I just wait. A few minutes pass by and they usually get the message and ask the question back or ask something else. I respond immediately. This lets them know I’m doing this if you’re doing this. I match effort. Over time their communication gets better and I usually stop doing that after 2-3 days. Works everytime ◡̈.

[Brainsbeforebeauty]

Not asking questions, not responding to what you're saying does feel like there's no interest or they're not putting much effort into really communicating

[beebella]

No, because even if they did ask me questions about myself they could still not be that into me.

[Still-alive]

this is true but it still makes me feel like its going in a positive direction at the very least

[beebella]

I suppose. 🤔

[Still-alive]

ohh you used the thinking emoji... you totally dig me now! Go me!

[beebella]

😂😂

[devilish-cutie]

usually mostly yes and even if its not so its a turn off

[Still-alive]

Do you do this at all?

[devilish-cutie]

no, im an extrovert and i usually say bye or this is not working out for me

[Still-alive]

Awesome you earn a smiley from me for that :)

[devilish-cutie]

haha tnx

[XJADOW]

If your a guy and it's a girl you're referring to, then I'd say you can't take it personally... They'll ask once you have stolen their interest, but that's on you to do it doesn't just happen... If your a girl wanting a guys questions, some don't know how or what to ask... Shyness could be an issue but then for most women that cuts him out the picture alone doesn't it lol

[AzzaBlue]

I don't care what their reasoning might be. If someone is make an effort to converse with you, the least you could do is make the same effort. And if you are not interested, then grow a pair and tell them.

[exitseven]

I usually find that conversations are a two way street. If I am carrying the whole thing the I figure the other person is not really interested.

[Alyssa11]

Yes I do. Or they’re self centred. I stop talking to them after that lol.

[TheEbonyEnchantress]

Same. Like what's the point anyway

[Alyssa11]

Exactly

[menina]

Voted A. Or they might not know what to say or ask, you know some people aren't very talkative.

[loves2learn]

Nope. I would read nothing into it.

[Still-alive]

i wish i had your mindset set in stone in my head

[loves2learn]

I am who I am. 🤷🏻‍♀️

[loves2learn]

Maybe I don’t worry enough tbh. If I’m being 100% candid I miss social cues and wonder if I’m on the spectrum.

[loves2learn]

Sometimes. Not always. But when it happens I’m caught off guard.

[Still-alive]

thats good.

[loves2learn]

Is it though? 😬😥

[Still-alive]

well yeah cause you don't have that nagging feeling i usually have talking to people that maybe they just don't like you or find you boring lol. i don't wish this on my worst enemy... well maybe trumpers, they can have this :P

[loves2learn]

Whelp I have never thought any of those things when talking to you so you can cross that off your worry list.

[Still-alive]

it'll likely stop happening the more i talk to you. the more i get to know people the more it goes away... sometimes, but not always.

[loves2learn]

😁😁😁😁😁😁😁😁

[Still-alive]

lols emojis yayy :D

[potatoooo]

Not really. I'm really shy and I can't continue a conversation. And, when I ask it's like a dead end question. So, yeah.

[Jamie05rhs]

Hmm. I don't think I would define it based on just that one factor.

[Shihab91]

Yes... . I prefer to be mistaken rather than annoying

[shortster]

Nope. Sometimes you just aren't in a questioning mindset.

[shortster]

I expect that if they weren't interested then they would say as much or ignore me.

[Dinosaursandanime65]

Sometimes, but I kind of do it but I’m still interested in listening

[SamA_nold]

Yes, because conversations are a two way street.

[DizzyDesii]

I’d def lose interest.

[Gwenhwyfar]

Probably but it could also be shyness or passivity

[BakedBeanieBabie]

Likely.

[Still-alive]

is this something you would do to let the other person know you aren't interested?

[karaspara]

More than likely

[Still-alive]

is this something you would do to show the other person you aren't interested in talking?

[karaspara]

No i'd just tell them

[Still-alive]

good *applause* i know i personallly would appreciate this. like why can't people just be mature about it?

[KittygosMeoWW]

Yes, I would.

[Still-alive]

is this something you would do to show the other person you aren't interested in talking?

[KittygosMeoWW]

Not always

[Still-alive]

so why can't you just say it outright though? just "sorry im not interested in chatting"?

[KittygosMeoWW]

Sometimes I don’t feel like saying it

[Still-alive]

why not? you don't think they at least deserve to know? instead of just leaving them guessing?

[spartan55]

"sometimes I don't feel like saying it" translation: I never say that, are you kidding me?

[WowwGirl]

Probably