Greetings and salutations friends. Today I want to talk to you about something that has been bothering me for a while. With Valentine’s Day just around the corner, there seems to be this sense of “woe is me” attitude in the atmosphere. People feel like they aren’t allowed to partake in or enjoy themselves because they happen to be single. FALSE. The overall theme of Valentine’s Day is love. No one ever said it was specific to the romantic kind. Let’s talk about something that doesn’t get talked about enough: self-love. Pull up a chair!
What goes through your mind when you think of self-love? I can tell you what goes through mine. The fact that it’s such a struggle. Something that you would think would be second nature is foreign to so many. I’ve come across way too many people that either don’t know how to love themselves because they weren’t taught properly, or they simply can’t. And they can’t because they’re afraid. Afraid to let go of past experiences and hurt. Afraid of change. Afraid of what other people will think. A lot of people think of self-love and confuse it with being vain or self-centered. While you can look up the definition and find those things there, the main definition of self-love is the concern for one’s own well-being and happiness.
Let’s come back to Valentine’s Day aka just another Hallmark holiday. Stores are taken over by all things hearts, chocolate, and giant teddy bears. Your coworkers won’t shut up about their plans with their significant others. And all you want to do is wallow because you’re single. We’ll I’m here to shut the pity party down. I used to feel the same way. I would spend the day sulking and being mad at the world. Until I realized that no one was making me feel that way but me. And that no one could change it but me. One year I decided that I wasn’t going to feel bad because I was single. I cooked myself dinner and dressed up to eat it. And you know what? It made me feel good! That was the start of my V-day tradition.
There are plenty of things you could do Valentine’s Day besides sitting around feeling sorry for yourself. The thing about self-love is that it goes long beyond a silly holiday. We should all be striving to love ourselves 24/7, 365 days a year. It’s so important to take care of yourself. Don’t wait for others to do things for or with you. Self-love is taking yourself out to dinner, or to see a movie. Self-love is taking a nice warm bubble bath once a week. Self-love is cutting toxic people out of your life and not feeling remorse for it. Self-love is joining a gym. Self-love is treating yourself to that new pair of shoes you’ve wanted. Self-love is buying yourself flowers and chocolate. Self-love is doing what makes you happy and not putting your happiness into the hands of someone else. I can’t stress how important it is to love yourself. So this Valentine’s Day, and every day after that, practice doing some things that make you happy. Whether you are single, or involved, it’s never a bad time to love yourself. Always remember: the way you love and treat yourself dictates how others will love and treat you. If you can’t love yourself, how do you expect someone else to know how to love you?
I hope you guys take something positive away from this. Let’s make self-love more relevant this year! Until next time, stay classy GaGers. See you on the threads!