Why don't very many guys ask girls on dates anymore?

Well you also have to look at the psycho-social implications of "asking a girl out" vs. "hanging out" with on. In today's culture girls play a lot more complicated games with guys. You can't ask a girl on a "date" and call it that to her face, not unless you are really confident she will say yes otherwise it can come off as way too strong. Not to mention it adds more pressure during the date. Gone are the times where you court a girl formally. With the rise of feminism to it's current levels we men are forced to "give the girls options" by asking them to hang out, giving them the opportunity to say "I'm busy" instead of a simple no thank you allowing them to save face.

Not to mention for some reason the lingo has changed back when I was growing up a relationship was serious and dating was casual. Yet ask some couples today who have been together for a year and they will tell you they are "dating" and not "in a relationship. " Dating to me is casual and going on multiple dates. I used to ask girls out on dates, and either get rejected or if the girl didn't want to go on another one she would become the busiest person I know. Yet if you are just hanging out, it's more acceptable to be "busy" all the time. Basically it has made it easier for both genders to get out of it while being extremely non-confrontational or direct about the situation. This has become very prevailing in America lately.

It's not the age group, it's just a sign of the times. People these days are used to having everything right away. So, some guys will look at planning a date as being too much trouble because of the time involved.

It seems to me that there's a danger of overdoing things. Unless we are talking about dating within an established relationship, a guy puts himself in danger of coming on too strongly.

When I was younger I tried the approach of putting together a full date, bringing flowers, being that type of guy. Totally bad results.

I think the difference comes down to this: would you want a guy whom you're mildly interested in to go all out? Most guys have been in that spot with some girl, tried the full-on Gatsby approach, and been rejected. And being rejected when you truly tried your best is way worse than when you didn't. The thing is when considering dating and what guys should do, women often think about what the hot, attractive guy should do, forgetting the others who did do that but lacked the right I don't know whatever you women look for and refer to as "confidence. "

Because girls play games, has been my experience when I asked out a girl, it was always one excuse or another so basically I myself gave up not much desire to date or ask out girl at all really, I did it when I was younger and stupid . Ha ha ha

When you are presented with lies and games, and being jerked around that really tends to turn someone off big time at least for me that's the case, pretty much have had all bad experiences so huge turn off but then again I don't think I am like most guys in a lot of respects not just with dating or asking a girl out or rather not asking .

Its not your age group . Say you're a girl who likes to party, if I took you out on a very special date I would feel like I'm working too hard(even tho every gentleman should) to get you to like me as much or more than just some guy you met in a club . If you are a nice, good girl, everyone would feel honored to take you out on one of those dates, and if your guy doesn't take you out on a really nice date he just probably doesn't have the money, time, mood, etc .

Unfortunately, a lot of guys aren't taught from an early age, by parents and others, to be chivalrous and protective of women. The "women are the same as men" mentality doesn't help, either! Women are the same as men in abilities, but not the same biologically. As much as a lot of women would like to deny it, there are physiological differences between the sexes. The point I'm trying to make here, is that society, in the name of equality, has blurred these differences. Therefore guys are brought up to treat girls the same as guys. This is what has almost killed chivalry and that "women need protected" feeling in men. Why protect someone who is equally able to do it yourselves? This is translated into letting women open their own doors, walk where they want to on the sidewalk (those who know old-time chivalry will get that one), and the '"who needs to worry about a date?"attitude. I know I'm treading on thin ice here, and I apologize if my comments have offended any women out there! From what I've seen, you guys are much superior to us guys intellectually, anyway!

Some guys must do?

"hanging out" entails so much less pressure than going on a date. Personally, it's less stressful when it doesn't seem like a huge deal. I'd hate to have to say no to a second date, but it's easy to avoid hanging out again. Stops from feelings getting hurt though, well. As much anyway.

I agree with lovebird01.

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Some guys are just looking to get laid and would rather not bother spending money on a girl he doesn't plan on really dating, so "hanging out" is the better option.

(not to offend the men. But there are a lot of people out there like that. Guys and girls,but especially guys).

Women are more independent nowadays and sometimes get offended if the guy does all the thinking for her. So I think that being aware of this makes guys more cautious when it comes to chivalry. And when you like someone, just hanging out isn't always a bad thing. It's a more comfortable environment with not as many awkward silences lol hope this helps