Why are black girls the least desirable?

It's not discriminatory or racist, no matter how much you want it to be. It's about personal preferrence.

I know this is an old post but people are still finding and reading it so here:

Black women are some of the most desirable women in the world. That is why we have been mixed with so many races, French, Spanish, Dutch, etc. Why did so many Slave Masters visit the black woman's coveted vagina? Even in her raw beauty of uncombed hair and ragged cloths made from hemp men of all races found her irresistible. Just take a look at history, not His -Story.

Did white mother raise her little white children? No sir, guess who raise her little white babies? Mamie. You want to know why? Not only was the black woman most desirable for her beauty and sexuality but she was also thought to be better suited as mother to young offspring's of little white children. I could go on and on but I don't have the time. I'm sure I'm going to get a lot of hate but just look at history, it tells it's own story. No hot irons, no make up, in some cases not even a bath! so how did some of us get light and damn near white is she is so undesirable.

It's a part of mental slavery and mental bondage that we need to break away from and recognize the black woman for everything she was, everything she is, and everything she will be. Big Dre

Guys, like girls, have their individual ideas of what they find attractive in the opposite sex. As for me, being a Black man, I have dated Black women and can honestly say that the stereotype of Black women being "ghetto fabulous" is not true. Yes there are some who fit the criteria, but I know it doesn't fit the mold for the women I dated. When I was dating black women, I tend to go for the light skinned educated Black woman. Unfortunately, many other Black men seem to go after these type of Black women as well (light skinned.) Many of the Black women I dated often knew this and it created a "diva" like mentality and they often milked it for what it was worth. Once I realized that dating this type of woman was more about how much you were willing to spend on them and not about the romance, I decided to expand my dating pool to other races. I dated White, Hispanic and Asian women, all which have their own set of positives and negatives. I also know that people think Black women have attitudes and other women don't. Let me educate you guys on a little something. If you piss off any woman, she will make it known she is unhappy, though some Black women tend to be a little louder, more confrontational and combative when doing it. Point is all women, and men have attitude. Its part of our personality traits. It just may take a little more to set some of us off than others, but its there.

When I started dating other women besides Black, I found that I saw physical facial features I love in each ethnic group. Don't get me wrong, I think each ethnicity has beautiful women within it, but for the features I was drawn more, led me to lean more toward foreign ethnic women, mostly Asian and Hispanic.

As I see it, with all I have learned I decided that if all women can possess attitude, I wanted to go for the woman who possessed the most facial features I am attracted to. I tend to love women who don't require or use excessive make-up, don't wear contacts to change the color of their eyes, wear their own natural nails instead of the cosmetic nails and wear their own natural hair, instead of weaves.

My best friend, who is also my girlfriend, now fiancée and soon to be wife is Asian and I would ever consider dating anyone else as she completes me. not only does she possess the facial features I love, but our personalities are so close to each other naturally, that we seldom have disagreements.

The bottom line is, since there is beauty in everyone, you need to seek out what makes you look and feel most beautiful about yourself. Once you find that, your esteem will rise and that will resonate to those around you. You can't expect for others to find you beautiful if you have low self esteem. Find what makes you happy and let that be your baseline. It will also help you find out who is most important to you because those who don't like it won't like you any better or worse and those who do will be more than glad to be around and court you

I can see you've opened Pandora's box here, so all the haters can go over the stereotyping again. I live in Sweden (as white as it gets I suppose) so I can't really speak to any American cultural factors. The black and brown (if I can include them) population here stem mainly from eastern African and southern Indian immigrants. They come in all sizes and shapes, the overweight ones attract me as little as overweight white girls do, but fit black girls are usually a joy to watch and behave just fine in my experience. Not that into the big booty thing, but love me some color. Make the question about general demand and there's room for discussion, but the term "most undesirable" is a qualitative assertion that doesn't really help.

Omg lol isn't it obvious. This is obviously a white girl who's lashing out at black girls because her WHITE boyfriend left her for a black girl or either her crush is crushing on a black girl. At first you sounded like a curious white girl but then you changed your tone lmao, what black girl would that low about them selves. I'm a guy and I'm sexy as f*** and white girls love me ...but I'm gay the white guys flock too but I'm more interested in blacks and Mexicans because we're more real. Sorry that's the way I feel.. but honestly at the end of the goshdang day people are going to be attracted to whoever even if they don't act on it. That's just the way it is. :/

I love black girls...They are typically built the best of all races and they are awesome in the bed...I'm white

people date who they're comfortable with.i've never dated a black girl.in fact I've always dated white women and that's what I'm attracted to.blondes.blonde hair,soft looking white skin.a lot of white guys are this way./and preference is NOT the same as racism.fools who claim that are just that..fools.i have nothing against black people ,male or female either one.but the groups I always hung with were white like myself.and by the way,current research ahows that even with interracial dating being more acceptable than it was 20 years ago,that most people still hang with their own,so to speak.most whites still hang with and date whites,blacks hang with and date blacks,etc..the media however,intentionally decieves people into believing that it's much much more common and almost predominantly that way..it's a misconception among many for that reason.and don't forget this most important factor..most people date other people that are within their comfort zone.this is why white dates white,black dates black,etc(mostly)/ let me put this in caps ..PEOPLE DON'T DATE TO BE DIVERSE..that's not the reason most people date.so anyone that says stuff like "people that only date within their own race are narow minded or racist" remember to tell them that most people don't date to be diverse! those that do aren't as interested in dating as they are in being part of a diverse crowd.let me repeat that>>most people DO NOT date for the reason of being diverse .since I've never dated anyone but white,i'd feel a tad bit awkward or shy dating a non white girl and I don't want that kind of feeling while on a date..i'm used to white girls..so that's what I date and that's what I'm attracted to so...

Don't pay attention to the "sewer rat" forums where the participants dis people. That is a favorite sport of the insecure immature and everyone knows it.

I am a white man and I think that it is mostly a peer pressure thing to overlook black girls. In any group of white guys I've been in, it seems that there are one or two that are rather racist and they always seem to be vocal and at least marginally bullying about it. They make it unpleasant enough that it seems not worth it to consider to "cross the color line." Then, there is the potential problem with her friends and relatives.

Black guys seem to hang together and have their own "culture" of speech, music and so on. It is difficult for any young man today to get a career going, or even a decent job. (I have two sons. The oldest at 26 is just starting to get somewhere.) More so for black guys. Many seem to have little or no prospect to support a woman and children.

Some obviously prefer white women, their boldness giving them an advantage with lonely women. I honestly suspect that part of that stems from a desire to "get back at whitey." But, one thing is certain, mixed race people tend to be special people, and if we all mixed races, we would all be a brown, happier bunch of people: no racism!

The black girl who tries to engage another person even once per day over some sort of "current event" (something of interest that just happened), or anything else that might be of common interest, will find her life changing for the better, slowly at first. I doesn't matter who the other person is, but include a boy or white person once in a while. Don't do too much smiling at first.

Also, some boys are not really at home approaching girls, as is well known. I didn't marry until I was 39. So, it all adds up to difficulty unless you have that special gift at hooking up with someone. Don't forget that many of the people that you see so easily getting married ... that's the beginning of their problems.

There are plenty of white girls and women who are not attractive. That's why one who is gets so much attention. It's the same with black girls, from what I can see. I've seen some that it was hard not to stare. But, that's the part that's only for looks. A woman should not want a guy who considers looks too heavily, Being that shallow, when he finds one he thinks he likes better, he'll leave, marriage or not.

I never went against the grain of my own personality makeup. They say, 'Be yourself.' But, sometimes, you have to "be someone else," you have to change and start joining groups, learning how to speak at Toastmasters, learning how to dance, etc., even if it's more "work" than you really want to do. You can do these things without "putting your head on the chopping block," so to speak. And, you don't need to be Sanaa Lathan, either. (Check out her movie, "Something New" if you can.)

Okay, so I would like to think that I am a pretty open guy, and I have found a lot of black women that I am attracted to, and a lot that I'm not attracted to, same with all the races.

The reason for black women to be the least desirable is because of the history and past racism of and towards the black community. Whether we like it or not, deny it or accept it, there will always be racism... past generations were not as open as we are today because for fear of how they may be viewed (which count for a lot back then) but times has changed and we are more open to... "variety" and a lot has to do with influence, I see a lot of answers claiming that black girls are fat, and loud and the list goes on, but they grow up around people like that or who react the same way to certain situations so that's what they are used to but other races would be vibrantly different, I've seen plenty of black girls who are cute and shy, and fit... so it's really a clashing culture of communities, what may be acceptable in one community might not fly with another, and we all have our views of "proper" behavior.

The media spits out an image of beauty so products would sell and apparently our society eats it up and the result is some of the most unattractive women I've ever seen.. for me personally the most unattractive women out there are the ones trying to be something they are not so they can fit in or because of something they saw on TV or whatever the case it's just over done and over used and in denial *shivers*

but "Beauty" is really in the eye of the beholder and I've behold some pretty freaking gorgeous black women, and some really unattractive ones whose behavior are just improper by my standards.. but just remember no race is a whole... there are fugly White women, and omg wtf is that!? Spanish women, and don't come near me Asian women.. but needless to say there are extremely beautiful women of them all as well

in the end it's just that since you go to school in an area with mostly white guys, it's really just a clash of culture and residue of history... just be real, and love truly, and even the most beautiful girl in your school can't compare

Hello Dear!
Color of skin is just melatonin accumulated due to external conditions. we are all just humans on planet earth. Our genetical make up is identical and so it is our source.
Furthermore no race is pure. According to geneticists Greenlanders are the purest in the planet, and they have had many mixes as well.
We are all racially mixed humans with a small minority of other components. Having said this beauty is in the eyes of the beholder and granted we need to avoid the manipulated media that distorts that beauty, photoshops it and makes everyone that allows it feel that it is never enough and improper or unattractive, too fat, too old, to short, too white, too dark, etc etc.
If you agree/feel the same way, then do not support it, read it watch it.
Be yourself, I am sure you are beautiful and there are many out there that will consider that too. Love and be yourself the rest will happen organically. Maybe you just live in the wrong area, consider moving out of there. Blessings, love and light fellow human. I love the divinity in you. Cheers, Leo

Okay, I have been "with" many many black girls, and I find them to be really beautiful and fun to be with as long as everything is going well.
Then when something goes wrong, or they don't get what they want, or they feel somehow disrespected, they go crazy. Now I don't mean crazy like yelling and telling you off and walking away, no they want to try to Pysically hurt you, and they sometimes turn into unhinged rage monsters.
If you want respect, you must give respect, Right ?
I've been with the most beautiful girls and it's all good until somekind of competition comes along...another pretty girl...next thing you know she wants to kick off her 6" heels and brawl !
I can deal with loud and dopey ... saying the wrong things... yes , but these girls need to realize that no matter what happens you still need to act like a lady. That is going to send the loudest alarm as to what kind of person you are. Noone wants a Psycho time-bomb. As far as fat... I like a full-figure...but not a cow, that's a turn off. So sorry if you haven't found someone, Everyone deserves to be happy. As long as you act like yourself you'll be fine. Good luck to you.
Ciao...Anthony

I can rank what I find to turn me off about black women:
1. Attitude (Loud, annoying, rude)
2. Hair (I know you can't do anything about it, but it just turns me off, I like straight hair.)
3. Facial features (Regardless of attitude and hair, I find a lot of black women to have unattactive facial features, very wide noses, enormeous mouths, oversized lips, etc.)
4. And the fact that 80% of black women are obese doesn't help the case, makes 80% of black women automatically not desirable.
5. Eyes (I find completely black eyes to be rather boring, but not exactly a turn off, but not as turn on as e.g. blue/green/hazel eyes. But there are black women with lighter brown eyes, which can be attractive.)

I know three of these are genetical, and can't be done anything about, but the main factor is the attitude.

If a black woman acts "white," has NICELY straightened hair, good facial features (not enormeous mouths and teeth), is not morbidly obese and has lighter eyes, she could very well be my dream woman, the perfect 10.

So I'm not by any means racist, if a black woman fullfils beforementioned criterias she can be extremely attractive, it's just that only a very small portion does.

PS. I'm European, and where I live there are not a lot of black women, so part of my attraction to black women could be credited to the fact that black women are rather exotic to me, and that's a huge turn on. But if I were to live around black girls for an extended period, this exotic feel would probably go away, I don't know.

But to those of you blaming it on the media, when I went to the US, I actually had higher expectations of black women from the media than I found to be true. So I don't think the media portrays black women as ugly, rather the opposite.

f*** what them racist ass people say. I love me some chocolate.

Me white from philly mostly white part love black girls I love there booty body shape how there real all but there hair And what I don't like is how their hair is most of the time more important then any moment I'm engaged To a black women and I love ever thing about her

OK, you want honesty? First off, black girls are very rough around the edges--physically and mentally. A vast majority of black females are "thick" and heavy. Ladies, there's a difference between being curvy and just being plain fat. And just because you have a "big" butt does not mean it is attractive. There's a difference between a full, tone butt and just a big fat butt. I also understand that black hair is way different than other race's hair--just the physical nature of it which cannot be controlled. So then black girls style their hair via weaves, dreads, or just extremely short. I'm sorry, I like hair that is long, flowing and radiant--so hair is a major turn off for me when it comes to black girls. And I realize nothing can be done about it. Also, no offense, but some of the facial features of black girls are just rough and some guys find it hard to get past that.

But see, the physical characteristics that turn me off wouldn't be such a turnoff if black girls were more polite, and (how do I say this?) quiet. I mean there is a line between loquacious/friendly and flat out obnoxious. No one wants to hear your mastery of ebonics in the loudest manner possible. I think ebonics is a way for black people to somehow retain some cultural identity (which is fine) and it might sound cool to them, but trust me, it does not sound good to the casual white guy. The ghetto sound is weird. And, honestly, the attitude of some black girls is what really gets me. They seem to always be into drama. They always seem to have something negative to say. When talking with black girls, it's sometimes hard to tell if they are serious or if they are joking. It's alright for them to use questionable language and phrases, but not alright for anyone else.

Long story short, if you are a black girl and desire a normal white guy, you might want to try to look white and act white. I know that sounds terribly insensitive, but that's the way I see it. I wouldn't worry about it though. You are what you are and it shouldn't be a hinderance to your self-esteem (coming from a ginger). Go out and do what you want with who you want and don't worry. Happiness is most desirable.

I think you're worried about nothing. I don't know you, and I don't know who they kids that go to your school are, but I'm a young man, and through high school I dated a few black and mixed girls. I actually have never dated a white girl (not that it matters) but I just felt like most white girls were bitches (in their attitude). I found a very beautiful mixed girl my senior year in high school, and we dated, and really got to know each other..
I think women are beautiful regardless of race, but it's not even what's on the outside.. it's what's on the inside. From what I can tell, you're very pretty and intelligent. Stick to your studies and I'm sure one day you'll find a good man. God bless!

At the end of the day all the human race came out of a Black woman she is the first woman of Creation,In the Holy Bible King Solomon Sings a song about the Beauty of a Black woman,all nations have Health and Beauty,But the Black woman stands out with hers as she has The Original Touch of class as I said Life it self began in Africa the Black Woman is the Mother of Creation ,why try to put her down when she gave you all life?

Honestly. I'm a white guy, well mostly white with a bit Greek tan lol. But if I'm very honest, I don't find black women attractive. And maybe 2 I fought yer there hot, but then I think about fact id have to be around a black family and I've found most black men are bully's and thugs. So ether way I stay clear. Black guys only like white girls because they give blow jobs where most black girls don't.
same as black guys won't go down on a girl where white guys do, hence more black women going for white guys. That's my opinion

I am pissed the F off and I'm going to say why. Quite honestly nothing annoys me more in these types of discussions than the "not all black women are like that" cop out. That's really all it is, a cop out. It doesn't have to be ALL black women..the keyword is MOST black women and yes that's an awful freaking lot who fit into the reasons why no man will go near them including black ones.

First things first, black women need to get over this stupid "I need a black man this, I need a black man that, black men black men black men!" You never hear any, and I mean ANY other race of woman talk like this. Black women are so narrow minded which men like myself find very unattractive. I get that you are really attracted to men who share a similar ethnic background as you but why does that have to be the be all end all as far as who you'll date? Then in an effort to be with this so called "good black man" you pick some jackass whose been incarcerated and has 5 kids with 4 different women.

Second thing, and I don't know if anyone reading this noticed this, but the black women who take super good care of themselves by showering and relaxing their hair to look supermodel pretty almost ALWAYS go for white guys only unless she meets a pro athlete black man. And unfortunately, as others here have said, white guys generally don't want black women because of the stares/comments from ignorant black people and stupid narrow minded white people.

The third point I'd like to make is something black women never want to admit. They treated everyone like sh*t during their grade school years. Do you think any black woman was going crazy over Tiger Woods before he became rich and famous? Psh no. They wanted someone dark skinned, thuggish, tall, and preferably dumb as hell. Any intelligent black guy growing up, he was ignored and made fun of for being smart and "white washed". White guys, ignored. Asian guys, ignored. Looking back on that treatment throughout the years as a kid/teenager, why would any guy be attracted to someone who ridiculed him ignored him throughout his growing up years?

Fourth and last point, let's talk about the looks. Some guys like the natural look, some like the relaxed hair look. I personally like the relaxed hair because women with short hair look dyke-ey and manly. Unfortunately that is more so the case for black women because they and their men share the same facial features and short hair can make it a little uncomfortable to figure out if it's a man or a woman. Never ever ever wear those stupid blue contacts, it looks retarded. Your red and blond weaves look equally as retarded.

Learn to take care of yourselves and be feminine, black girls, and maybe more men will not think twice about approaching you. I could go on and on about the attitudes but I think that's been said enough here. Black women are the least attractive because they market themselves as unattractive.

Its because black women are BLACK women… Black women are actually hot :/ but the media is racist and prtrays them in the worst way possible. The media portrays ALL black people in the worse way possible. The on station that actually shows hot black girls and respects black culture is BET sense that station is ran by black people… This is the country we live in, because in Europe, many countries in Europe, their media doesn't beat up on black people the way American media does… Only in America :/

Wow,
I could write a book on this answer. However, I don't have a lot of time so I'll be brief. I'm 50 yo and of mixed background. I've been called Puerto Rican my whole life, but am not Hispanic or Latin at all. I've dated many women, and some were Black. I have to agree with a lot of guys here that it IS the attitude of the American Black woman which is the big turn-off and the "kiss-of-death" to the relationship.
I was married to an American Black women, and had a son by her. I got divorced only after one year. Mostly because of her asinine attitude. I once dated one of the most beautiful African-American women I ever met. Skin was like silk, perfect hair, and a size four. When we would dress up and go out together, people would just gasp sometimes when they saw us because of how frigging awesome we looked. However, she was a lousy mother to her kids, was lazy, hated school, totally screwed up with the J.W. religion, the worst housekeeper I ever met, and the list just keeps on going from there. I could put up with a lot of that and I did. However one time when it came down to a very big decision I asked her to make. We had to leave an area where there was a lot of trouble starting, and I asked her to trust me because she was too wrapped up into the situation to think straight, and she didn't. She just gave me more of her screwed-up attitude. I knew then and there we could never stay together seriously, despite all of her flaws.
I recently dated an American Black girl, who thought she was too good for me. She was a user, and only wanted material things. She never wanted to give, only take. It was her damn attitude that made me break it off with her.
I met a Black African girl in Europe. She is amazing. A totally 180 degree shift in attitude from an American Black girl. Too much to get into here, but I have to say, and I'm serious, it is the attitude that keeps the men away from the American Black woman! Sorry, but you asked for the truth.
Thanks for reading.

Honestly I find VERY FEW black women attractive. First off, the attitudes of the majority of black woman I have been in contact with are disgusting! They seem to be always trying to start drama and hating on everyone, even trying to fight people! And they do the same things in front of their children and continue the cycle. The majority of the people I know agree that this is the key for finding black woman unnatractive! Physically speaking, I am turned off by large noses, sideburns, and the biggest flaw is the oily slimy hair.

I'm Colombian, I'm 31 years old, and from my personal experience I prefer to be only with Colombian women, no cultural clashes, no conflicting views etc. my problem is not with black females per se. My problem is with the great majority of American Black females. I had this professor from Jamaica in her late 40's and let me tell you, I was not the only guy in the lecture who wanted to to jump her bones. Asides from being incredibly beautiful and sexy, she had the darkest skin I'd ever seen. But it was the way she handled herself in the world. The way she spoke, very softly and very proper. She definitely gave all black and white girls a run for her money, andI remember clearly, she was married to a Scottish guy. I think what you need to do is travel, as it was suggested earlier, inmerse yourself into other cultures, become a sponge of knowledge, and crave knowledge and learning new things as if it was the most potent of drugs. My problem is really the Americanization of cultures. The rest of theo world wants so much to be like this country and I don't really see why. To me the biggest killer is the way many black girls speak. If I hear just once the word "axe a question" out of your mouth, forget it, that will be enough for me to not want anything to do with you. That to me is a big sign of lazyness and poor education. Also, I understand there is pride in being curvy, and I commend girls for it, but a totally different thing is to have your gut stick out, wear high cut blouses, and call that sexy... You kind of have an idea of what is it that I find unatractive. Oh and before you call me a racist, married a black woman from the northen coast of Guajira in Colombia and we have twins. Two little walking nuclear bombs.

I'm mixed Hispanic and white and I have dated a few black girls before marrying a Hispanic female with black features. :)

Attitude kills it. There are many Black females that make it bad for the rest. It's the really ghetto ones that go all cobra in public and humiliate a man. These certain woman also disrespect men and are overbearing. It's a large percentage of Black American women. Foreign black women often do not share these traits. All my black male friends don't like the drama or BS. This generalization that looms around all Black American women will remain until there is a major shift in the culture. It's a shame that this flag goes up for all black women, even foreign ones. The Meme that drives it needs to be severed but is highly unlikely that this will ever change. The way I see this changing is when the American mixing pot is stirred so much there is no black or white and everyone is just different shades of brown.

My advice to you is to travel. Acculturate yourself to as many cultures as possible. Travel to Africa and experience the people. If that's not possible for you at this time meet people online. Too many years of bitterness is caused by the byproduct of slavery generations ago. Growing up Black in America can jade someone I imagine, it's time to shed all that mess.

Now that attitude is addressed next would be aesthetics. I've always liked black women to look black. Blond hair? Really?... Don't wear blue contacts. Don't over do ornamentation. Keep it classy and carry yourself like you're worth $1M. Maintain your skin, cocoa butter stinks with sweat so use something else. Don't look like Little Kim in 90s. I love me the Kelly Rawlings look. If you can't grow long hair then don't, and don't fake it. If you have a voluptuous rump don't hang it out, accentuate it with some properly fitted pants that cover yet accentuate.

Bottom line, Classy and Dignified. Always keep your cool. Don't Cobra.

Oh and try different kinds of dudes. Why not, this is the 21st century.

I can tell ya a few things that might shed some light on the subject . I'm pretty sure that black women out number their men , which is a very important difference as compared to the white experience ! Being that for a black dude ...women are easier to find , many blacks live in the city , they grow up with only a mother ( often ) so they are more comfortable talking to girls a lot of the time , they seem to share the same jobs as women , more often than than white guys do . Also ...I guess , ( as many times growing up with only a mother ) can cause them to take women for granted , not respect them , and maybe they just have it too damn good ( as far as women are concerned ) spoiled rotten ! just my observations , and opinion
Now if you're talking about white guys . I ( for one ) don't believe in race mixing ; Bad money ! Too much bad blood between black and white for that ! ( ya can thank the liberals and their freakin' shameless meddling for a lot of it ! ) But if ya are feeling " on the outs " with the whites guys ...Its because people are SUPPOSED to like their OWN better ! I know you are only young , and TV and the media try to make life out to be a certain way , ( but its not real life ,even though many people buy into it ! ) I'll stop there ( being that you are young ) I'm guessin' you're hatin' me already ...lol that's alright Just make sure that YOU like YOU , and everything will be OK in the end !

Hi
I am a 50YO guy dating a stunning black girl from south Africa. For me I never would have thought about it in the states, but living in Europe and SA my views changed. They acted like everyone else, proper grammar, not over wieght for the most part, well educated, dressed stunning, and very beautiful women in general. I do not know what happened to American black women, with the attitude, poor English, image etc. but for the most part I do not like American white women either, they are provincial in Thierry view points, dress like slobs (not all) but most do, and seem to look down on men.
Me, I am going to marry her, even though she is 20 years younger, she has it all together and is a loving woman with a wonderful voice and attitude
Ron

whut the f*** are you talking about , black girl are the most spontaneous and I shouldn't have to mention the body they possess . so quit thinking you ain't cute and pretty . I am an architect and all my customised characters in game are black . black skin is liek silver it reflects liek a black shield. peace .

First of all I'm a Middle Eastern Australian and just bumped into your question.

I think you need to cheer up a bit and believe in yourself - be yourself and be proud of who you are and regarding your love life it's all about the right time and person and it will come to that whenever time ticks in ... please disregard some of the guys' offensive comments, I think it has a lot to do with the way American culture and stereotypes of different races that makes African American males more prone to inter-racially date than their female counterparts
Most white boys would feel insecure about their manhood with ethnic girls except for Asian girls that's another reason which is applicable more in American culture, in Europe for instance especially in non Anglo-Saxon countries, people with dark complexion of both sexes are as equally desired in relationships as their white counterparts.

I think US Media need to work on changing their stupid stereotype of black American being either Sports champs, MC's, war heroes , or else just losers and junkies

Why black women are less desirable:
- Facial features such as wide thick lips, big flat noses, hairlines that are farther back remind me of gorillas
- Muscular bodies and darker skin tones more masculine. I don't want to feel like I'm dating one of my male friends or have to worry about getting beaten up by black girlfriend.
- Most black people including women have "tough" attitudes as result of their social environment and do not study hard at school or go onto higher education.
- Most in denial about being overweight or obese because it is the norm. I don't want to be crushed or suffocated to death one day if black girlfriend sits on me.
- Fear of contracting a STD because black women more sexually active, and fear of being cheated on
- Fake hair or chemical treated hair. I just feel like it's untouchable and too high maintenance.
- Very long fake nails which reminds me of claws.
- Fear of getting sucked into dealing with another person's debts or dysfunctional family
- Media has created negative stigma
- Most prefer to date within their own ethnicity. In black people, there is too much supply and lack of demand (black men mostly in jail)

Again, most people prefer to date within their own ethnicity. Unfortunately for you black ladies, many black men are incarcerated. I feel that this is most likely the reason for why you ladies feel least desirable but I'm sure among black men you actually are considered very attractive. We men also decide whether or not we think a person is attractive in the first few seconds we see them and then decide whether or not we want to date them. This doesn't mean that we won't change our minds later after getting to know you better so landing yourself a non black boyfriend is possible. Anyways, here is what I do find attractive in some black women I have met over the years as a white man:
- Black woman who speaks in English clearly instead of slang
- Someone who is respectful and not rude or have a "tough" attitude
- Confidence but not overconfidence
- Does not wear clothes that are skin tight or too revealing
- Someone who is smart enough to study hard in school for their future like you!

What it is about black girls that's so unattractive? Absolutely nothing ..They are sexy...Come to Europe and you get a lot of interest from white guys:-)

Dear Beautiful Girl,

I say that knowing in my mature years that beauty comes from somewhere inside of us all. Your words describing such tender thoughts are compelling. As a black man, I used to think when I was a very young man aged 17, why black men were treated so inferior. I'd look on the television and see a sports figure like Jim Brown, or Muhammed Ali, and I'd say to myself wow, there the strongest, and the fastest and still that doubt somewhere along the way would creep back. When I joined the Marines (the best),I never saw any drill instructor make any mistakes in 90 days, black, white, or Hispanic. And you know what, it sure seemed like the black drill instructors had just a little more swagger. I studied Black History and found countless intellectual giants who were Black men.

In those days really not long ago, The '60's-'70's, we had a certain level of pride within our communities. It would be scandalous for teenage pregnancy, dropping out of school, or the disgraceful acts that have become so normal today. Part of the beauty of any creature is it's mystique.I'll never forget when Vanessa Williams won Miss Black America. We (me and my girlfriend) were watching very closely, the talent events 'she was the best', the swimsuit event,'she was the best',the interview 'she was the best', and class, man 'she was the best'. But you know, after every event in that contest, even though we both knew 'she was the best',that doubt would creep back and a quiet voice in my mind would say, ' she ain't gone win'.

Well she did, and man we were jumping up and down like crazy. Shortly after the contests a scandal broke, and Ms. Williams was stripped of her crown. It still hurts me a little to remember that disappointment.

Baby girl, maintain your dignity, learn how to appreciate the best things in life and different peoples. Get and keep a certain virtuosity about yourself, EVERYBODY LOVES A QUEEN.

i've read all these posts.imo it comes down to preference...period/i'm a white male who only dates women within my own race.and by the way anyone who creates an imaginary scenario in reply like
"really?what if a black girl...yada yada yada..would you consider dating her?"

is just looking to call or prove someone a racist/that's exactly where verbal replies in the way of scenarios come from/
i date within my own race as most people do.it's interesting to note how the media attempts to imply that most people or at least half,date interracially..even though its 2012 ,most people still date others that are of the same race/.most blacks date blacks,most whites date whites ,etc//

just as most people generally hang out with people of the same race.i think it's funny when someone implies that most people are racially diverse in the company they keep..that's totally not true/ dating and hanging interracially isn't as a humongous thing as media (movies and TV shows) likes to imply/i don't believe that most black guys date outside their race.i think it stands out to the women of their race when they do however.myself? I definitely like the pink parts of the female and the white skin accentuates those areas and makes them more appealing to my senses(lusts).that's a lot of white men that feel this way.this is why blondes have more fun so to speak./ I think the issue is preference and everyone has it.if not then they have no standards so to speak .it's comical to me when someone bashes preference as being discrimination..if I just so much as choose eggs over ham for dinner I'm being discrminatory.if I choose to date a brunette over a blond I'm being discriminatory.i don't date for the sake of being versatile.i date who I feel comfortable with and am attracted to ./if I want to date somebody, basing my experience or choice on versatility ,i'll move to china..i'm attracted to Asian women as well as blondes.but definitely not much else.dating has nothing to do with versatlity unless that's the reason your dating..to experience different lifestyles and foods and cultures.hell if that's what I decide to do,i'll move to Europe.but I'm looking for a girl that I'm attracted to ,to feel comfortable with have fun with.not to share culture and trade "we are the world" discussions with.


why you're seeing white guys and black guys dating more form the lighter gene pool I'm not truly certain.white guys will mostly date girls they feel comfortable with,meaning white girls.as I said,most people don't date for the sake of being versatile or diverse.in fact that's a rather stupid reason to date imo. I don't know why black men ,as a majority date outside their own race(and I'm not convinced they do).i've read here that white girls act different than black girls.i don't truly know if that's true but maybe white girls act differently than black girls.i'm not an expert but I suggest you take note of it when in public..it may not help but it can't hurt either

White guys are not afraid or intimidated by black women.

Women don't find aggressive, narrow minded, dumb guys of any race attractive, so why would it be other way around?

Same goes for physical part - I love big round butts and thick thighs and crazy curly hair.
But black women are just not feminine in the way they look, think or behave.
Why would a guy who is not gay be attracted to that?

Post me a link to an attractive black (not obviously mixed) women..

Ok here's a good way to look at it. It's logical that if black girls are less successful in the dating world than non-black girls, then males (of whatever color) are less attracted to them. Let's be real here. Let's be scientific, objective, observe the populations as a whole, leave our own personal preferences aside, and not be so concerned about the human factor (sensitivity and political correctness). It sucks, but the reality is that black girls are less desirable. The original question was "I would like to know what it is about black girls that's so unattractive?", not something like "Do YOU think black girls are attractive?". The person asking the question is already living through this situation, hence she is asking us this.

So the answer to the question - Black girls are relatively unattractive because homo sapiens prefer lighter skin and features in their mates. Let me go further with this. Traditionally, as animals, men are the hunters. Women don't have to worry about this. Being hunters, men are out in the field or the jungle getting dirty, getting physical, in order to acquire resources. That's why white women prefer a "tan" and strong white man, because it indicates that they are out in the sun. On the other hand, women should be fair of skin, since they are physically weaker and take care of offspring, and thus not out in the sun. Men also prefer thinner (but not too thin) women due to a similar concept; a fat woman indicates an abundance of resources, and thus no dependence on a man to 'hunt' for her.

I believe that's the answer. About your self esteem, don't be blue about it, though it will be hard sometimes. The color of your skin is never going to change. In my opinion, the best thing you can do is work hard and educate yourself. Become valuable to society in whatever way you want. There's a lot of other negative stereotypes about the black community (men and women) that still exist. There are a lot of well respected black women out there in the United States and all over the world. Strive to become one of them, and dating will be easier. You can always say that it isn't fair that white women will have easier lives. But life's not fair. And you have a much better life filled with opportunities than many of your African counterparts. You have the right idea about staying focused on academia. All you can do is change yourself, and if enough members of the black community step up then the world around them will hopefully finally accept them as social and economic equals.

I'm a 34 year old white guy.

It's probably NOT because they aren't attracted to the color of your skin, facial features, body type, etc.

Some guys (especially non-black guys) are afraid of what other people might think, because of racists that they've encountered in the past who have made them feel insecure about admitting that they are attracted to black women. I think the same thing goes for black women when it comes to dating outside of their own race too. The general population of blacks are just as racist as whites when it comes to seeing their women date outside of their race.

The reason black guys go for white women, Asian women, etc instead of black women, is because they have a fetish. Plain and simple.
Or, they want to try something that they think is taboo (especially considering how racism made white girls etc unattainable to black men for so long in the past). It builds their self esteem to know that they can have women of other races. But although it has become more accepted for black men to date outside of their race, black men still expect black women to keep to their own - which isn't fair.

Finally, there's the whole 'ghetto' stereotype that stops some people from dating black women. Also, some guys are afraid because they've heard how high the AIDS rate is in the black community and guys love to sleep around - so it scares them. That could be a factor as well. Even though realistically, the chances of getting AIDS from ANYONE is about 1 in 2000. Even if you sleep with someone who has AIDS unprotected, the odds of getting it are 1 in 200. (Of course these figures are only estimates made by researchers).

However, I personally think black girls are superior to all other women. Because they are the most unique women on the planet. You can't get much more different than a black girl. So beautiful. So exotic. Black women just drive me crazy. If I met you I would probably be all over you.

So don't feel bad. You're actually the MOST attractive of all women. It's just that non-blacks are still "insecure" about dating black women because of racist bullsh*t, and black guys are too busy chasing the exotic (women of other races that they know were once unattainable to black men). I really think some black men are still insecure about being black because of America's past, so they date other races because it's empowering to them to know that they can get from a white girl for example. To their minds, it's like driving a rolls royce. Little do they know it's the black women who are the rolls royce. :)

So there you have it. That's why I think black women have gotten the short end of the stick in all directions. If you want to change it, start actively seeking men outside your own race and encourage your friends to do the same. (not just for my personal gain haha). Because if more black women did that, the lines between race would start to blur. Putting black girls on a more level playing field.

I am a brazilian guy and I find black women very very good looking in every way I mean their bodies their high cheek bones their full lips and their curvy as hell I would much rather date them then some nasty skinny flat assed white girl I mean white girls are plane .. I love black women but don't get me wrong their are many bad looking black women but most are good looking..and their are many good looking white women but most of them are weird looking they all look the same I can't tell the difference between them ..i like some italian girls..they have bigger butts and better bodies then plane white girls ... any guy that doesent like black women because they say they are ugly its they can't get one they are very hard to get not so easy like white women ..but I'm sure black women won't care if white men like them or not .. most black women don't like white men
anyways

I think I'll choose to remain anonymous, more for my girlfriend's sake, but I have a theory about that (why darker skin is generally taken as less-than desirable). It isn't necessrily anything that black girls "do," or "don't do." I'm a 27 year old white man...primarily...but if you plan on looking at genetix specifics, I'm also very very native American.

Anyway, if you look at the mainstream media, for example, take the precedence of Asians. There are some Asians portrayed, but they are always, always very, very white (Northern). It's unlikely to see a southern Asian, unless they are especially white for their nationality.

The theory is that "the god of this age blinds the minds of unbelievers (the majority)." (2 Corinthians 4:4) It's the very same deception that Hitler fell under...Jesus was very likely of a darker skin-tone.

My girlfriend is a south Asian and I personally think she's the most beautiful thing in the world.

*the following is MY opinion based on MY preference so it makes it neither right or wrong, fact or fiction*.

As a half white and Hispanic male I have found African American women least attractive for a few reasons. I don't like the color of their skin that separates the bottom and top of their feet or how thick the soles of their feet can be. I don't like how ashy their skin can be. While they have great butts their legs and arms can be quite masculine to me. I do find their nipples and areolas to be very sexy because of size and color. I also found their way of speaking made them appear less intelligent and not really attractive TO ME.
Now notice how I said "African American" women and not simply black. This is because I once met a black woman from London and her personality, views and accent because of where she was from and where she was raised TO ME made her incredibly sexy and totally differentiated her from the typical, sassy, head shaking , attitude, can't tell me nothing type of women that I see black women to be here in the USA. I couldn't not get enough of that very dark British Black female. I then realized that the prejudices I had against the way black women looked was highly exaggerated because they were "African American" with all that entightlment attitude I see them as having.
So IMO black women and all their imperfections I saw in them would shrink to almost non exsistance for me if the black woman was not African American.

I think black women are beautiful, including really dark black women. I love the way their mouths look, the way the top lip flattens against their teeth when they smile. I love the roundness of a black woman's butt and the width of her hips, although that is not universal. There are some black women that are flat as boards and there are really curvy women from all different races.

There are some things that many black women do to their appearance that are not attractive, and I think most white men would agree with me. Really long fake nails are gross. I look at them and all I can think about is whether it's possible for you to wipe your ass without getting fecal matter stuck underneath them. Plus they just look unattractive.

Hair is another thing. Fake hair is unacceptable. Chemical warfare hair is okay, but it looks like it would be unpleasant to touch. It also looks like you wouldn't let me touch it, because it has to last. Natural, relaxed hair looks really good. It hides your high forehead rather than accentuates it, and it just looks easier to deal with. I can imagine myself kissing you and running my hand up your neck and into your hair. Moreover, I just like the way natural, springy, semi-afro hair look on black girls.

Also, curvy does not mean fat. Curvy means that your butt and hips are large in proportion to the rest of your body. A round ass and wide hips, aren't the same as the huge ass and have-to-turn-sideways-to-get-through-the-door hips that go along with thunder thighs and an enormous belly.

Another thing is that many white men are intimidated by black men. Many black men act just a little harder and a little more macho than many of us. I'm speaking in general terms here, but I think what I'm saying is often accurate. And black men are just a little bigger than we are too as far as penis size goes. The Lifestyles condom survey indicates that the average black man is half an inch longer than the average white man, which really isn't much, but a lot of white guys have this image of black p*rn stars with enormous penises. Louis CK made a joke about this on his television show. He was asking out a black woman on the subway and he said, "I know that, compared to black men, white men must seem a little gay," and the black girl just looks at him and nods. It was hilarious. A lot of white men look at black girls, and see a long line of well endowed, tough, black men who came before, and it's a hard act to follow. It's our loss. Really speaking from a cold, numerical perspective, with the numbers at which black guys date white girls, an adventurous white man should be able to clean up.

I've read a few of these comments and I think they're a little bit ridiculous.

Some races have a higher percentage of hot women? Really? Or is it just that the United States is ~70% White and ~12% black. In European countries the percentage is much smaller.

So is it that there is a higher percentage of hot white women or is it that they're are simply more white women in the country and there for more hot white women. I would guarantee there are more UGLY white women then ugly black women in the United States, because white women out number black woman significantly.

Also anytime you start off by trying to clarify to people that you are NOT racist, it feels like you're trying to justify something that's about to be racist. Just speak your mind already and if its racist then its racist. For example, if I started off a sentence saying look my best friends black but black people really stink, it doesn't make the sentence any better knowing that you have a black friend. You're still making a generalization about a race of people based on the 3-4 black people you actually know.

Now to my real answer. I'm a white male and I'm married to a black female. We have a son together and are overall happy. In the past I have been with mainly white women with various other races sprinkled in the mix. I don't think that white men are not attracted to black women. I don't think black women are the least desirable.

I believe there's an intimidation factor that plays in whenever you're dealing with a woman outside of your race. You have to step out of your comfort zone quite a bit and that's hard to do. I think there's also a huge cultural factor that plays into it. Even I asked myself what my family would think if I brought back a black woman to our white family. How would she be treated? Would they accept her? Would someone say something racist? Those were all questions I had to deal with.
That makes dating inter-racial very difficult and some people might not find it worth their time.

Bottom line is its more about our society then anything. We need to keep in mind that this is something new to many people. I mean my father (I'm 29) was part of the de-segregation of schools. We've come a very long way in a very short period of time and as my fathers generation dies off and probably mine as well we won't even think of race as an issue anymore.

Doesn't matter black, white, asian, or whatever else. It's all the same at the end of the day. Trust me though when I was single I was all for white men that didn't want anything to do with black women or any other non-white women. It just makes it that much easier for those of us who are open minded about inter-racial dating.

im a white guy and I want to say that not all guys find black girls unattractive. I have noticed that a lot of my white friends disagree with me when I comment on a good looking black girl. but there are many who find black girls exotic and sexy. to answer your question, I think its a societal issue so maybe a socialogist could give you a better answer. it is my belief that the portrayal of black women in media has a negative affect on the subconscious of the majority. I notice that in commercials and movies there often is the one black friend in a group of white girls. I can say this though, black girls are known for their veluprious lips, big juicey bootys, and sexy dark skin and there are a lot of guys who find that attractive. also bare in mind that not all white girls are attractive either. I'm sure that you will meet many men who will appreciate your beauty and I think eventually society will mature past this.

p.s. I stumbled on this site when I googled pretty black girls. we are out there

First of all, I want to say that I'm a 20 year old white male, and that I'm NOT a racist. By that, I mean that I treat people no matter what race the same. It all comes down to character.
So, being a racist has ABSOLUTELY NOTHING to do with sexual desires, what so ever.
It is important that people get this straight, because I get really tired of reading accusations of white guys being racists- based on what they find sexually attractive.

To all girls realding this, the harsh reality is that men focus on a woman's physical appearance at the early stages of bonding intimately with her, or even before considering taking things to the "next level" with her. That's just how we men are.. don't blame us, just blame f***in nature.. I'm not saying that personality isn't important, but to most men, what catches the eye first is VERY crucial...

When it comes to femininity, I know that femininity is relative.. but the way I understood things, the creator of this thread wanted a reason to why "black girls are the least desireable for non black guys".

So as a non black guy I will answer to why I find white women more attractive. Though many men will share my opinion, I must mention that this is a personal answer. Of course, other non blacks will have different opinions than me. As staded a billion times before in this thread, white women TEND to have more feminine features than black women. Like hair texture, pitch of voice, skin texture, general body shape and so on.. they also tend to have a ligther, sweeter body odor. (body odor is very underrated.. if a woman smells good, it's a big BIG plus.. I bet most guys agree with me here...) And there is also something about fair skin. It just appears to be more feminine to me. Wide noses, frizzy hair, rugged skin, bulky body structures, dark voices and so on just doesn't appear SEXY to me. It doesn't give me a hard on... So if anyone want's to call me a racist, you're free to do so. But if you do, I would say that you don't see the big picture..

Just because I don't find a woman sexually appealing, does not mean that I will have a racist attitude towards her! Come on, that's ridiculous..
I know a couple of girls that have great personalities, and on the other hand look butt ugly.. Why the hell whould I treat these girls badly just because I don't find them attractive? Just because I don't want to take a girl with me to bed, doesn't mean that I won't treat her with respect, as a fellow human being! As I said, it all comes down to character..
maybe a little off topic here towards the end.. but still...

I don't think that what you're saying is true. According to the academic research I've read, women of all races have a much stronger preference to date men of the same race than the men do. In other words, it appears women care more about race than men. That's an empirical observation based on online dating preferences.

If that's indeed the case, then black women (in America at least) will suffer from a supply problem. That's because a disproportionately high percentage of young black men are in prison (compared to the population as a whole). That means there will be a "shortage" of black men and if black women as a group indeed prefer to be with black men, there will be a lot of unmarried black women (which you observe). When you say "even black guys don't want to date black women" I doubt that's the case. More likely is that they care less about the race of their partner than the women do (as appears to be the case for men as a group compared to women).

I know I'm coming into this question VERY late, but would love to hear others' thoughts.

On average black women of West African origin aren't as beautiful as other races, doesn't mean there aren't very beautiful black women of different shades. What I don't like is their hair. When they straighten it, they are the problems with touching it or swimming. Some also have very big lips and wide noses what I didn''t like.

Black women from East Africa is a different Story, especially Ethiopia. Nobody who answered hear can deny that these women are one of the most beautiful in the World. I travelled to Ethiopia and ugly or average looking girls are rare (even the hoomeless girls were hot), only saw higher amount of beautiful girls in Latvia and Ukraine. They have thin bodies with perfect hip-waist ratio and bubble butts. Narrow noses, high cheekbones, very very feminine facial features, nice hair, dress very elegant and sexy and have a very femine behaviour. If you want a wife, marry an Ethiopian woman or from other East African countries.

Its not really racial but men usually like Blond hair Blue eye white women basically because well that's what men see as the PERFECT wife and black women don't have many destictive women looks such as a little nose a thiner face and a chin I don't know what is it about the chin but there's a male looking chin and a more femenine

That’s a fascinating question.

I guess it comes down to biology. We are just socializing mammals, and for most of human existence, we’ve only lived in small groups. It’s only been in the last 10,000 years or so (a mere blink of the eye in geological timescales) that we’ve started to live in gatherings of more than a few hundred. Back then every group was competing for the same resources, so it made evolutionary sense to be wary of strangers. If somebody wandered into your village, who looked different from your people, they were considered a threat.

So we are genetically predisposed to be attracted to people who look somewhat like us. And to fear those who are different.

In more recent times we’ve been forced to live in bigger and bigger groups and during the last hundred years, in far more diverse groups. Which means that a lot of us have managed to overcome that predisposition,

Personally, I am a white guy living in a very multi-cultural city. I consider myself to be very liberal, and have friends from all races. I have seen plenty of beautiful Black women, Asian women, Mediterranean women, Arabic women... And I recognise their beauty. But I’m not sexually attracted to it.

But there’s absolutely no denying that deep down inside my brain, that I find girls who look like me more attractive than girls who don’t.

I’m sure that black guys find black girls hotter than others
And Asian dudes dig on Asian chicks.

That’s not to say that some people can’t overcome this programming –thank goodness they do. It makes the world a far more interesting place.

So many responces! This must be a hot topic. In my opinion black women lack the femenine facial structure. E.g. cute little nose, bright colorful eyes, soft silky hair. But a black girls bod, if she at least eats right, has a nice bod! So you win in some categories you loose in some categories.

i know its just a stereotype but a lot of black girls are just loud, like they want everyone to hear what they're saying as if they had some ground-braking discovery or some sh*t.

and a lot of them listen to music that I hate, and they bump it too, its so annoying...

but if I found a back girl that was quiet and respectful and didn't listen to dam lil' wayne, I'd go out with her, if she just wanted to hook up, I'd be down for that too... if I were single, of coarse.

I'm guessing its a race and cultural issue.

Most probably are turned off with the girls from the hood. They form a stereotype that they are all ghetto probably.

Well before I even start to say anything, let me tell you one thing I can tell about you: You are very smart. I can tell by the way you articulate yourself. You're smart. If you find your self confidence, you will be appealing to men, because a smart, confident girl IS pretty.

Okay, with that being said, I should chime in and say I will never and could NEVER date a Black woman. I'm bi-racial (B/W) and I don't find Black women attractive in any way. I can say that it is not because of the "media", as both of my parents taught me not to be indoctrinated into being a media brainwashed child. I don't hate my mom (a Black woman) and I don't hate myself.

I don't understand why it's a problem. And before I say why I won't date a Black woman, let me explain that I know that generalizations don't apply to everyone and not everyone fit stereotypes. When I look at Black women overall, as a whole, I see masculinity. Dark skin is masculine to me, big lips are masculine, having a high muscle mass is masculine to me and I'm not attracted to it. I don't want to look at a woman who looks like ME (not because I "self-hate" but because I'm a MAN), and I don't want to look at a woman who looks like my mother (not because I hate her but because she's my MOM). I don't understand how you tell that one guy "Spartwallis" that he's wrong because he's Black and "he has the same features that are a turn off". Online, I see a lot of Black girls saying that to Black men who don't want a Black girl. Think of it like this: Don't no man want a girl with a PENIS right? Is it self hate? No. I have heavy chest hair, should I get a woman with heavy chest hair so I don't self-hate? Naw it doesn't work like that.

Other than that, it's just that indescribible sexual attraction. I don't have any of that for Black girls. The vaginas look so offputting and the dark nipples, dark labia. The look in their eyes when you are close and intimate isn't the same as with other girls, even their hair and the way they just look when they are intimate is such a turn off. I'm not tryin to be vulgar but I can't get aroused with them. It's not a racial thing though because I'd date anything but a Black woman, I'd go for Asians or Whites or Latinas or Middle Easterners or anything other than a Black girl. It's not that Black girls aren't pretty, it's just that they don't turn ME on ever.

Not to mention the "strong Black woman" problem that has some how found its way from the inner city ghetto to the mainstream and suburban Black society. Notice all these people in here agreeing about Black women havin the most stank attitudes and acting masculine and boorish and aggressive. Even looking at smart, upstanding, educated Black women, the attitude is the same - dominating, aggressive, lack of femininity, so much disdain towards men. Yes, it even applies to those who are not ghetto. I ran out of space, but this is my overall take on Black women. Not all, of course.

Its not like a black girl can't be attractive, its just that so many of them live in the ghettoest places with like huge black guys everywhere so concequencially they all act the same way from an outsiders perspective. There ain't a lot of variety although I know this isn't always the case. I know there exists some others who don't but... wait... I see that ad on your page for an afrocentered dating site. Does the woman in the top right corner have a shiner or is it just me? She honestly looks like she got in a fight with a door and lost. Okay well back to the real issue here. Sometimes it's also about superficial, like if I knock her up, then I'm going to have a half black kid and the kid might have some questions like how come I'm white and mommy is black. Some people want just a mini version of themselves. I actually understand this logic because back in the day when I dreamy of having a family, my kids all would look like me or close to me even colour wise. Guess prejudice still exists.

Thank you for bringing this up because I notice that me and my guy friends are less attracted to black girls too and that there is racism. In addition to racism, Guys like soft, shiny hair, high pitched, quiet female voices, and minimal fat flabs (except for above average but not saggy boobs) because these represent vibrant health and more feminine-ness. Black girls tend to have rough, not so shiny hair, loud, lower pitched voices than white/latino girls and more fat. Also, black girls are suspected to be less likely to take the once monthly birth control shot (which guys want girls, especially black girls, to take because there is a stereotype of the pregnant black girl) then white girls and black girls tend to have less money. Also, black girls have a lower average age of reaching puberty than white girls and there is the assumption that this means that they're more likely to not be a virgin. Sorry, but guys are mean like that.

I have found many black girls attractive, but since I'm very white and nerdy I always have a feeling a black guy is going to kick my @$$ just for talking to a black girl so I haven't ever bothered

I would like to start by stating I am not racist. I find beauty in various women of all ethnic backgrounds. However, I cannot deny that some races have a higher percentage of attractive women than others.

Although I do agree that black women are generally not as attractive as other women, I don't think its a simple matter of skin color. In fact, dark skin is a turn on for me. I've noticed generally ugliness is determined more by body type and facial structure. If you compare faces of people from different countries, there are undeniable differences in placement and size of various bones in the face.

For me, the aesthetic traits most common in the faces of black women are less appealing then those from other races. Another major factor to take into consideration is stereotypes. I'm sure you know what I mean. Big butts, loud demanding attitudes, uneducated, etc.. I realize that not every black women fits the stereotypes, but there are a lot who do.

There are plenty of black women who don't fit the stereotypes and are quite beautiful. I'm pretty sure most people can agree on this. If you are "pretty compared to most black girls" as you say, I'm sure you're pretty compared to anyone else. If you don't fit the stereotypes, are pretty, and have trouble finding a boyfriend... You might try being a little big more aggressive. Show that guy you like that you are not like all those black women who give you a bad name.

My apologies if you find this offensive. I am just trying to be honest. Again, I am not racist and there are many black women who I find to be very sexy.

it not about they way the look its more about they way they act HEY you should wacth this movie it gives a great example but not black woman are like but this movies speaks for a good percent of them the movies is called DIARY OF A TIRED BLACK MAN

What are you talking about? Some black girls are SUPER HOT !

I'm a 33 yo white male and I find quite a few black women very attractive. However, I have never approached a black woman in a flirtatious way because I always figure they don't want anything to do with a white guy. Sounds crazy, but it's true. I tend to stick with preppy white girls that wear too much pink, but one of my biggest fantasies is to hook up with a black girl.

its rare I post up my view points online but this is a must. I find that latin, middle eastern and north African women are the most beautiful races by far in terms of hair type, NATURAL caramel/brown tone, features, shape and NOT UGLY FINGERS AND TOES cough. I honestly love ALL people but I can never get myself to ever be attracted to black women. I know its wrong but I just can not. I feel the only black women I can date and have found attractive are the mixed raced either being half asian or half white. mixed raced with white/brown can be very attractive which the main features I found juicy were the 'thick thighs thin waist' or with light skin ones to have unique features. but in comparison to middle eastern and latin women? I personally think NOT A CHANCE. my mother always told me that every race is beautiful and blessed in their own ways. I just did not seem to find it within full race black women.

I know PLENTY of white men that are attracted to black women. Attraction is in the eye of the beholder because everyone interprets and puts meaning to things differently. It's not like certain people are pretty than others, because attraction is relative.

personally I find them very attractive, the thing is they seem to be the most isolated group of females, except for the "white washed" ones they usually hang out in their own posse, although they are obviously exceptions , they don't usually venture out of their comfort zone, they wait to be approached by guys instead of approaching them themselves, and if they do , usually only black guys, and the media usually portrays them in a bad light, they are either they crazy ghetto fabulous chicks on the news or they are music video groupies, american media at least european media is a little different with a lot more innterracial dating, me personally I find all ethinicites beautiful, even had a stage where I had a stronger interest in black women , to me gabrielle union and leona lewis are the most beautiful girls in the world, but yea at the end of the day, looking past social stigmas, if a black girl is cute and level headed then most of the time she's going to be considered a hottie, but that doesn't mean that all black women have to be beautfiul, ethnicity doesn't come into play in beauty

Not true at all. Black girls are generally regarded as the most desirable I've found. I guess its in part due to there being a disproportionate amount of famous black people to real black people out in the general public. That and their tendancy for t*ts, lips and arse.

And I agree they're certainly up there.

To me it's because of stereotypes like the "mad fat black woman" or just "The mad black woman". They are portrayed as very intimidating, with anger management issues.

I don't like black womens personalities.


Im white and I like white girls.

This is a silly article. I have never heard anyone say point blank that black women are the most undesirable for any man.

I personally think all women are beautiful, well, except for maybe Orientals. But that is just personal taste.

I happen to think black women are very pretty, if they are indeed pretty.

What drives me nuts are women who can't except the fact that they are not pretty, and they try to convince themselves that they are. And they go over board trying to get a man to take notice of them.

Race & color have nothing to do with looks. Some of the most beautiful women in the world are brown skinned, and for me, the darker the better!

- A white man

Im a non-black guy. I can see many reasons why black women aren't desirable. First, most people stay with their own and that's a fact. Second, in this country the alphas are the white woman and white man. When I see Spiderman for example, the movie, who is the girl, the gorgeous girl he tries to get? Its a red head, Kirsten Dunst or whatever. Men generally go off of appearance and so , in a way, they are more racist than women. People also go for prototypical , or familiar looking faces, so a chinese girl for example with really slanty eyes will probably not do so well either. The color is a turn off, as beauty is usually associated with lighter skin. Also, I was watching Zach and Miri make a p*rno, and the black wife was like the typical henpecking witch that they are usually portrayed as. I agree with the other poster that they come off as less effeminate. They also seem to come off as golddiggers too.

I see where you are coming from. I personally think black girls are gorgeous. One of my best friends and first crushes is black, I still have feelings for her and we hang out almost every Tuesday. I never actually asked her out tho, not because she wasn't pretty or anything at all. It was her dad. For some reason Black Male Fathers always "appear" threatening to a lot of people whether they want to admit it or not.

First of all, who told told you that black women are ugly?! You do not let anyone else tell you what you are, you simply and proudly be who and what you want to be.

It is true that mostly what you see on t.v. is mostly white women, but that is the racist neglect of Hollywood. However, neither should Hollywood dictate to you how beautiful you are.

If others can not deal with the strength and beauty that black women have that is their problem.

Certainly there are black women who do not take care of themselves, that is very unattractive, however, I have seen it in every race, and it is just as unattractive.

From the lightest of the light to the darkest of the dark skinned black women, from their beautiful sexy hair and their fine sculpted bodies which God gave only to black women. Black women are simply gorgeous.

You can throw out most of this trash these people are talking about, especially Taylor 4000, who is he Doctor Ruth Jr. He sounds extremely stupid. Black women have very soft skin and in every facet he mentioned the tonal qualities and color are based upon genetic make up. So therefore, why hold something against someone beyond their control, heck, you not going to see those areas but a few moments at a time anyway. WORD! Just because you listen to R&B does not mean you are not a racist, R&B music is just something you may tolerate. Nothing defines any of us, except the way we treat others.

I believe God did a masterful job on all women, but, for me, He put something in a black woman that no other woman has. I can not put my finger on it, I just know that I love it.

Now, I will say that over all, I have heard a many conversations from all sorts of women and unfortunately black women are the least likely to do whatever it takes to please their man. Now, I am not talking about being a fool for someone, I am simply saying that when you really love someone and it is mutual, there are no limits to what both parties ought to do to satiate each other. But, more often than not, black women tend not to compromise as easily as other races. Attitude will make or break any and every facet of life.

I am a light skinned black man. I have been married to my beautiful black wife for seventeen years. We have a beautiful marriage. I have never cheated on her and I never will. Remember, you have to make a conscience choice to cheat. It does not happen by accident, that is how I can say I never will, because I do not desire to.

We do have disagreements, but we do not get loud and bash each other, we always show respect under all circumstances.

Well, in conclusion, I love my blackness, I love my black women (in general), I think all race of women are beautiful. I LOVE LIFE.

I hope this gives you some positive insight from another perspective.

GOOD LUCK

Well, I'm attracted to women of all races and cultures (as long as they fit what I look for). I like black women too, but yeah most of my friends are "scared" of black women or least attracted to them, and I just don't get why

They complain mostly of:
1. Hair
2. Physical structure
3. A "Slut" Stereotype.
4. Some just find them too black :(

The hair can be fixed.

Physical structure well, I've never considered that a problem, (so black women look like they can take care of business on their own, when was that a problem?)

The Slut stereotype, well that's thanks to p*rn I guess.

Well, if you're black, you're black, and anyone that hates you just because you're black isn't worth it anyway.

I totally agree with Taylor415! Look, I'm a black guy, and I'm not proud of myself when I say it is mostly a matter of sexual features. The straight analysis of Taylor415 is exactly how I feel, those features are just what turns me off from black girls. But I know they turn on some other dudes, there's every taste in the nature. Maybe because I've been exposed (Like many people I know) to the white beauty standard in movies and to be more exact, p*rn, I tend to associate beauty with some of the physical features more common in white girls. Because, yeah, there are physical differences between white girls and blacks. Not for all, but for the most part, certain obvious differences like nose shape, lips, hips, hair. I like the caucasian type of hair, and I've never met a black girl, or asian who had that kind of hair that so much turns me on! Never! I think it's just unique to Caucasian girls. And as far as I'm concerned, the great diversity that comes with white girls is really great. Consider this: they have dark black hair, brown(brunettes), yellow, red, and even in those categories, there are different shades as well, and then the diversity with the eyes: blue, green, brown, black... I think that's just really attractive.
Ok, I'm way off topic(We're talking abt Black girls, aren't we?). I still find some Black girls attractive (I don't mind dating a Black girl who has many of the features I look at in a girl). But then, what is a turnoff is the attitude. Most Black women I meet carry that nasty attitude that just says "Trouble" wherever they go. There is a difference between a strong woman and a nasty woman, and more often Black chicks fall in the latter category. For me, a woman needs to be soft and feminine. That may sound ridiculous and outdated, but in fact, I think many guys are like me. We want women, not dudes, to have romance with. We want them not to be violent, as it is a trait well too characteristic of the male genre. But most of the Black girls I see around aren't like that. Another thing that is a must to me is for the girl to have some "culture". I mean, she doesn't have to know quantum physics on her fingertips or have written books on abstract impressionism, but be able to engage in some profound discussion about something and be able to speak properly (No ghetto-talk). If a girl is good-looking, soft and feminine, and has culture, I don't give a f**k if she's black, white, yellow, red or blue, I'll go for her. But once again, I don't usually meet black girls having that mix of features, which is why, by experience, I don't usually go after them

I'm a white guy, and personally I love black girls. They don't take sh*t from anyone...at least the ones I know. I have dated a few black girls in fact. Like I said, they rock. It's funny that you mention that black guys don't often go for black girls because I have a black guy friend who said he doesn't like black girls. I'm not sure why but he doesn't. It's sorta opposite between us. He likes white girls and I like black girls. idk. It most likely IS preference. idk

actually its my fantasy to be with a black chick just sayin I find them really sexy...but...they are high maintence as far as I have heard

Let me first say I am not racist.
I also do not find "black girls" attractive.
Alright.. I'm not saying I don't find most attractive. There are very few if any that I can say I find atractive. But the same istrue for me for asain girls.
Im only talking about looks though.
When it comes to personality and adittued. I usally don't like the way they tend to act. However I'm sure that they don't all act the same way but I have yet to find one that isn't annoying, loud and obnoxious and rude.

Say what you want but I personally find it very difficult to find black woman that I find attractive.

Deathecutioner

after having dated some, it is not their looks that turn me off, it is attitude. So many have spent so long with their mother telling them men are worthless, or have had a bad relationship that they are bullet scarred. The minute I see the attitude, I'm gone.

As a white male, I am certain that if we had a child he would be black, since I don't want a black son, then the best way to eliminate the chances at all, is not having sex/relationship with a black women. As simple as that.

to me a girl has to have that certain look I love no matter what race they are (difficult to explain here in words) plus I'm not racist in any way but I do know a lot of folks who are and I tell them to f*** off...hope my answer helps

I'm Caucasian, I've seen many, many absolutely beautiful black women living on the West coast. I truly believe that what it comes down to is numbers. What do I mean?

Think about it: no matter which ethnicity you're a part of, those that are considered 'Attractive' of that ethnicity, by any standards, are in the 99th percentile. Sadly, I think, most of the world's population don't live up to various societies' rigidly high standards of beauty, thus labeling them unattractive.

So it doesn't matter at all which ethnicity you are, only a few will have the 'correct' combination of bone structure, metabolism, skin tone, social background and mannerism that lands one in the "pretty" category. That being the case, if you're exposed to less attractive white women all your life, you're 'used' to that 'type' of ugly, and you don't notice it as much. Whereas when judging the overall beauty of the women (or men) of a different ethnicity, people may tend to not
overlook those less attractive in that category, as they do with whichever ethnicity they're more familiar when deciding whether or not those kinds of girls are ugly.

So, are black women less desirable than women of another ethnicity? Absolutely not. It's all about who you are and where you come from, what ethnic version of "ugly" you used to.

Many on this thread mentioned racism as a reason, and I agree. Uber-stupid bigots are responsible for much of the anti-black sentiment that's come across in the world today. It's disgusting and anti-human to be so god-damn, freaking idiotic, the stupid swine. (I hate racists)

Also, the 'black culture', was mentioned as a reason, and this I say is not racist, but intellectualist. I see people of any color wearing 'gangsta' clothes, listening to rap and I immediately think they're posers. White, black, latino and asian people do this, and I think such people equally silly.

Agh, I hate that black women, who ARE beautiful, receive such insults. Black women ARE beautiful, and ALL women from any ethnicity deserve the respect, honor and chivalry that is so absent in our many different cultures today.

P.S., from a scientific point of view, one could argue that Black women are Superior because more pigmentation (darker skin) in the skin protects against harmful UV rays much better. And Zoe Saldana is one the most beautiful women I've ever seen, and I love Avatar, because she did a voice in it.

Be proud of being black, and the fact that you've noticed such ridiculous biases means you're a forward thinking person!

-J

Because the ones that get there shot at meeting a good, classy, handsome, educated 100,000+ brother play some dumb game of "i'm too good for you, I'm waiting for my NBA ni***a"...and that stuff only rides once...i mean really ladies you don't even give a dude more than a min 30...Black women can blame themselves for not being able to find a good black man...they need to stop being so defensive..cuz that just is not attractive...

Gonna be honest .. The ones that I've met there a bit on the hard side. Uhh *looking for a better explanation* I don't see a lot of soft, sentimental cute type black girls. But when I do its pretty sexy

Here's the thing about black girls. I am a white male in my mid 20's and the reason I don't find black girls attractive is the lack of softness to their skin. Especially, (and I'm not being obscene) is the vaginal area. What most guys like is a nice, small, pink labia, and skin that is very smooth and feminine. Also, black girls tend to have large aureoles which takes away from the "cuteness" of their breasts. Also, in bed, they don't have that seductive, yet innocent gaze that is slightly understated in white girls or Latina girls when they reach orgasm. They don't seem to have that "pouty" facial expression when it comes to visual flirtation. I'm just being honest, but from almost everybody I've talked to, and I live in San Francisco, which has a very diverse population, black guys love white women, but are unlikely to get them unless they're rich, because of the intimidation factor. If you look at Maxim magazine, (the most current issue, you will find that there are no black girls in the top 100 "Hometown Hotties" Halle Berry is an exception because she has very smooth and light complexion, and had the softness of the skin. It seems like the darker the skin, the less desirable black girls become, and that has to do with contrast of vaginal area, breasts, teeth and gums. This may sound harsh, but it is what I have observed across the board. I am in no way racist, most of the music I listen to is older R&B like Earth Wind & Fire and Kool & The Gang, Anita Baker, etc...

they are visually less appealing to me...so I think that might be a general point of view for most of guys...i m not sure though!

I'm a brown guy (Indian) and I have dated many black girls (in fact, I lost my virginity to a black girl!). I have also dated Asian, White, Latina and of course, Indian girls too. I don't discriminate because then that cuts down on the variety of girls I go out with and I am really into variety...I like girls with different personalities, backgrounds, religions, like to learn about them and stuff...

As far as the stereotypical 'ghetto bitch' girl, well, manhandle those bitches and they'll allow you to take control, if that's what you want...but personally, I don't like the 'ghetto bitch' type because they're too loud, not feminine enough, and they tend to be chubbier...just not my thing...I like normal black girls (and African girls too), they're sexy.

In conclusion, I think it's the 'ghetto bitch' that people get turned off by, not regular black girls...

Well, you said to don't feed you crap about preferences, but in my case it is the truth.
I prefer the european beauty, so mostly white girls...

But as you asked for a reason, and I don't want to sound racist, which I am not, actually I lost my virginity with a black girl (that was probably unnecessary to say, but ok...), what I really dislike in black women is the nose, the large nose I mean and MAYBE and JUST MAYBE the hair, because if the girl knows how to uses her hair with style, there is no problem too... besides that, I see no problem in black women... I even have a theory that black girls have a facility to keep their body in shape, I obviously don't have any statistics or stuff like that, it's just my impression... Of course maybe that's just because I live in Brazil, so here I see lots of black girls and most of them with perfectly attractive bodies :)

I'm a white male republican, very conservative, and don't find black girls hideous or anything like that. People who say stuff like that are just being petty, taking out their anger on an online forum because it can't be traced back to them. I have met a few attractive black girls I wanted to date very badly - one was a cowgirl from TX - problem is they didn't want to date me hahahaha.

Black guys not wanting black women? Eh I hear that from white girls when they see a white guy with an asian girlfriend - like he's "going the easy route" or some sh*t like that. I was with an asian girl for quite awhile and heard those sorts of things from lots of girls.

As far as school goes, schools are war zones and whichever group is least represented will be the most ostracized. It's just a fact of life that you'll have to deal with - it's not fun but that's just the way things are.

To be honest you shouldn't be worrying about stuff like that, racial statistics, what weirdos say on message boards, that sort of thing. It's all a bunch of BS. Just be yourself - being black doesn't doom you to failure any more than being short, tall, thin, fat, whatever.

I do not have a lot of experience with black females. I have only seen two of them in reality, for the place where I live in does not have a lot of them (or at least there aren't many black people around here in this city at all.)

However based on that experience and what I see from the television, it is true - I really don't like black girls physically. I can safely say this is because of the high level of racism that has been around for a long time. Therefore it just does not match my ideal for a girl to have black skin. (In fact, I tend to find the whiter the more attractive, I also have issues with tans and natural summer brownness, but that is just my pickiness.) I'm used to white. We have this saying around here jokingly: "I'm not a racist or anything, but the human skin color is white." We say that as a joke, but it does sort of stay with your expectations.

And if there are two other really dumb reasons, one of them is that they usually have giant lips which I do not like, and the second is that the experience I've had was ghetto-ish.
"i jst dnt understand...perfect ryt nw would b if you were here makin me laugh and stuff"
And she types like that! How can anyone type like that? Ugh.

So that's basically it.

I agree with OceanLover. about 90% of the black chicks in my old high school act like a stereotypical ghetto bitch. they crowded the middle of the hall so they blocked everyone , thinking for some reason they should be treated like royalty as they walked around yelling and screaming with a XL cheeto's bag in their hand. most of them had an attitude towards me and others for really no reason.

however I've met some really cool black chicks who were nice and sexy and had awesome personalities and even liked one before but didn't ask her out because I was about to graduate so there was no point. lol.

okay bye.

just the stereotypical ghetto, rotten attitude, bad hygiene, uneducated, obese, unhealthy, gross black girls.

i would totally date a classy black girl who was sweet, clean, intelligent, and healthy.

the media is has given black women a bad name , whrehn you tink of a black woman you think , bitches , young pregnat women , prostitutes

I'm not attracted to black girls because every black girl I've seen or met has had an attitude over the stupidest things. They flip out for no reason. I just can't handle that. So it's an attitude thing for me.

Imo, I feel that black women are the most harshly stereotyped people (race + gender) in this country. For some reason, the masses tend to believe the small sample of black women that he/she interacted with in their lives, or seen on TV, embodies ALL black women. :-X

Sure, there are definitely some black women that I find un-datable...but then again, there are many women that I would find un-datable, regardless of race.

I'm very attracted to black women. I love the physical features of a black woman. I usually go for the thicker ones, since I'm a big guy.

I like their mental strength. I need a woman like that because I can tend to dominate a recessive person. However, she has to be feminine (as in "girly") at the same time. Nails done, makeup, feminine clothing style, effeminate demeanor, etc.

Since I'm a pretentious college graduate (lol), she needs to stimulate my mind in an intellectual manner. I'm quite an analytical person, so I need someone who can mentally "hang" with me.

I'm in love with a cutesy, smart, dark-skinned, thick & effeminate black woman. I'm lucky to have her. :)

I'm 6'4" 268lbs. I make $40k+ a year. I am a white guy born in Mississippi and raised in Louisiana. Race issues here are immense. My very first girlfriend was black. I've dated white, asian and italian girls as well. My wife is black. She is incredibly intelligent, very successful, stunningly beautiful and loves with a passionate heat that could rival a super nova. She is more important to me than I could ever get her to understand. The media, in this case especially, is usually full of sh*t. Don't buy into it. You deserve to treat yourself better. Be proud of who you are. Not because you are black, though do be proud of your heritage, but because you are woman.

I'm sorry to hear that this has affected your self esteem, I would seriously encourage you to find your self worth in God's unconditional love for you.

I would also encourage you to re-think your assumptions of "racism" and understand "culturalism".

Black women that promote the negative stereotype of rude, stubborn, obnoxious behavior are why men tend to be more attracted to white and Asian women who culturally are less abrasive in relationships.

Also white people tend to shy away from having relationships with blacks due to the constant fear of the race card being played against them.

Most people don't have a racist bone in their body, however many cultural attitudes and behaviors from black culture do not translate well outside of black society, thus creating the illusion of "racism".

I would encourage you to not obsess over "being a black woman" and instead just focus on "being a woman" who is socially attractive, approachable and a joy to be around.

Best wishes and God bless.

personally I do find them attractive but I find there personality unattractive, this ruins all physical attraction for me. that said about a 3rd of my friends are black.

I'll keep it straight, no offense to black girls, but I just don't think y'all can compete with blonds, brunette's and Asians. The competition is fierce and I don't see black girls, being as good as, let alone being better than them.

You said be honest, so I will.

I don't like black girls because I don't think they are attractive. This goes for most non-white girls.
There are some exceptions but for the most part I really only find girls that are a high percentage white attractive.

You mentioned race. Is it because I am racist? Possibly. I don't hate non white girls or people. I am not racist in a sense that I think white people are better than everyone else. I just don't think they are attractive.

Bottom line, Attraction isn't a choice. People don't get to chose who they think is attractive.

i think its partialy the medias fault for the way they depict all black woman, they make them appear strong and proud. I don't want a girls whos gonna argue with me or try to be a fighter its totaly not attractive.

I have seen gorgeous black girls, and I am white. I suspect some of what you still run into is families would rather their child bring home mates of the same race and religion syndrome. I also beleive these trends are getting weaker for every generation. In my grandparents day, you would not have seen races mixing or playing, in my day there was more mixing. In the couple of generations after me there is far more mixing going on. I like this trend, but we are not completely there yet. In my case I went to a fairly unsegregated mixed school, if your school is predominantly white this will likely cause more issues for you.

But, perhaps you can help a bit, have you looked within. I am not accusing you of being raciest, but perhaps hurt by it and therefore sending out unintended messages. I don' t blame you for your feelings, but is it in part due to crutches, excuses, or self pity? We all have and will experience biases, whether its race, abilities, religion, physical characteristics, somewhere we will all experience it. . I find the best to pretend it does not exist, move on, and be better. Do whatever things you can to do to minimize the issues. You might have to extend yourself a bit more in social networks, I suspect things will come around for you better if you do this. .

Think about your question this way:

Problem #1: You think that women of African descent are ugly.

My Solution: There have been 8 African American Mrs.USA winners and there are approximately 309,834,000 people in the USA as of 2010 so they can't be the least attractive race.

Problem #2: School is predominantly white

My Solution: Interracial relationships take much more commitment than other relationships, so you will more than likely have trouble in that effort.

Problem #3: African women least married race

My Solution: Think about it like this, the African predominant countries are for the most part in the third world. For them food is more important than making their relationship official.

For me, it's about being attractive and feminine. I'm attracted to girls that are youthful, slender, firm breasts, and a tight butt. I also like them to have poise. I have seen a few (very few) black girls that are like this, and I could fall for them.

However, most black girls that I've met are ghetto as f***. They have the ghetto accent, they're out of shape, wear baggy clothes, think they're the sh*t, loud as f***, and listen to nothing but boosie and wayne. They have no poise and are uncultured. It's not about being black or white, it's about being ghetto. I also don't like ghetto white girls, I have higher standards then that.

Put this into perspective, I'm not racist. My two best friends are black and puerto rican. I've been with a black girl once and she was wasn't ghetto. She wore nice clothes and presented herself like a female should. That's all I'm looking for.

its going to sound racist, because it is. my idea female image is slender with a tight rear and small chest. reverse that image and you have the general black women shown by the media and usual films. I live in n.h., and here we don't have much ethnic diversity, so any other races seem truly exotic, and not all of us like exotic. I don't dislike AA women, they just don't excite me

I believe that personally because blacks tend to be the most masculine of races and I prefer very feminine girls. That is just a generalization, so don't take it personally because I have seen some very beautiful black girls.

Alot better I believe. I think if you were here you would do a lot better with the guys as well!

Im a kiwi boy from way down under.

I think black women are beautiful! black women are treated badly in your country. why is that? I just can't understand why. It seems some people actively try to be racist as I can see from some of the answers below.

You are over analyzing the issue and taking it to a different dimension, personally, am as attrackted to dark skin as much as am attrackted to light skin ! am pretty sure that my entourage share the same thoughts. And please note that my favorite, actor, model, singer, celeb are black girls of which I really really like and adore! The issue should not cause you low self esteem, set your own beauty standards! People are of different tasts!

In general black women are more likely to be obnoxious and loud, also, you never see, say, an Asian chick playing the race card like you did in the last sentence.

I personally like lighter skin.
Also, I think it's only natural to be attracted to your own race. Being repelled by a different race, is a different matter. I'm simply not excited by black women, and that's that. I really don't know why.

I got to disagree, they're not any more or less desirable than any other girl. Each man has his own taste in women. I used to think that it was black girls who didn't like white men which may be the common misunderstanding on this subject, both seem to think because of skin colour the other wouldn't be interested. I've been put off before as being a shaved headed white guy I thought black girls wouldn't be even slightly interested but I was proved wrong. Its actually the opposite, a lot of white guys find black girls more attractive. Just its a subject that's hard to openly discusss as race issues have always been a hard subject to tackle.

i like them

i think its because people portrary them as controlling women, or as ho's. All girls usually have these characteristics though. For me it's not that I wouldn't date a black girl, its just there are none in my area and I don't know if they are attracted to white guys. But that's stupid there is a website about black girls being ugly. There are very beautful black girls, and ugly girls of other races too.

I like black girls to date. Black is just a color after all.

i personally think that black and mixed girls have the best asses around ;)

Generally speaking, people tend to be more attracted to people of the same or a similar race. That's all there is to it, really.

I think black girls are hot. I'm very horny for them. When the sun goes down and the sunset light comes through the bedroom window lighting up her naked black skin ... ooo-ooo-oooh!

I'm black, and I like black women. However, here are the issues that I have:

1) It takes forrevvver for them to have sex. Not that they're NOT sluts, but it's just lame to me to be so NON-carefree about things.

2) They seem to have a lot of respect for thugs, which a) I am not, and b) I think is corny

3) They are not always as fit and toned as they need to be. (I've got like 3 - 4 total that go to my gym)

4) The really hot ones all seem to live in Atlanta and Virginia. What's up with that? They like migrate down there after high school. WTH?!

Anyway, I see you've got like a billion responses, so you're probably sick of the opinions. But, keep your head up, and know that there are Many guys out there, black, white, and other that should most definitely want to date you. Maybe it's just your location... or maybe one (or more) of my comments above. Good luck!

well they have a different culture some would call ghetto. it a class thing. few are educated and they tend to be loud. I guess they haven't assimilated for the most part and refuse to

What are you talking about I like black girls. Aunt jemimas my favorite I love her pancakes.

straight up though I'm gonna put myself out there ok first off there loud as f*** for no reason(if your not that cool but most are) I have no problem with skin color as long as there hot and if there like ghetto as hell that's soooo unatractive comin from a half black person

Simple but harsh truth...black girls are not attractive!
They look like Apes! (Sorry but, it's true!)
They have ugly nappy hair as opposed beautiful straight hair.
They have ugly bodies.
They have nasty looking p***y's
Guys tend to prefer girls with slight tans...not burned to a crisp! lol
black girls are WAY TOO LOUD!
Just the way the carry themselves and act.
The way they talk. Most do not know proper english!
They are ghetto as hell!
They act stupid
They're black!
These are the reasons that even black guys don't want them.
I'm not racist this is just how they are.

for me at least it's because I have so little in common with most black females around where I've grown up.
they all seem to fit that old "undereducated, rap listening, pot smoking black person" stereotype, and I personally like a girl with a brain, who likes music that isn't about drugs and gangs and that, as for the pot I don't care, but 2/3 is a fail.

other than who they seem to be (where I am), they are usually physically attractive, nice butt, chest, and pretty faced
i guess it's all who you know and where you grow up

ITS CUZ MOST GUYS (NON BLACK) CANT PICTURE THEM SELFS WITH A BLACK GIRL

Well, I don't really think its necessarily a 'racist' issue (for the most part), however, there are definitely some prejudices that affect attraction to not only black girls, but individuals of any visible minority or different ethnicity. Now, the media, in my opinion, is heavily responsible for this, but I think its also a simple matter of white guys, for instance, viewing black girls as semi-exotic and just different from them, and therefore they don't really consider them as partners. It seems as though people sort of tend to feel most comfortable with 'their own kind' so to speak, even though its just superficial.
Now also, as mentioned regarding the media, the 'black culture' in the west is often portrayed in a way that is very different and unattractive to guys who are not black. Obviously, not every black person is whatever the media tends to portray them as, but its just so often emphasized that it becomes difficult to ignore.
If one is interested in a long-term relationship, one usually considers the time in which you introduce your partner to your family. Often times, families are not so keen on approving on their child/sibling/whatever bringing someone home who is of a different ethnicity. Again, its just superficialities, but it is also reality to a great degree.
Finally, it can simply come down to plain old physical attraction. Some find porcelain white skinned people with very soft, feminine features most physically appealing, while others like dark, exotic looking people. Unfortunately, in my experience, most of my peers who are white tend to find African American woman attractive, on the whole. I can't explain why exactly, they just don't.
Anyway, there are also guys that do find black girls attractive and/or put very little stock into physicality anyway. There are also significant increases in the number biracial couples.
So good luck, and good post!

Very interesting question, and to be very real with you on this question is this, what you see and what is real are two different issues. Here in America, non minorities have a certain picture or assumption of a black woman period. Many of today's networking sites have allowed people to say and express their good and bad experiences online so therefore if you see more negative than positive stories you then assume that a certain group is unpopular. Travel abroad and in many places they do not see or care of one color but their character. Western society, have given all women a liberated mentality to say, do and act out how they feel. But like any woman from any culture, they want to be treated fairly and respectfully. Black women, will always let you know when you out of line or you gotten to personal and for many men who think it is okay to ask personal questions without getting to know a person is fine but a black woman will express her feelings faster and quicker than most. Whether educated or non educated , many black women are not given the same respect as their counter parts. The internet have men thinking if one do not do as I wish I will go on to another until I am satisfied to a man they think this is desirable a woman submissive completetely. I am not saying there is something wrong with this but all women should be treated with dignity and respect and this is not always the case. Women with a painful past will no longer allow any man to trample over them be it that they are not as attractive as a different culture they still want to be treated with courtesy. BBW ( Beautiful Big Woman ) was something black women have taken to a whole new level. All through out Europe black women are sought after and appreciated. You can only take face value on what you see online or hear from a handful of people. The world is too big to generalize on such a question. The same goes for why some white women seek black men..? preference. yes perhaps but from those who do prefer black men they like the lifestyle, or the freedom to express without hang ups. Each person have their reasons for a certain preference but to say a certain group is less desirable because of a few comments is a bit too much. Along my travels abroad, I have had the wonderful company of different women and the truth of the matter is all women have a story, a situation that made them positive or negative it is up to all people to listen to their stories without judging. Take time to hear the stories and life changing instances then ask your self are you looking at a woman regardless of color as only sexually desirably or have you now gained a new sense of understanding of what is desirable and see all women who make you desire to appreciate their story and their strength in their life. Open your eyes and your heart and you will see that all women are desirable...

Black women have the highest levels of testosterone of any woman population on earth. End of discussion.

I don't know if this has to do with anything. But for instance black woman's hair is curly and look like metal sponges (sorry I don't know the right word). Black woman's hair is not naturally straight like other races. Also think about it, the most appealing colors are always light and brilliant colors, NO dark colors. That's why diamonds are more eye catchy than lets say cold or something of that sort. In metals is the same thing. Gold is more appealing than bronc and other dark colors of metals. Actually for the most part black woman have very strong face features, like really string jaws, big noses and they like. If you see this with white women who for the most part have softer face features, are white skinned or at least much lighter like skin, usually have light color eyes and light color hair then you might see why black girls are not considered as more good looking. That doesn't mean though that girls with dark hair and dark eyes are ugly or average because that;s not true, there is some very good looking dark hair and eyes girls. same for black girls. But if you ask me its mostly their hair, their face features, and the dark color of their skin, its not as eye catchy as white skin, since its less bright. I am not racist, but you asked a very controversial question so I am giving you a very honest answer. Remember the media influences as well, the women that are considered the most are not black women, the media also reinforces that.

To tell you the truth I am a black man and I feel like black women look for the wrong things in men. From my experience black women do not know about true romance. I am a young black guy (20 years old in college) and I am actually thinking about saying forget black women. I find it disturbing also that divorce rates are highest among black couples and I know I'm looking for a relationship but been getting pasted over lately and I think it due to the fact I don't draw attention to myself like other black men. Matter of fact most ( I feel safe to say 90%) of black men in college are single. I have a question for you, I feel like nobody wants me while I am going through the storm but everyone is going to want me when I get out the storm and I have a fear that I am going to be "stuck up" in a sense or I will be heartless, how do you feel about that?

some guys may be racist on some level, some may be afraid it's still taboo in some parts of society or just in their family. I'm sure there are plenty who do just prefer certain skin tones. there are just as many hot black girls as there are of other races though and I'm not picky personally.

It isn't always racist, but I think that the last sentence in the question is racist. See not every guy looks at the body but for the personality as well. I don't think this question is serious, because character beats beauty all the time.

I'm sorry, I had to actually laugh at this post to myself, only because I'm a black male and I've come to ask myself why I do not find majority of black women attractive as I do with other women. I can never get the answer I want from just looking at them or talking to them for that matter. It's not the hair, it's not the butt, it's not the chest. Something about their personality that just keeps lingering. See some I dislike because they are excessively loud, they dominate over me because I'm shy. Some just give me this weird vibes, like "I'll hurt you if you try anything stupid." Then the ones whom I do prefer just seem like they have it all already, they don't need anyone in their lives. So I just tend not to bother talking to them.

Yea not all black girls are ugly. I dated one and I'm white but for some reason it ended and now I find reasons of why I don't like her. For some reason the hair of most black girls gets me, it either is really really greasy or looks really greasy. But I've seen black girls that were pretty amazing looking, like that girl from one of the seasons of Doctor Who. She is pretty hot and id like to meet her someday haha.

Being Mexican, my main preference is other Mexican or just Latina women, but I am an absolute sucker for the white valley girl type. I've grown up in the ghetto so many of the black women that I've met are simply impossible to talk to. I have dated a wide variety of women but I have yet to find a black woman that is what I'm looking for. That's not to say I never will or that no black women is compatible with me. For some reason, I find it very hard to have a decent conversation with the black women in my neighborhood. I'm not saying that all black women are like this, but many of them around here are. I'm from Southern California by the way.

This applies to most, but not all black girls:

they're ugly. and they are quite barbaric and many of them smell pretty bad as well. they smell like someone who hasn't taken a bath in ten years or more. They're loud, annoying, fat, rude, etc (like typical ghetto hood rats). They even act retarded and stupid as well. I'm describing the majority of them. I can't imagine a decent guy going out with a stereotypical black girl unless if he was insane.

I have some black female friends, but they always break the stereotypes, but I still wouldn't go out with them. Because they're just friends.

i prefer white girls, don't know why. but any girl could be for me regardless of her skin :), my mates white and has a black missus but hees a rudeboi haha so they get along fine. its just how the puzzel fits for some init.

I don't know why my sexual preferences are the way they are. As I'm white I just like white girls better, I guess.

But a girl comes as a whole package and can't be judged by one aspect, eg skin colour, hair colour, boob size, height etc...

The media has portrayed black girls badly..I mean look at RAP videos, and modern television...it depends on the area in which you live as well.

Black women have on average larger vaginas than any other race of women. This is a turn-off for most non-black men. Studies have documented this size difference.

I'm an Asian guy, and I'm extremely attracted to black woman. I just love their voluptuous bodies. I've gotta be honest, though dark skinned is fine, I would prefer lighter. However, if the girl has a beautiful body then it doesn't matter.

I don't find this venue to be a place that is going to be very affirming for any WoC. And I recommend you surround yourself with people who see you as beautiful just as you are. Below I recommended one site called "Racialicious" and there are so many more: The Feminist Texican, Womanist Musings, and all the blogs they link to. I would never send any of my Black woman friends here! I find this place generally too white-dominated.

Black features are considered masculine. Black women have broad shoulders. They're also usually bigger physically.

I have dated black women and do not feel any of this. If this is true, is this why so many black men love to have trophy white women?

Nothing intrinsically. Unfortunately, a lot of black women tend to come from less privileged backgrounds. This can lead to poor eating/hygeine habits, low levels of education, etc. Since it's quite clear that *none* of this applies to you, there could be some mild bigotry on the parts of some men.

I think some of it also has to do with media portrayal.

I can't tell you this isn't true for a lot of people but it isn't true for me I am European mostly also a little bit Asian and I find a lot of black girls attractive both African American and Somalian or other countries. I have crushes on lots of African Muslim girls at my school I love the dresses they wear and the hijab and I find a lot of them to be very smart and nice even if they tend to be more religious than most of the people I hang out with. I don't think its accurate to say black girls are the ugliest. To be honest I am not very attracted to white girls myself some are but in general not my preference. I am a very tan European guy partly Gypsy and I'm kind of a nerd so a lot of white people left me out of their social groups but a lot of black people accepted me as a friend and a lot of black girls have had crushes on me while a lot of white girls seem to treat me like I am a freak. So in general I have found African people both male and female to be more friendly with strangers and less judgemental which makes a lot of sense. Races vary a lot some black girls are very curvy some skinny just like all the other races. I tend to be drawn to curvy girls I am dancing around this so I'm just gonna come out and say this I like big butts I cannot lie on a girl of any race but a lot of African girls have them. As for hair I love peoples hair to be what its supposed to be. If you are Norwegian with long blond hair be proud its beautiful. If you are Latina/Native wear that long black hair don't die it. If you are African with black curly hair be proud wear braids or an afro, I have noticed different African people grow different kinds of hair because just like in Europe people in different countries of the same race look a little different. I wish less black girls got their hair straightened to try to look more white. I am not gonna say straight hair isn't beautiful because it can be but curly hair is beautiful too and no one looks beautiful trying to be someone they're not. The guy ChaosPrefect sounds kinda racist assuming all black girls act a certain way its not true. But the small percentage of African girls that do act way to stereotypical hip hop ghetto are annoying and frankly hard to talk to. I can understand most black slang but not if its said really really fast. Yet again racism means a lot of white men don't think of black girls as marriage material but that doesn't mean they don't think your sexy they just want to exploit black women for sex only. Just remember its really racist people who are missing out not you. As for me I have dated black latino and white women and would definitely consider marrying a black girl if that's where things led. I know that's not really an answer to your question but If Ihad to guess it would be not that black girls are considered in any way less beautiful or sexy just that because of racism some of white men don't even consider black women for serious relationships. Their loss

((Disclaimer: I'm not racist, but there are racial GENERALIZATIONS, I will make here. Please keep in mind that this refers to a "large percentage of" the black female population, but not by any means all of them, or even necessarily most of them. Just a lot of people exist that are like the following, thank you.))

Many black girls can actually be incredibly hot, it's just that many of them often make choices and behave in manners that are simply not attractive. There are several things that can make a black girl undesirable, here's my top 4 things:

1. The attitude. A little assertiveness can be very sexy indeed, however, yelling and screaming like you're a p*ssed off drunkard is not attractive at all. You know exactly what I'm talking about right? The whole "tough" girl act. "Oh HELL NO YOU DIDN'T!" bits. No one wants to feel like they have to walk on eggshells when they're with a girl, or worry about getting smashed in the face while sleeping. Who would want to date a girl who acts like they're gonna beat the crap out of them.


2. The hair. Black girls with straight hair is extremely attractive. Or maybe curls that hang down, some girls can even pull off some of the crazier hair styles. However, braids, ESPECIALLY corn rows and similar hair styles that show lots of scalp and/or press your hair extremely tight to your head is NOT attractive at all. It's the EXACT opposite, I'd prefer a girl with an afro, I really would. But even better, if your hair isn't too out of control, use a hair straightener. If it's way out there, go for something like Scary Spice's old school hair style.
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3.Quiet down please. Some black girls are much too loud. Particularly when on the cell phone but often just in general. You come off as obnoxious and egotistical. Basically, it makes everyone around you think you're a total b*tch when you start screaming on the bus about what your girl did with that guy last night or whatever it is.

4. Stop pretending to be dumb. No, seriously, I am getting really tired of seeing girls pretending to be stupid. Mind you, this applies to EVERY GIRL ON THE PLANET, tho this is sadly ESPECIALLY prevalent among a lot of black girls. Saying things like, "reading is hard" or "why read a book". When asked something simple, do NOT reply in a dismissive manner, "I dunno", "I don't get it", ignore the subject completely thereafter and then get upset when you get treated like an idiot, because that's how you act. If you really don't know something, maybe try and LEARN the answer or ask questions about it. "I don't know", with no further desire to investigate the subject is NOT attractive.

Sadly, things like BET and MTV encourage behavior that does black girls such a disservice like it's cool to be freaking retarded. Stop watching those two channels and reality TV shows like they often air and you will be better off.

Do you live in a KKK neighborhood? What I have noticed is usually black women don't like white guys... I would date a light skinned or mixed (half black and white girl) in a heartbeat. I relate most to black women.

I'm a white guy who hasn't ever been attracted to a black female. I live in the suburbs of a major city which has many black people. As a result, I've grown up with them, and I'm not a racist. Thus, you needn't label me a racist or somebody who is isolated from society. I'm a liberal, and I'm open to all types of people.

Judging from personal experience alone, many, though not all, of the black girls I've encountered have really irritated me. More often than not they're selfish, boisterous, masculine, and ignorant. Virtually all of the black girls who don't fit that stereotype that I know are devout, close-minded Christians. As an atheist, this degree of close-mindedness is a big turn-off.

Personality generalizations aside, there are still some traits that aren't attractive to me. I don't find the hair of most black girls to be attractive. Ebonics, ubiquitous among black people especially around the huge city I live in, is a major turnoff.

Lastly, I find it to be humorous that you ask answers to be honest, but then immediately tell them not to state an idea. I find it highly likely that some people have a natural, non-racist preference when it comes to women; some people like tall women, some people like short women, some people like big breasts/butts, some like those things smaller, some like white women, some like black women. In fact, I bet it's harder for a tall but pretty white girl to get some than an attractive, normal black girl.

My advice: don't think too hard about it. It's actually less of an issue that you're making it out to be. Each person has his own preferences, and there's not really any way you can change that. Work hard to be the best person you can; when people get in your way, keep treading, despite how difficult it can be. Pouting won't get you anywhere.

I think black girls are beautiful. I am much more attracted to black girls than white girls.

Its quite absurd to say that, I personally find black girls quite attractive. Obviousally there are some unattractive and attactive black girls but to say they are most least desirable is quite wrong. I have never personally been with a black girl but I certinely wouldn't mind being with one. There are some black girls who are soo rude, loud and abnoxious which ruins the reputation for all black girls.

P.S. I think black girls have the nicest asss ;)

Not racists are anything but they just aren't that attractive. Some of them act too manly.

Don't believe the media if you spam it enough times while making yourself look convincingly smart people are going to eventually slightly believe you I am saying I have fallen in love with to many black girls to just ignore them... and I am white I just feel like they are not attracted to me.

Black girls have a big PR problem, and since most social circles are quite racially segregated, many guys will never even befriend a black girl in their lives. So all they have to go on are the immensely negative stereotypes.

If it makes you feel any better, I like black girls.

Hmmm. Black women tend to have big ass, dark skin, and huge t*ts. I'd go for the androgynous petite Asian female look. No black females for me, they have none of those features that I'd find attractive. And many of them listen to that annoying rap music.

As far as raw beauty goes, I personally really like black women.

I'm a pretty slim athletic guy with an "exotic" descent (Korean, Greek, German, and I'm answering anonymously so I don't look stuck up, not because I'm uncomfortable talking about race btw), so I go for the "model" look I guess because it's kind of like mine. I really like mixed-race girls and girls from the hotter parts of the world.

Honestly, the only facial types that don't send me over the edge is the big and round-eyed pureblood European look. For example, if Lindsay Ellingson (one of the new Victoria's Secret Angels, Google her) didn't have a perfect complexion, I don't think I'd find her that attractive. But when I think of girls like Selita Ebanks... woof! Or others... Quiana Grant, Jessica White. Girls like Rihanna and Chanel Iman, who are really young and totally on the cutting edge of culture, are gonna be the dream girls of the guys of every color in a 6 or 7 years.

Yes I know I'm naming some major name girls and not all black girls look quite like that. But my point of this whole thing is I think that what comes out of Africa is beautiful, far more so than what comes out of Anglo-Saxon Europe. When I'm attracted to a white girl, I'm attracted to the beauty of her youth. When I'm attracted to an exotic girl, I'm attracted to her look, her youth, and her culture. So when I like an African girl, it's not just because she's young and healthy, it's because she's African and her African-ness is beautiful. I can't say that about girls from Anglo-Saxon Europe.

But to really answer your question, of WHY black girls are undesirable to many...

Well it took me FOREVER to figure out that I liked black girls. Honestly, it's because of what the reputation coming before some of those girls. I grew up in a white / conservative suburb so not only did different = bad, but I only saw blacks on MTV and BET. Unfortunately for all of us, I was making assumptions on ALL black girls from the PARIS HILTONS of black girls (famous for obnoxiousness, just enough sex appeal to get attention).

It took me a lot of growing up and a lot of exposure to more mature black female icons (Halle Berry, Erykah Badu, Alicia Keys) before I dropped that stereotype. Then it took exposure in real life (didn't happen until college) to lots of black women until I realized that I really like black girls personally and that they're no different than girls of any other color.

But what you gotta understand is that not everybody has lived in a conservative rural (suburb of Nashville, TN), a liberal urban (Washington DC), and a college (a VA state school) environment. Most people who get the anti-black-female stereotype aren't gonna get the chance to drop it. But in the end, those are the people who aren't smart enough to see it the real way. They're missing out the beauty and culture of the whole world because they can only take what's super familiar.

Who's really losing out in this one? Not you.

I think that Black and Indian girls are the most beautiful women in the world. I would choose a black lady over any other, nearly every time.

Black women have the most stunning facial features, and often stunning bodies. Also black ladies have fantastic hairstyles too, much more alluring than white ladies I think (just my opinion).

For me the most gorgeous celebrity women on this planet are all black - Beyonce, Brandy, Tyra Banks, Naomie Lenoir, Alicia Keys just to name a few!

Funny thing is you asked the question and said the answer... MEDIA.

If you tell a lie long enough, loud enough and often enough, the people will believe it.-------Adolph Hitler.

Check out what the media says about black girls, hell remember the white girl that got missing in aruba or some place like that, look at all the media coverage, but I promise you if that girl would have been a black girl, she wouldn't have got nearly as much media coverage, why, because it's understandable if a black girl would run away from home, but a white girl, God Forbid...she came from a good home, she did this and did that, oh and by the way she was beautiful...thus indirectly, people will see this and decide that beauty looks like this. Beauty is in the eye of the camera.

Im being honest here and I beleive that black girls light skin or dark are just as attractive as any other race of women. I think statistically black women marry less because in general which I may be wrong on, they are the most likely to remain dating only within their race without wantign to branch out and explore other races of men. I'm guessing you live in the U.S. where people are much more heaviliy influeneced by media then most other foreign countries. where I live in england. its not reallyso much of a big deal we do have influence from america here but not so much. I'm part brazilian and part italian which stereotypically says I like black women, I guess that holds true for me as all flavours of sugar are just as sweet, but from man to man it varies, maybe the guys where you lvie are a little nervous to be different and branch out from what is the norm. I'm sure a lot of the guys where you lvie find youvery attractive but they may feel a little held back. just show them that you are not the generalised type of black girl that is portrayed in media, just be yoruself and they will love you
Good Luck, God Bless

What's so wrong about having preferences? I'm just not attracted to them, period, end of story. Of course, most attraction is on a subconscious level. Of course you're going to call me a 'racist' simply because I don't date black girls. I just don't. You can't force anyone to like something that they're not attracted to, I can't make all girls around the world like Asian men, just as you can't make all men around the world like black girls. It's just that simple.

If race is truly a social construct, so let's say a white man and a white woman have a child. The baby comes out black. Now there would be two reasons: The wife cheated on her husband with a black man (most likely), or there is no such thing as race, as you have said before. Because if race is truly a social construct, then two white people, then there is a 50/50 chance that the child will either come out white or come out non-white.

Now, there are plenty of African albinos (meaning that they are racially black but have white skin). I'm not attracted to African albinos either, because they have many of the same features as black people, the only difference is their skin color. In any case, there is much more to race than just skin color.

Just because I hold a conservative opinion does not mean you can bash me on the basis of some type of racial insensitivity.

To answer your question, I just have no idea why. It's just the vibes, my intuition, my subconscious.

You can't force anyone to like a specific race, just because you happen to disagree with me on the basis of egalitarianism.

Guys are picky. Girls are picky. They're both picky when it comes to a lot of things, especially what they find attractive. It may sound racist, it may sound prejudicial, but that's their choice. In the end, we're all human with different tastes and differences. If we're all the same, we'd be robots. These differences, even genetic differences, makes a person what he is. So I don't have to sing kumbaya with you, because I choose not to. You can't force anyone to sing kumbaya against their will.

All I have to say now is that I am happy to be myself, that I'm not part of the sheeple.

It all comes down to this: If a white guy is racist for not being attracted to a black girl, then a white girl is sexist for not being attracted to a white guy.

im from south carolina. There are a lot of uneducated people and a lot of black people. So the combination provides the given stereotype that black women are obnoxious. I went to the mall earlier today, there were black girls making a scene. Obviously not all are like this, but the ones that are are like ignorant children, EXTREMELY ANNOYING. Now, I am going to talk about the last sentence in your last paragraph. I ONLY date why girls, because that is the ONLY color I am attracted to. you ARE wrong for assuming there is some racism in that. I don't find dark skin attractive. It is ENTIRELY preference.

The p**** is nasty, but some black girls are very cute, not all black females are uggly and they last young longer.

i was going to comment but for some reason

there is almost no way to say anything about this post with out

being mis read as racist


so sorry I think you are on your own on this one

I don't really see myself with a black female due to the fact things don't click with any female that's black that I come into contact with, I have been with acouple but its not a turn on to me.

Yes, it's true. They are the least desirable people. They have big lips, act all ghetto (that included stupidity and laziness), they make 10+ babies on welfare, big asses, large rolls of fat, pitch dark skin, yellow eyes, flat ugly noses, and they have pubes on their head that they use cholesterol to straighten out their nappy pube-like hair. If they meet any of the criteria above, they're out of here.

I would look for girls with class, intelligence, sense of humor, etc. Black girls hardly meet any of these criteria. Most black girls hang out with wankstas, a type of people whom I despise for their utter stupidity and despicable behavior, who forgo their education just so they can be 'well liked' by their wanksta peers.

In essence, these are my preferences and dislikes. They would sound racist and it could be, but not many people would want a girl with any of those disgusting features like nappy hair or yellow eyes.

Plus, I get plenty of heat from my old fashioned parents. I don't want more of it by bringing a black girl home and then my parents freak out and disown me. The same thing happens if I 'become gay', which will never happen.

Matters on the person. Black Women are very attractive. people these days are pathetic

i think it matters on the area and the person as I'm in a mainly white school with a few black girls and I'm attracted to a few of them just I'm to shy to approach them

I think it all boils down to instincts and such. It's got nothing to do with attractiveness. People of a certain race are more inclined to be attracted to others of the same race, and as it goes, white and black people are at pretty much opposite ends of the race scale, so there are probably gonna be more white people who aren't as attracted to black people and vice versa. You're probably more likely to attract a black man than a white one. Luckily though we live in a modern society where this sort of rule has gone out the window somewhat, with more exposure to other races and what not. I'm not a sociologist or anything, but that's my opinion.

I think its because white guys think black girls who are good looking wouldn't like them. To tell the truth, I've seen very few black girls date white guys, which is sad because there are some who are very attractive.

many white people face retribution from very old-fashioned parents if they date a black person- my friend was just kicked out of her house for dating a black man (he wasn't black, it was her black friend, her boyfriend was mexican, but her parents freaked out.) But a white person faces many, many possible punishments from their family and from the older generations if they try to date a black woman.

Personally, I haven't found many black women with whom I do activities with- I like to ice skate, play hockey, fence, and go running, and there simply aren't many black women in those activities to even meet.

Who told you this? Maybe where you are but not in the UK!

I've had 3 black girlfriends in the past all where amazing girls :) They always told me what's up hahaha and I like that.

Well, to me, it's about classy, feminine and sexy.
And while the sexy part is deffinitely there;)), the lack of class is a turn-off, as well as being agressive, since guys mostly don't want to be dominated by a woman.

As example: probably every single white male on the planet thinks Whitney Houston (at least before the whole drug thing) was an incredibly hot and attractive Goddess, and that woman from "I love New York" (don't know her name) - not so much.

The main differnce: abundance of femininity and class in Whitney's behavour, and in the second - not so much.

So that's it:)

i don't see what's so bad. at the end of the day we are all people so there is no need to judge and say who's better. x cameron x

It's truly all about upbringing...i wouldn't be so cynical about this, even though race is always a damn controversial subject, even though it shouldn't be.

Anyone that's not open minded when it comes to different races or ethnic groups is a retard. Yes some people have preferences, but in terms of dating and trying new things its a must. My freind is mostly white and he's dating a black girl and I think she's also pretty hot and pretty cool.There's many attractive black girls out there like Beyonce hahahaha. Personally I don't think there's anything wrong with different races. As long as they're attractive, fun, and have a great personality, then why the hell wouldn't you date them?

Most people like "sameness" so any features that are not the same are either a curiosity or disliked,...

The really crazy thing is that "skin color" isn't the big thing. You'll see white guys line up to go out with black girls that have more anglo features. (smaller noses, streight hair, smaller pouty mouths etc..) Which is why hollywood plastic surgeons love black actresses because they almsot always have something done. It's the "that's not like me" differences that tend to drive people off. Just google how many black actresses have had surgery to look more white..

right or wrong I think that's the norm for white guys, and as there's a larger pool of white guys population wise, there going to see out same-ness.

Personal opinion, I fall into that category I *like* small noses, small pouty lips, etc..
In fact (just my opinion) I think asian women beat black and white women all to heck in most cases beauty wise, but that actually IS my preference. I also admit that I love "different" I would love to find a black girlfriend that I thought was sexy as I think that dark/different colored skin IS sexy. But at the same time that would be me liking skin color as much as I don't like coarse hair per say... I love long luxurious soft flowing hair. So while I don't think I'm racist... I think I do have a phycial racial bias in what I consider attractive. (Japanese girls for me all the way)

Well I think the only black women I'm attracted to is Beyonce...so far. I like intelligent cute/innocent looking white women. That's what I look for and they are the ones I want to date. I'm friends with several black women but I'm not attracted to them physically (probably because we have been friends for a while). I know in my case it has nothing to do with rascism. I'm not attracted to guys, yet I'm not a homophobe or a gay hater.

I've crushed on black women! White women, too.

One attractive trait you possess is academic excellence and career goals.
You write well. Easy to understand with correct word usage and punctuation.

I was a reserve police officer. One of the officers (male) that I patrolled with had this "Joke of the day." One of the jokes was:
What is wrong with a nice, well adjusted, black couple?"
There's a fat blond somewhere, crying her eyes out.

IM sorry you feel this way about this. Don't let it get to your self esteem. And STOP classifying "Black beauty" and "regular beauty." Its the same. And the thing you realize as you get older(im assuming your in high school by context of question) is that what makes someone truly beautiful is the kind of person they are. So work on being the best person you can be and when the right guy comes along...he won't be able to find anyone whos more beautiful to him.
Oh and by the way..
Im Irish Italian. And I'm dating a black girl right now. I think she's great (although I will admit she has a shorter temper than even the spanish girls I've dated). But I've never just classified any race as unattractive. Its on an individual basis. I've seen ugly in every color lol!

Keep your chin up!

ill tell you why I'm not attracted to them.. and it all boils down to attitude..and I'm not saying you have the attitude, but most of the black women I have encountered do have it. I mean they are loud, they always want the center of attention, they are annoying. And again IM not saying ur that way. But that's what I see. You might be totally opposite from what I'm describing. But I am being hounest. I'm not saying I would never date a black girl, cause I have already, but she had a bad attitude and I don't like that.

please let me know where you and your friends are...ill find you some latino guys including myself that will sweep you off your feet...

I just don't find black girls physically attractive. Sorry.

I've been attracted to some Asian girls, though.

I haven't interacted with many black girls (not many down here), but if I met one who had an attractive personality, then I'm sure I'd be alright.

I feel sorry for Asian guys - I've heard a lot saying that Asian girls are more attracted to white guys, but I've never hooked up with an Asian girl :-(

I'm sure that this isn't true in all places, but in my school all of the black girls hang out with the dumb "gangsters" and I am not interested in that type of girl. I know not all black girls are like the ones in my school, but whenever I see one I unconsciously group them with the dumb gangsters just because that's what I'm used to seeing. Although I know stereotyping is wrong, these stereotypes are there for a reason. Just try and distance yourself from that crowd. Try to get to know people better so they can see what your really like, and people will look past those stupid stereotypes.

That Shiva chick from resident evil 5 is smokin'.
Anyway, whatever those stats seem to suggest, it has nothing to do with phhysical image.
Stereotyping, cultural upbringing, history and population are all factors that contribute to peoples preferences.
And "preferences" aren't bullsh*t, they do play a role. Like it's an established fact that people are more attracted to other's closer to their own weight/physic. Do you go around asking why fat girls don't get any loving? No.

I had a crush on a black girl once. Just as I was about to ask her out, she got a job in another country and moved away! Damn. Anyway, just thought I'd throw that in there.

That isn't true... at least not for everyone.
I have known some black girls that were smokin hot, and amazingly modest about it :)

Well, where I come from, I have had exposure to many difference races of women, although it's still mostly white, and here is what I have to say:

I find black women the least approachable. This may be because I am asian/white and act both very Asian and very White, but I think it does have to do in part because of the way stereotypical black women act. These women who are very loud, defiant, and into gangster/tough guy types are intimidating.

But if I were to meet a black girl who acted more like me and I could be comfortable around her, she would be absolutely no different than any other girl.

Physically though, I am not so much into the really darked skinned ones, but I find that a lot of black women have rockin' bodies! it's crazy!

A baby f*** what da haters gotta say sh*t I Luv me chocolate mama
Nd you already kno once you go black ain't sh*t funna make you go back

I think they are attractive.

Always remember that people will talk about you no matter what you do or who you are. People tend to hate what they fear or don't understand. Forget your color and be confident in your ability. For every 1 person that loves you, believe that 2 may not. Simply focus on the ones that do and forget the rest. Your prince is out there. Just be yourself and keep God first.

iight foreal if anything I find black women to be more desirable over all other races I always have and I'm puerto rican there's jus something about them, they seem more confident and independent and I love that about them they don't take bullsh*t they're fly and they're more real than any other race I've been wit straight up (no offense) that's why I'm wit a black girl right now yooo! forget what everybody else gotta say I love black women

Ok, I'll be honest even though I tend to withhold myself.

I find most Black girls (my experiences with them around here) tend to have a bitchy attitude, and I don't know, I tend to think they're aren't in anyone other than Black guys.

But I have found some Black girls attractive, sometimes, I'm guilty of being racist and not taking a second look when I see a Black girl. But I found dark Black girls can be attractive. I tend to like lighter skinned girls though. Lighter skinned Black girls are definitely included in that.

I'm sorry if I sound not like a bad guy, there aren't many Black folks here.