found out that I cut and flipped out on me about it...after he did he sat down t talk tome and said that he loves me and our second year anniversary is coming up and he says that he doesn't want to end our relationship but if I don't stop he will...he says that he loves me too much to see me hurt myself like this. I have no idea what to do? options welcome.
This guy cares about you (which is why he talked to you about it and freaked out). He wants you to quit because it risks your health. If you want to continue dating him - make a different habbit like breaking dishes or yelling at him even.
Personally I would much rather have a woman hit me with a baseball bat to my kneecaps than see her cutting her wrists =/ There's no reason to cut. It's not pleasant and it could kill you - what about that seems appealing? Nothing. Stop for your own safety please.
I have been doing this a long time I don't think I can just stop cold turkey..but I don't want to lose him...i have no idea on what to do. - 13 days ago
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Try - it's all you can do.
If you put an honest effort into stopping this habbit - it's not just for him, but you too. When you are feeling uncomfortable and like you are needing to cut, distract your mind with a movie or a different habbit (Running, swimming, working out, drawing, writing, whatever it takes)
I commend you for giving an effort to do what's right, you will be much happier in time =) Life gives us lemons, we have to take those lemons and make something great out of them. - 12 days ago
Well, it he loves you he should love both your good parts and bad, without asking you to change who you are. But that begs the question of whether cutting is just something you do, or a part of what you are. It is possible that the cutting feels a need within you that he could fill instead, then perhaps you can both do what he wants and do what you want. What you need to ask yourself seriously is why you cut, and based on your answer to that, act accordingly.
I have been doing this a long time I don't think I can just stop cold turkey..but I don't want to lose him...i have no idea on what to do - 13 days ago
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Well, if it's not a part of who you are he doesn't have to accept it, and so he's being fair in telling you to give up it or him, and so it becomes something you should discuss with him further. when you talked, did you explain to him why you do it? - 13 days ago
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To tell you the truth I don't even knoe y I do it anymore - 12 days ago
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Then maybe he's giving you exactly the ultimatum you need to realize what's important. If you don't know why you're doing something, it's probably not the best thing to do. - 12 days ago
Please don't cut anymore...you have a guy that is willing to see you through this and is willing to be there when you need him. He seems to love you and wants you to get better, if not for him stop cutting for yourself, go get help & I'm sure he will stand by you when you need it the most.
Stop cutting, get help and be there for the guy who seems to be there for you. He is scared that something bad will happen to you...dont let that thought come true for him...try your best.
First of all, I think it's great that he loves you enough to demand that you stop. That's a really good thing. As for HOW to stop, you probably need professional help to do it. A therapist can help you out how to help you get your emotions under control without doing something like cutting to make it worse. Good luck.
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