[ Reality Check ] + psychology
- It's bothering you, otherwise you wouldn't be asking about it (The name calling)
- You try to believe highly of yourself, but are having difficulty with the self-esteem part
- You like to impress people (You're trying to blow this off likes it's nothing)
- Name calling, is not "Fun" or "Flirty"
Talk to them just like normal, they are your friends - but when they say something about you being a jerk, don't be a pushover and DO NOT SAY:
"It really hurts my feelings when you say that..."
"Jesus! Aren't you a b___h?"
What you do want to do - is to reinforce what works, if they start name calling to get your attention (just like the kid that pokes you physically trying to have you pay attention) - IGNORE them. Don't give them the time of day, if they are excessive and/or abusive with it - then bluntly say "Enough - I like your company, but I won't be belittled for someone elses' entertainment"
Anyone that thinks this is "fun" "flirty" or otherwise, simply finds it fun with a BEST friend, which is different than a relationship. You wouldn't go up to your wife and go "Hoe- get me some milk" (sarcasm)