3 year relationship with girl, I am her first boyfriend.
She wants the relationship to progress, I just want to chill out.. I have a bit of a fear to commit.
Mutually agree to break up, because she was unhappy. Love and respect her a lot, gives me time to think. And she says she wants to look for a more serious relationship.
She asks if we can still be friends, but she doesn't want to see me because its "too difficult"
I respect her.
After break up, Tell her every day I love her, and ask her how she is.
I notice and from mutual friends I hear she is partying a lot, on every dating app, going on dates etc.
It hurts me deep inside, but I still try to respect her because I feel like a jackass for not wanting to progress our relationship.
After 2 weeks I break down, I miss her lots.
I want to marry her, start pursuing her.
first subtly, then she starts rejecting me. I am confused, confess my feelings and undying love for her.
She says she is not sure I am honest with her. I tell her I am. Try to prove it.
She strings me along, keeps dating other men, partying etc. I am slowly going insane. Pursue even harder to prove I am dead serious about her, also I am scared she starts sleeping around.
She notices how much I love her, she keeps me in the friend zone.
While she is dating other men.
hurts a lot.
This goes on for 3 months where she grows more and more distant, and I grow more and more obsessed with her and depressed because nothing seems to work.
she says there is nobody else
Eventually I hear she was sleeping around, she knew I would resent her for that. However she keeps on doing it and she doesn't care nor respect me at all any more.
She says I am a closed chapter.
I am devastated.
How could a woman do this? She used to be head over heels for me, she said she was looking for a serious relationship, I told her I wanted to give that to her 2 weeks after we broke up.
Why would she string me along while sleeping around like that?
Why didn't she just come back?
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This is all your fault. You've already made her feel you didn't want a future with her and she started to move on in her head. She doesn't trust or respect you anymore because ecen after three years you didn't want to progressiv your relationship. It took her leaving for you to figure that out and she probably doesn't believe you and even if she does you're not interesting to her anymore because she already started to process of moving on and she probably feels she had to "force you" to commit/progressiv the relationship. No girl wants to feel line that. People want to feel Desirée and special. Telling her you don't want to commit is telling her "I don't want a future with you because I don't love you enough", "you aren't special enough" or "I'm not ready to give the idea of being with someone else up for you".
And like someone else said, you probably only want her back now because you can't have her.
This is all your fault, now leave her alone.5