So, a few months back, my ex decided she wanted to breakup because her crazy mother didn't want us dating. (She's 17 and I'm 18) Since she had plans to move back in with her father, she promised me that once she had moved in with him, we would get back together. We still talked with each other, and it seemed like she really did want to get back together.
However, a few weeks ago, I was scrolling through my Instagram feed. I noticed that some guy was commenting on all of her pictures and was flirting with her. After looking at the guy's page, I learned that he was actually my replacement, and that the two of them were dating. It made it even worse that I learned this when I saw a picture of them kissing.
When I confronted her about it, she said she didn't see anything wrong with it, and began to treat me like trash. I was devastated. She acted like an entirely different person, and it seemed like we had never been together.
I then told her that we needed to break things off, and I then proceeded to remove her number from my phone, and removed her from my Facebook, Snapchat, and Instagram. I decided I would go "No Contact" in hopes that she would begin to miss me and regret her decision.
However, it's been 3 weeks, and I haven't heard anything. Does "No Contact" really work to get an ex back, or is it hopeless?
Most Helpful Girl
😕 Trust me it won't work untill that guy uses her all up and dumps her.
Iv used that method it worked great but the person was single and lonely without me.
Dont beg her it will make her wanna treat you like trash. I wouldn't take her back because she's gonna be the type to not care about your feelings anymore5
Most Helpful Guy
Nothing is guaranteed, it may work or not. But when I look back in the past, everytime I stopped talking to a girl, she came back month, two months later, but she never had different guy at that time also I didn't know about "No contact" because I was young, and I still am. I went through no contact for two weeks and then I broke it, because I knew from everyone that she was missing me, she even started doing some weird things around me so I just broke it, but haven't move it forward yet. You should use this free time which you have now to something useful, make yourself a better person, go to gym, learn some new language or so on,... just work on yourself to have higher chances of her noticing, that she lost someone who is totally different than your old yourself.
But you should think about some things :
- If you really want to make her happy because you like her, maybe it will be better if you let her with her new boyfriend
- No contact works sometimes to get someone back, under certain conditions, if you had an big fight when you last talked about it, don't expect her to come back saying "Ohh I missed you all the time!"
- Also no contact is supposed to help you move on, this is the main goal when you want to use no contact, 3 weeks is a lot, do you still have the same feelings for her like you did in the beginning?
- Is she texts you, it's probably win situation for you, because you will know that she still cares (it depends on what she will text you of course) but I have to warn you, that conversation with her will feel so weird until you get more into it. If she won't text you, it's win situation for you as well, because you will know that she doesn't care and you can move on (actually you should start moving on since day one of no contact, remove that hope from your head)
The best thing you can do now, is to work on yourself, socialize, find new friends, let her know that you can live great without her, this will make your chances bigger, but don't expect it to work, it's not universal "strategy" or how to call it to get someone back. Anyways I wish you good luck with no contact, I know how you feel but it will make you more emotionally stronger.1