No contact works best when it is used against the person who initiated the breakup.
For example, girlfriend breaks up with guy. Guy, rather than begging to be accepted back and looking for her approval, tells her "well if you want to get back together, let me know." and leaves it at that. He then doesn't contact AT ALL. This gives her time to think about him, to reconsider her feelings for him, without him being clingy or trying to prove himself.
The no contact rule can work to get an ex back /sometimes/ but most guys are so invested with their emotions (love is love after all) that they act irrational, start begging for a second chance, aren't patient and call repeatedly if she says she just wants some space, and even stay friends in the hopes that she will come around to see the light. The problem with staying friends is that the likelyhood that she will regain respect and love for you in a romantic way is slim to none. There is no mystery, no space, and the guy becomes like an emotional "girl friend" rather than a sexy, attractive, integrated boyfriend.
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Haha, she would have had to change my life drastically for the better in order for me to hold her in such high regard... I've done that even with friends I have no... If we were good friends... We live around here... You get mad at me for something, don't come talk to me and work it out... And stay gone for weeks on end.. and try to come back... I'm done with you... And this goes double for a girl I would date. She shouldn't think she isn't replacable... All people in relationships are replacable if they so choose to leave. Simple as that.
It worked for me. He dumped me so I had to cut all contact with him. I did it not to make him miss me or regret breaking up with me but I did it for me to heal... not even a month later, he came crawling back. But enough is enough. I didn't want him anymore... He insisted to stay friends after all we had history. But I told him, I don't want to be friends with him and that we should go separate ways for good and move on with our lives. He got pissed but I didn't care. You didn't want me, you lost me for good. So bye.
The ‘no contact thing’ is to help you move on not get someone back. Don’t buy into gimmicks that prey on the vulnerabilities of those who have just broken up with someone and desperate to get them back.
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I get the no contact thing. You broke up, it's over, close the book and move on. But if she's ignoring me as some kind of warped game to see if I'd come crawling back when she starts talking to me again? I'm afraid she'd be sorely disappointed when I would be the one not returning her texts.
It would piss me off. I get the no contact thing. You broke up, it's over, close the book and move on. But if she's ignoring me as some kind of warped game to see if I'd come crawling back when she starts talking to me again? I'm afraid she'd be sorely disappointed when I would be the one not returning her texts, etc... And never would again.
I've been in this situation and all I can say is it backfired pretty bad on the girl in question. She ignored me for about a month straight, then tried speaking to me again and got veeeery annoyed when I returned 😂 She literally made me get over her by trying to keep me hooked, so I guess it made me feel great
I think that's what I do after a breakup.. not because she don't wanna see me.. it's because I need to get up and make myself strong.. so I delete her number her pics her fb everything.. and then if I wanted to. contact her i couldn't because I don't have anything.. so then I just forgets about her ;)
I dont get back with ex's. So. it wouldn't effect me. But everyone knows this move. So for me i just would be pissed that she is trying to be manipulative and fake.
If a girl says she wants to remain friends and then continues to ignore me for a months, I'll move on and break off the friendship unless she had a good reason
I think I would have found enough distractions by then to return comms VERY seldom
feeling that our lives are traveling on completely different ships
eventually feeling graced by the breakupNone of the above. She's demonstrably unreliable even as a friend, so I'd have shifted her to acquaintance; just someone I know.
the whole no contact thing mostly shows two results :
1. either make the other person more desperate for you
2. or either that person gets pissed off, and move on from youNope. The distance after a break-up would just help me move ob
I'd never offer to be friends to begin with. Clean break is best. I'd severe all contact myself and never talk to her again.
Probably she needed time to get over you. Out of sight out of mind.
by the way you got to move on. If you still thinking this way then it clearly shows that u still stuck on her.Literally it feel like I have been used the entire time... she just used me as a tool... she never had any interest in me the whole time.
In isolation, not necessarily - it depends on a lot of other factors too.
thats most probably the way id feel:
By then I’d just totally ignore her. Never respond to anything.
Of course I’ll also stop texting her after the first 3 days of being ignored.I accept her but will face all the pain n all he'll n know real life in between and all my mistakes I made too if I m in this situation
I try to stay friends with my exes, but if they fall off the radar no big deal.
I'd be annoyed she just ghosted me and probably have given up/moved on.
It would make me feel like I've done something wrong.
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