WOW! I felt like I just read about myself! I can def relate. I'll share my story-
With a guy 5 yrs.Lived together 4. I did everything!Cooked,cleaned,helped his mom because she was ill,helped with bills when he was outta work for a yr!Always doing sweet little things,put the loan for his car in my name, etc.We were VERY sexual as well, I was always ready to please him..But I too never got a date.First 2 years I didn't get gifts on my bday, he 4got my birthday one yr, never gave cards,Never had an anniversary. I knew the type of Boyfriend he could be,bc I saw how he treated his girlfriend before me.He did EVERYTHING for her & she ended up breaking his heart. I paid for her actions. He didn't want to go out because they went out alot.He didn't want the title, because when they got a title things went sour. I was compared to his ex the whole relationship.After 4 years & several times of telling him how I felt.I started to resent him.He was my 1st love, so as much as I was in love w/him, I knew things werent right..but I couldn't let go on my own. I knew he loved me. It was just the fact that he didn't do anything extra for me. Like u, I'm not materialistic at all! I didn't ask for much & he gave nothin.Once I became resentful,we began arguing. He'd go out w/friends, but never take me out. I would get attitudes because I was tired of being hurt.He was plannin on buying a house & told me his mother would live with us (he cares for her) which I knew & was fine with.After a year of contd arguing, he ended it, but didn't want it to end it for good. He said he felt pressured,this was the same time he bought a home.So my love & my dreams were gone.
Like u, I wanted to be w/him 4ever, but I knew deep down we needed to break up. I always thought we would have to go through this before we could be together for good. I just wanted him to realize what he had. I'm guessing this is your motive for walking away as well. You know the love & bond is there,but you want him to see what he has & cherish u, or at least show appreciation! No I do not think your being silly at all! You know this is what you have to do. You don't want to stay in the situation & end up angry w/him.
We been apart 2 yrs.Hes always kept contact.For 8 months I begged him back,he pushed me away.So I tried to move on.I met a new guy.THIS is when my Ex asked me on a date!(go fig) I told him it wasn't the right time.He was hurt but, still kept intouch weekly. (I never got w/the new guy) 3 months ago we began talkin ALOT,he'd call more,text all day,talk on webcam,etc. I thought he was tryin to come around & ask me on a date.Then I hear he has a Girlfriend of 7 months he didn't tell me about! I was crushed.When I asked him,he cried & begged me not to hate him.He says he's only w/her because he thought I moved on.He calls her his Girlfriend & does extra for her! But still seems unhappy.I gave him 2 months to fig it out, but he's not leaving her.So I walked away =(
Hopefully this will make your guy wake up! You deserve more! You just want him to love u, how you love him! G'luck Girl!