Does the "leave him/her alone and he will come to you" apply to every situation?

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Lets be honest if you are not dating the guy or girl does the whole "I'm not going to contact him so he will contact me more " really apply to every situation? Because my ex boyfriend he says that he don't want me in his life but now we are talking because I initiated contact . I'm tired of reading these articles that say mess like if you don't bother him he will want to come to you. My ex has a girlfriend so you mean to tell me if I suddenly l leave him alone he will be all over me again ? When I called him he said I'm f$&#%?+ working then he hanged  up but he was texting me regularly today & he will tell me when he is sad. His girlfriend lives in a different state for now

Yeahhbro · Accepted Answer

Only if you have dated, because you have actually spend quiet some time together, so yes in relationships it does apply or if you have talked for quiet a while. But the whole "ignore him, so he will chase you more or be more attracted to you" is the worst piece of advice women have ever got seriously...does that even make sense?

Some girl that liked me did that to me and at the time I had no idea what is happening, it got me really frustrated and I just stopped talking to her, did she actually make me more attracted to her? not really it made me more mad and frustrated but not more in lovw with her. Because of that we don't talk anymore.

In relationships it might work because you might smother the other person and they might start to miss you, so in that cause it might work. Or if you are mad and you do that, he might get the hint that you are mad at him or something is going on.

BUT it is a weapon of that might come back and bite you back, because this can potentially destroy good relationships. Communication and honesty are always the best.

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

It's one of the most widely believed lies about relationships.. "just leave her and if she won't come back it was never meant to be, wait, maybe she will come back to you!"

Haha, I just can't believe people believe it! It's so laughable it's pathetic!

What if somebody left YOU? Would you keep chasing them? Well.. if you are desperate then yes, in that saying "meant to be" equals "desperate" and "never meant to be" equals "having selfrespect"

Why people can't open their f***ing eyes and think clearly?

If you like someone - show it, chase them! If there's mutual attraction, why should it ever go wrong?

If they don't respond to your advances only then stop bothering!

But damn.. some people even start ignoring their own damn crushes BECAUSE they showed interest.. "to make them chase more"

And now you wonder from where come all those super lame questions here about relationship failure!

Standingpretty · Accepted Answer

Let's put it this way, most of the time people want what they can't have. You have read so many articles about it because it is true. This is part of the break-up cycle that everyone who has ever gotten over their ex knows about. They break-up with you, you try and contact them, you sort of talk but not really, It seems like they might come back then they get distant, you either read or people tell you not contacting them is the best way to get them back, you don't listin and it goes no where with the ex. I know about a million people where it happened exactly the same way.  Words mean nothing after someone brakes up with you. It's not worth chasing after someone who is not chasing after you. The best thing would be to avoid this guy all together because he doesn't sound stable.

Arwens-Fire · Accepted Answer

It doesn't work in every case,it depends on the history between two people.AND,he is your ex for a reason,so take that into consideration.If he is talking to you again because his girlfriend is elsewhere or trying to start something up,would you seriously want to be with someone like that?Also,there is a way to be civil when a breakup occurs.If someone told me they do not want me in their life...i wouldn't be in their life on any level.Words like that are hurtful,AND then he cursed you out for calling and hung up on you.Wow,you sure are chasing an amazing guy. -_-

Respect yourself enough and look for something better.Know within yourself that you deserve better.

esmiksaaron · Accepted Answer

its mostly about the person's personality. if they aren't the type of people that are intuitive and tend to not understand the distancing is a positive sign, then it doesn't work.

if its someone who likes a challenge and is probably a bit more confident, then it'll probs work

calichick · Answer

Bullsh*t! How is he or she supposed to know you are interested if you don't show you are interested. I've never followed that rule. You talk to them and they'll talk back if interested. You can usually tell when someone isn't interested so I don't try. Simple as that. I'm not one for playing games.

martyfellow · Answer

No, of course not every situation. If they are in a relationshp with someone else, likely ignoring thm won't get their attention will it? Just for example.

This adage is meant for situations where you are both unattached and clearly attracted to each other, only. Other situations require a different approach.

Anonymous · Answer

wow...it's great that you're trying to get back with your ex WHILE he has a GIRLFRIEND. and it's even better that you're helping him to emotionally cheat on his GIRLFRIEND by allowing him to text you and tell you when he's sad...things that he should be telling his GIRLFRIEND, because I bet she has NO CLUE that he's texting you.

Ninjaturtle969 · Answer

it doesn't work for me because if I don't text him he will never text me, he thinks its cute when a girl texts him and I think its cute when a guy texts me so I'm stuck

Anonymous · Answer

No, it isn't correct most of the time. It depends on the person you're dealing with.

Sometimes when you set them free i.e. not contact them, they fly away. Other times, they might enjoy the challenge and try to get back with you.

enlightenment · Answer

if he loves you it will work...if he isn't into you then it won't work

Anonymous · Answer

If I wouldn't have made the moves I did with my current boyfriend like talking to him first, asking him out, etc, then he may not have gotten the hint and we wouldn't be where we are today.

Eiffelgirl21 · Answer

I just think of it this way, 'If you love him, let him go...and if he loves you, he will be back..sooner or later'

Blankname1 · Answer

I pick D.It all depends on the people and there past.Some will start chasing you and some won't,but it really all depends.

Anonymous · Answer

Only in some situations, because in others, he/she never returns.

Anonymous · Answer

I left her alone, and she left..

Anonymous · Answer

only in some situations.if they really want you.

LightUp · Answer

depend s.

PANDAmonium · Answer

It's a stupid idea

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