My girlfriend slapped me! Should I dump her?

[Anonymous]

So we got into a bit of a heated argument the other day, and by the end of it she was calling me names and then I just blurted out 'shut the f*** up you bitch' and she slapped me afterwards.

Should I dump her for slapping me?

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+1 y

Ok, this question was just a test to see if girls really do embrace the double standard that men should be dumped for slapping a woman, but women get to get away with it because they are 'weaker' many of you pass. but still some of you ladies here... smh

[alchemy12]

Depends. How much do you have invested in this relationship? What was her response afterwards? For me one slap wouldn't be a total deal breaker but two would. Chances are if she did it once she'd do it again especially if she wasn't apologetic after BUT you both were fighting dirty with name calling. I think it's important to set parameters for fights in a relationship; no hitting below the belt by getting into name calling and hitting, then stick to it. If you guys can't do that then you shouldn't be together.

[Asker]

do you think calling her a bitch was worse than her calling me an a**hole?

[alchemy12]

No, I think they hold about the same weight in terms of an insult. Bitch may be a bit less, but when combined with "Shut the fuck up" it holds more gravity than something like, "You're an a**hole."

[Anonymous]

Yes. Physical violence is unacceptable. No one has the right to put their hands on someone else in a threatening or violent way. Some women think they can go around slapping guys and there will not be any consequences for it just because they are girls. I think you should just move on from the relationship if she behaves that way. She may have been offended by your comment but that does not give her the right to hit you.

[Anonymous]

It's not acceptable for a guy to hit a girl so why should it be OK the other way around? If it was me I would dump her.

[Opinion Owner]

Thanks for best answer

[ShadowFan12]

Honestly I'm surprised she didn't just get up and walk out for you calling her a bitch. On the other hand, neither of you are right in this situation. You've got two choices: 1. You guys make up and fix what you can to save the relationship, or... 2. you guys just don't do anything to resolve the conflict, which, given enough time, will easily kill the relationship. Your choice.

[Asker]

do you think calling a woman a bitch is worse than calling a guy an a**hole?

[ShadowFan12]

No, I didn't say one was worse than the other at all.

[RasmusAiken]

If it was just a common open-hand bitch-slap I wouldn't dump her.

But you two need to have an unemotional heart-to-heart talk about fair fighting. Do this with a disinterested referee counselor if necessary. Fair fighting means you must remain civil. Name calling and physical violence cannot become routine in any loving relationship.

[Tabra]

Sounds like an explosive relationship all together, verbal abuse and physical abuse are both wrong and if you guys can't work things out without such explosiveness then it's probably best for you both to go your own ways before either of you get hurt.

[Anonymous]

im not saying that it is right, but when girls slap guys its not really with the intention of hurting them. but when its vice versa its kind of bad cos girls are usually more fragile & weak. you were both wrong so sit down & talk it out.

[vmw2008]

You're both abusive and should break up to work on yourselves and learn how to handle anger in a relationship.

[LJHam]

She should dump you first for saying that to her. Two wrongs don't make a right. You should take vnw2008's advice.

[Asker]

Oh, but its OK for her to slap me for it?

[LJHam]

I did say TWO wrongs (meaning both you and her).

[Asker]

but you said SHE should dump me. clearly taking her side in this

[LJHam]

I'm not taking sides (b/c I don't know the whole situation, ie: both sides of the story). I said she should dump you because that's what I would do. But that doesn't mean that if I had been in her shoes I would've reacted by slapping you.

I have been known to slap a couple guys in my past, but that was long ago when I was young & dumb. It wasn't right what I did nor what she did. You have a good reason to break up with her just as she does.

[Asker]

ok then. thanks for the clarity

[Vesuvius87]

Seems like neither of you are right for each other. Move on and learn how to settle your arguments without name callings.

[aMuse]

Yeah, kick her to the curb. She needs to learn how to behave.

[Asker]

do you think calling a woman a bitch is worse than calling a guy an a**hole?

[aMuse]

No.

[Anonymous]

She should dump you for calling her a bitch.

[Asker]

she called me names to like 'you a**hole'

[HannahC]

i think being called a bitch is really offensive, it'd make me really mad. I always thought I'd dump a guy if he called me a bitch. I kind of think bitch is a bit worse than being called an a**hole.

[Asker]

because you're a woman and are not seeing it from a mans perspective. the way she said it, like the intent behind it was just as bad as when I called her bitch

[xzinax2]

well,after what you said...you both have issues,you abused her verbally,she abused you physically. neither of you are really dating material,you both need to grow up,away from each other preferably.

[Asker]

is verbal abuse the same as physical?

[xzinax2]

yes. if anything it can mean more and leave worse scars than a slap. ''bitch'' should never be used by a man. it's worse than a**hole or jerk because it's more violent and hateful. you showed disrespect and aggression,and told her to shut up in the same sentence. this isn't something you should do to anyone let alone a lover.

[Asker]

bitch is more violent than a**hole? I don't think so

[xzinax2]

it is. never use it,there is a hierarchy to swear words,and bitch is pretty damn bad.

[Asker]

i disagree then it's just as bad.

[xzinax2]

well,expect a lot of slaps in your future then.

[Asker]

im not saying I'm going to keep saying it, I'm saying that a**hole can be just as bad as bitch. and in this case it sure as hell was

[xzinax2]

you're not hearing it the same way a girl hears it,bitch is gender specific and threatening. just...don't. and talk to her,no more slapping people,just talk it out and stop being aggressive towards each other.

[Asker]

and you're not hearing a**hole the same way a guy hears it. to say bitch is worse is a bit sexist

[xzinax2]

are you kidding me? are you familiar with the history of women's standing in society? it's like saying that if a bear is beating a rabbit while saying bitch,and the rabbit is calling the bear an a**hole while being beaten,it's the same. bitch has been used to degrade women simply based on gender,and to shut down any voice they have (''shut the fuck up you bitch'' ring a bell?)

[Asker]

so women are rabbits, men are bears? you are not helping your case and sound pretty sexist here.

[aMuse]

Just let it go she's a dumb bitch that thinks guys don't have feelings...

[xzinax2]

it's about the level of power and privilege men have. it's not sexist,you're thinking in the same way people who believe in reverse racism think-that the people who have the actual privilege and power can act oppressed-guess what,you can't. it isn't real. saying the ''n'' word isn't the same as ''cracker'' and ''bitch'' isn't the same as ''a**hole''

[Asker]

Maybe in your country, but in America women are pretty damn privileged now. especially with the courts. Asshole with her intention was just as bad as me calling her bitch. you are not going to convince me otherwise

[xzinax2]

you- link

[Asker]

"I am a feminist."

Thats all I needed to read before I clicked away. I don't fear women. but that doesn't make what she called me OK or any LESS sexist than me calling her a bitch.

[xzinax2]

you did not get the point,but that's okay,because I don't have the time to deal with every American white straight boy who thinks he's opressed.

[Asker]

i don't think I'm oppressed either. but what you are saying here is still sexist

reverse racism is still racism

[xzinax2]

nope.

[Asker]

yep

[Anonymous]

Yes, if you don't she will feel that is acceptable behavior.

[SeraphenaAngel]

She should dump you for calling her the B name.

[Asker]

so her slapping me was justified? She called me an a**hole too btw

[DeeDeeGrl]

I would dump her she can't go around hitting people because she's mad that's ridicules

[Anonymous]

Women think they are better than guys and that their actions are justified. Women have such an inflated view of themselves

[Anonymous]

Yeah dump her ass

[Lj238]

I would