When you are in college you probably notice that majority girls chased after small clique of guy who were either really attractive, tall, popular (were in many clubs, social groups, fraternities) and/or rich. if you were a guy who focus on studying, came from a middle class family and weren't super hot chances are most women won't even recognize you existed unless they needed your help for school.
Now, here's the typical script among women. In college they have access to guys who are going to become successful in future, come from well off families and who are attractive. So they all chase down and spread their legs over and over for these guys throughout their college years in a vain attempt to see which one among them can get the relationship. It usually only pans out well for the girl who are super hot and the rest of the girl get burnt. Some girls go gay after that, some take a break from dating, others realize their value and pick a guy whose are their physical equal grudgingly coming down to the end of their college years or after college is over.
Now when you go out into the work force many guys experience a phenomenon where their is a massive rise of women starting taking interest. They are finally getting some attention and women looking to them for relationship/sex.
My advice from young men at this point is to realize what women are saying to you. When you were in college your SMV (sexual market value) was low because you probably were a broke college kid with average looks. Most Women deemed your SMV low and weren't really that attracted to you. The only reason women are giving you a chance now is because:
1. Their dating pool for eligible men for these women have shrunk dramatically. Meaning if we were to reverse the hands of time 2-3 years on these girls and put them back into college you wouldn't even register. College is a time where both men and women have access to biggest sample size of men and women they'll have in their life. When they reach the workforce this sample size gets greatly reduced. So at this point any women who is hitting on you and showing you attention at work place isn't doing so because she lust after you and wants to be with you. She's doing so because you are the best she can get in her limited dating pool.
2. Money. Women crave money. They chase money. The only difference for most guys when they start working is they begin making money. So you'll find women sudden interest isn't because they grew up and mature. It's just that they see you have money and want to spend it on them.
So here's my advice for young men who suddenly get a massive interest in women after school.
A. Always be skeptical of women''s words and actions. Never give your heart completely to women at this point and thinks she loves you for you.
B. Do not get into relationship/marriage with the first girl that shows interest. Play the field. Date around and be with other women. You have money now so travel and see what's out there in the world.
C. Only ever settle down for a woman who is worth it. Even if you are skeptical about a woman at this point being with you for your money (security). You ask yourself this. How does this woman enrich my life ? If she has positive traits that you like that makes your life better then even if deep down she's only with you for financial security/stability, you are also with her for traits she has. So in short it's a mutual benefit partnership in which you are with each other for something rather than having a parasite for a wife/GF.
D. Never let your peers, friends, and family pressure you into settling down when you reach a particular age. If you think the women you keep meeting are trash and have doubts about taking the dive then do not settle down.
NOT ALL OF US ARE GOING TO GET OUR HAPPY ENDING.