As a Tall Girl, 3 Big Problems I'd Have Dating Shorter Guys

[beingmemyselfandI]

First things first, I have never actually dated anyone but I know, from being around guy friends who are a deal smaller than me I would find it awkward dating anyone their height. Before you all lash out its not because I do not find them attractive. In fact I find a lot of smaller men attractive. Despite this various reasons have made me a bit wary of doing so.

Insecurity

This is one of the main reasons I would have a problem. While I normally love my height - I even call myself Giant and Giraffe (6 foot 2 in case you were wondering) - when standing next to a boy quite a bit smaller than me i feel more insecure. This is probably due to the media telling us that men need to be taller than women and the other way around looks weird. I know it may seem superficial but it probably won't change. Especially because other people would look at it as quite weird. As well as this: I am always seeing pictures of how great small girls are, as they can be with anyone, yet there is till stigma surrounding tall girls.

Weight Issues

No matter what I weigh, I will always feel fat, as I would have a bigger figure and more than likely have bigger size clothes, which would make me feel self-conscious of my weight. Even if I was not overweight, I would feel like I was because of the height difference. To be honest, I sometimes feel this way around girls as well and when I am towering over them. I feel big and clumsy.

Heels

Obviously this doesn't really matter, but I like to wear shoes with a bit of a heel and can feel uneasy when wearing heels around smaller people. As well as this, I have been told by wearing flat shoes too much I could do damage to my spine because my feet turn inwards (no joke), so therefore it is better for my physical well-being to wear slightly heeled shoes, which can sometimes make me feel like a giant.

Thanks for reading this MyTake. I hope you understand and feel free to comment if you have any questions regarding it.

[iCroissant]

Omg, as a short guy almost all these problems are true for me!!

Insecurity, obviously all the dream boats are 6' or more. And dating a girl shorter than you is awful enough knowing she probably wishes you were taller. Throw in a girl who's taller than you and you'll basically feel like she wants to cheat on you every second you stand next to her.

Weight issues,
Most guys can beat us up. Unless we're Bruce Lee (5'7") we are probably not stronger than taller guys, and if we are it's still not as apparent. Plus height always has an advantage in a fight.

[Imcmullan]

I don't think you should feel insecure about it. Date who you want. I'm 5'7 and the person I'm head over heels for is 5'5 ... that's short for men. I only wear heels... lol.. but he doesn't seem to mind... you Have

[Imcmullan]

... have to be confident in yourself. I wish I was taller. Long legs are sexy

[SuitAndTie]

Do you still wear heels when you're with him?

[SuitAndTie]

Oh you do, sorry, missed that part.

[Brokenheartedx]

That's true with flat shoes not only spine problems but flat feet as well.

My cousin is quite tall and dated a guy that was around my height.. a guy that has confidence will not bother about your height. When I think tall girls I think models mostly they are all tall ESP catwalk models. As for clothes it don't matter your height, fitted clothes look good on anyon of all sizes and make you feel good about yourself..

You're take on small girls getting anyone? That's not true otherwise is smaller girls would all be walking about with eye candy and big smiles on our face..

There's a reason why majority of men are over 6ft.. why you not looking at them if height issues with yourself and a smaller man is the confidence killer?

When you get older you'll shrink with age so make the most of being young and don't let your height stop you.. you are only stopping yourself..

[Bananaman177]

I've always had my best luck hitting on tall girls, because they tend to understand that you can't control how tall you are, they're not psychotically obsessed with a man's height like most women, they're more understanding. I don't give a shit if you're 8' tall. I'm about 5'9''. If you give a shit how tall I am, eh, kiss my ass. That's all just shit left over from Annunaki days, anyway. Those girls who worship tall guys are idiots. A tall guy's just as likely to be a dirtbag as anybody else. Try valuing things like honesty, integrity, loyalty, intelligence, shit like that. That's my advice. Take it or leave it.

[beingmemyselfandI]

Thanks. obviously i do care about personality but the issue i was talking about wasn't i don't find them attractive, it's my issue with my height making me uncomfortable

[Bananaman177]

Well no one can help you with that except you, sweetheart.

[UnknownXYZ]

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Maybe I am just being cynical but I find it hugely bewildering how easily women succumb to their insecurity related to height. It's like the main thing women come out with and say "Yep, I don't feel feminine... I care to feel feminine. It's that clear" but get away with it because the media and society back them. I wish more women just wouldn't feel so casual about it.

[BeeNee]

Women didn't just make this up in the same way men don't make up the idea that women tend to care about things like men's height, muscles, amount of hair, and penis size. Society has an entire culture around specifying and enforcing what is considered attractive, what the other gender 'should' be attracted to, and then selling you all the ways to help you make that happen if you don't check the boxes naturally. I've been made fun of my whole entire life for being tall until I left school. I'm a strong person, but yeah, it gets to you every once in a while, and for others, the pain of that runs much deeper and even becomes a psychological issue with having low self esteem about it. Both sexes feel a lot of pressure about these things, and it can be hard to recognize that if you don't check the boxes, you can still be awesome too.

[UnknownXYZ]

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@BeeNee Hmmm... I still don't know... I feel like their are a lot of more stronger social pressures women are biting tooth and nail to liberate themselves from but height just doesn't seem to be one of them. I would go as far to say that it seems many women embrace the double standard. I could argue that men are the same as well. But it seems that men aren't that outspoke to say "Yep, she's too tall and that hurts my masculinity." Some men do have that perception but it tends not a common attitude towards it ***even*** if a man didn't date any women taller than her.

Trying to be very careful with my wording here but it can all be for naught. Sorry if I offend you if I managed do so. It wasn't my intention.

[BeeNee]

Um, you nor I can liberate ourselves from our height! LOL. There is no actual way, including surgery, to circumvent the fact that a woman or man is born at the height they are, so when you say, women aren't fighting it, it's because they can't, but they can still talk about it and the troubles associated with it. Even though I love my own height, I can't make or force another woman to love her own or to help her self esteem so it's not like dependent on approval by others. I also don't know what that woman has been through to get to the point where she hates or dislikes some aspect of herself, so I try not to judge too harshly comments like that or from men who complain about various insecurities.

[UnknownXYZ]

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@BeeNee Fair enough. I guess I was referring to the fact that many people want to bash others for their height since that cannot be changed (although for shorter people, there is leg lengthening).

[mostwomenshouldstfu]

@BeeNee That's incorrect. You can modify your height to an extent (not healthily mind you). Not everything we are born with is what we end up with either. As far as tall women, not so sure it's as much hurt as it is uncertainty they can provide for them. The dynamic is different. Being supported, one would naturally expect a larger mate with larger potential. Being a smaller when provided for, means greater chance of successfully being supported. Buuuuut, there's a wild card, in this day and age, size often matters not. Biology still lagging behind society. Intelligent men understand this, that's the equalizer, but they still have to demonstrate it, if they're so intelligent after all.

[UnknownXYZ]

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@mostwomenshouldstfu Interesting point... This relates back to my initial point about women succumbing to their 'primitive' perceptions and opt for height without it having much meaning to how society is now.

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I guess the only sensible answer is that height as a tool for intelligence and providing is no longer logical. We cannot justify nor prove that height has any real benefit in society apart from a self-fulfilling prophecy which many want to constantly reinforce.

[mostwomenshouldstfu]

No, you're downplaying height. It's still an advantage (and disadvantage) today as it was thousands of years ago. Intelligence is just anither trait, and doesn't always trump everything either. If you remove all physical contact, then yeah, all traits may seem irrelevant.

[mikemx55]

Until very very recently, I had never seen a couple where the woman was shorter than the guy, and I used to think it would be weird to see it.

But recently, I've been close to two couples like that, and I gotta say that when I saw it in person, I didn't find it weird, as I thought I would. I mean, they were both tall and so am I. She must have been 6"3 probably (german) and my guess is that he was about 5"9 or 6".
Point is: I think it matters less, because you get used to see everyone else shorter than you, both guys and girls. So you just embrace it. But hey, tall guys usually can appreciate a tall girl ;) keep that in mind.

(I'm 6"2 myself, so I had a good point of view)

[Kaazsz]

Personally I find really tall girls sexy as fuck! But I've never dated one taller than me =( I'm 6'1'' so y'all aren't common lol. I don't know why, but to me it feels very feminine that a girl would be taller. In my mind a man would be build strong, and stocky, with shorter bones which could withstand impact from wild bears and shit back in caveman time. Females would be taller, more brittle, softer, and their hight would be useful in some way. I don't know this all sounds like some crazy ass shit I made up because it is!

Also to me, the idea of throwing my taller than me girlfriend on the bed, spreading her out, tying up her hands, and just enjoying her long sexy legs, her long torso and her soft skin. I don't know, it's just hot to me.

[LittleSally]

I can completely understand this. I'd feel the same way if I were tall.
Everyone on here who says that wouldn't stop you dating a short guy - obviously didn't read a word you wrote... and is probably very simple minded...

[beingmemyselfandI]

Thank you :)

[Anonymous]

I kind of feel weird dating a girl that is shorter than me. She is always looking up at me. It is awkward to kiss her and I don't know what to do with my arm. I have to lean down to put it around her. If I want to I could just put it on top of her head.
I'm not sure how it will affect our sex life. She sometimes wears heals but they are not really tall enough and if they are to big they look weird on her. Also she twisted her uncle in a pair recently so those are out. I like when we sit cause if I slouch then I can talk with her eye to eye which I love doing.

[kaylaS91]

... I get where you're coming from as I'm 5'10" so can definitely relate.
As you're clearly aware, though, basically all of the 'issues' you face are in your head. They're issues YOU have to deal with. Limitations you put on yourself in order to conform to some kind of 'strict ideals' society pushes on you more than anything else.

[mits777]

I think you are right, I am 179 - 180 cm and have dated girls being 185 cm 190 cm without any problem. Maybe they feel great with me because I don't care about their height at all.

[kaylaS91]

@mits777 yeah, most likely. My boyfriend is shorter than me and I remember that before we started officially dating, I did a couple of things to make it (even more?) obvious that I was taller, like wearing heels and such. All things I never do otherwise but I was so convinced it'd bring a sudden realization to him that he didn't want to be with a girl who was taller, after a lifetime of my being told that guys 'need' to be taller as otherwise, they'll feel emasculated. (turns out my boyfriend loves my height and it was a huge turning point in how I've since viewed being a tall female.)
👌

[mits777]

Yeah nice. I am short guy 180 cm and still don't care about my girlfriend height, WHY? because I am still the guy and do all I have to do still regardless of my height. One time some freak stole my girlfriend phone in the street, I chased him and beat the fuck out of him, I can still protect my girlfriend and other examples. No need to care about height at all as long as I am a beast

[kaylaS91]

@mits777 180 isn't short at all (you're still taller than me) but touche. If the dynamic in your relationship is put off simply because of your heights not adhering to social norms, that speaks volumes about how well a couple would fare in the long run. The fact that I'm a bit taller than my boyfriend doesn't change how I'm still sub af to him. :P

[mits777]

haha, well you know what I DONT GIVE A FUCK about what society thinks about my relationships, and I was lucky for my girlfriend to think the same :P (2 girlfriend that were taller then me 185 and 190 cm). I don't live my life for the others, just for myself. I am sad when I see people breaking relationships because of what society thinks, we need to be free to do what we want and love

[Wulfila]

I wouldn't worry about it too much. I'm fairly short (5'7"), and I don't feel intimidated around tall women. Actually, I like when they are taller than I am, though I know that puts me into the minority. During my final semester at university, I liked a lady who was 6'4", and being around her didn't bother me any. Most dudes seemed rather intimated by her, and I think she found it refreshing to be around a guy who didn't treat her differently from all the average and short girls.

It takes more effort to make a short man-tall girl relationship work, but the payoff is completely justified if the two are compatible. Don't let inconsequential stuff get in the way of that.

[Anonymous]

6'2" tall wow
That's hella appealing and so good to look at.
That's sexy as hell.
It looks so nice.
Yeah that's true tall girls are intimidating and being a man on shorter side they make me feel insecure and fill me with inferiority complex, but I still find them beautiful sexy and better than short girls.
Why are YOU insecure?
It's us who feel smaller and inferior next to you , you might feel better and superior than us , so you shouldn't feel insecure.
What if a tall girl got mad and beat me up?
Hell she could easily knee my belly and punch my face but I won't be able to hit her face ever.
As a tall girl you are extremely lucky woman.
Take pride.

[capturemyheartnow]

At 6 ft 2 in you are not very tall. There are a lot of Americans who are taller than you. You only need to look around and find such people. Watch basketball and Volley Ball games and see if you like some of those boys. Then you can meet some fashion models and see if you like them. tall men can be found if you try to find them out with a purpose. Good luck to you

[beingmemyselfandI]

actually I am taller than the average man and I am in the top 2 percentile for female height. I do understand that there are people taller than me but I was just addressing the issue of people thinking me shallow and immature for not wanting to date shorter men

[capturemyheartnow]

You know how to approach life without hurting others. And that will help you a lot.

[Donanski]

I understand, being 5'11 myself. Which is not as tall as you but still quite tall for a girl. All boys I've dated have been shorter, but I'm taking pride in it now as I've been called a tall goddess because of it haha. The clothing/weight thing, yeah, I agree. I often need large sizes of jeans to fit my legs in well enough and that can be kind of embarrassing. But I wear my heels with pride, even next to my 5'9 boyfriend.

[Library]

If you want to date shorter guys then these problems shouldn't stop you?

[Unit1]

That's what I was thinking.

[Library]

Yeah like who would feel insecure about dating someone they like 😂

[SuitAndTie]

At least you've acknowledged that the insecurity is on your part. Most girls will fail to acknowledge this when giving the reasons they won't date short (er) guys.

[beingmemyselfandI]

I just wanted to make it clear, from my perspective it isn't the issue with the males height, because as I stated in myTake I can find them quite attractive, it is the issue with my height.

[RainbowFanGirl]

Wow you are 6'2", that is very tall for a girl. I get where you are coming from though, but I think it's all in your head. These "limitations" shouldn't stop you from chasing after the guy you want regardless of your height. I think you need to come over these insecurities and just go for what you want.

[Legaldrugdealer18]

What I'm sick of is guys accusing me of being superficial if I won't date anyone shorter than me. I'm sorry! There are too many inner emotions and insecurities it brings out to even begin settling with it.

[beingmemyselfandI]

This was the issue I was trying to address. making it clear that the problem wasn't I'm not attracted to small men but the problem being my insecurities

[Legaldrugdealer18]

Glad I'm not the only one who feels this way 😄

[AlwaysBelieving]

So what do you think about this: www.match.com/.../ ?

Would you be open to dating shorter guys? Unless I missed something, I don't think you ever said.

[Anonymous]

I don't mind if a girl is taller than me... opinion of people who think it's weird, is totally irrelevant.
It's completely normal for tall people to weight more, but they re obviously not overweight.
I don't like heels, not because of height, but because I just don't like them, I prefer girls in sneakers.

[Rissyanne]

I would love to be taller. I am 5ft 2. My boyfriend is 6ft 2. Sometimes it is like hugging my Daddy... lol. I love him but we can never see eye to eye. unless I stand on something. But I love him...

[Chico_brah]

@redeyemindtricks seems to be pretty good about discussing this lol

[Library]

She feels quite the opposite about this. Yeah her and op are the same height.

[redeyemindtricks]

Here ya go:

www.girlsaskguys.com/.../a29579-20-thoughts-of-a-freakishly-tall-girl-yeah-that-s-me

www.girlsaskguys.com/.../a31161-tall-girl-dates-short-guy

www.girlsaskguys.com/.../q2140661-sex-with-a-shorter-guy

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