I've been talking to this guy for awhile and immediately we had an emotional connection to eachother that neither of us have ever had with another person. We are very compatible. But there's one problem he's not physically attracted to me. He thinks I'm pretty and he loves my eyes, hair and smile but otherwise I'm not his type. I don't know what to do. I know with my ex I didn't fall for him physically till after we had been dating for awhile.. Is this possible for me and the guy I'm seeing now? What should I do?
- It's possibleVote A
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Most Helpful Girl
There isn't much you can do. Maybe he likes fat women and your skinny or vice versa. Maybe he likes tall women and you are short etc. You would only get miserable if you tried to change your body for someone else and then you would be resentful.
What you said about being attracted afterwards with a past boyfriend is quite common among women. They get the attraction after. Im not convinced the same holds true with men... they seem to know immediately if they are physically attracted or not and it doesn't seem to change afterwards. Of course there are probably exceptions. But I wouldn't keep my hopes up. Just stay friends with him. If its to hard now, then limit the amount of time you spend with him until you find another guy. If he is a true friend he will understand that continued exposure to him will only hurt you because you can't have him the way you want him.
If you are making out with him or having sex with him I would stop because you will only get hurt. Here is how it works he doesn't want you they way you want to be wanted, you don't give him the pleasure of benefiting from anything sexual. Now, you are both even... he gets no intimacy from you and you don't get a bf/gf relationship from... Just be friends... that's it!1