I really dislike one of my boyfriend's friends, and I don't know what to do about it.
She lied about health problems (probably for attention) which really pissed me off. I've been struggling with various health problems and crappy ignorant doctors, many of whom think I'm making my symptoms up, for the past 2 years, so I take lying about this very seriously. She and people like her are the reason people with real conditions are never taken seriously and given inadequate treatment.
Needless to say, we got off on the wrong foot, and I can't stand her lying, manipulative behavior.
To make matters worse, she has some sort of weird jealous thing for him (I don't even think she likes him romantically, just likes the male attention) and will make up lies about me and has tried to make me a running joke between them. She also completely disrespects our relationship and acts very sexually flirty with him.
It makes me really uncomfortable and puts a strain on our relationship.
She's not his best friend or anything, just someone a year younger than him that he went to high school with.
I just don't know how to deal with her. I can't handle her abuse, it's so catty and immature, and she refuses to talk to me about it.
My boyfriend and I ended up taking a break for a bit because of this strain on our relationship, plus we secretly met for a while as her abuse becomes worse when she knows we're together. Summer's coming to a close and soon we'll all be together again in college and I need some advice on how to deal.
Thanks in advance!
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that sounds like just women being women. there are so many questions on here, mostly from women actually, asking why other women have to be so nasty to them. if i knew why girls get jealous, or bicker, or put each other down, and how to stop it, i'd probably write a book about it and get extremely rich. Two solutions i can think of. One is just being honest with your boyfriend about how you feel, and leaving the decision whether to cut her out up to him. Trust me when i say that giving him an ultimatum or being demanding on the matter will just come across as the jealous girlfriend thing, especially if she's already gotten into his head. The other option is to propose a threesome, and then revel in the awkward silence that ultimately comes between them when she inevitably turns it down. Even on the off chance she's bi (1 in 10), she's not going to fuck a girl she hates so damn much, and if she did, you could use it as an opportunity to get back at her for her manipulativeness with some fucked up S&M shit, make her YOUR bitch once and for all. True, its not very sportsmanlike, but neither is she. In the words of Huey from the boondocks... Being the bigger man is overrated.0