I've struggled with my inability to find a man for years now and would be particularly interested in hearing a male perspective in this. Please note that I don't mean to come off as narcissistic in this post, just trying to paint a picture so you can evaluate what I might be doing wrong.
Basically, I'm a bit introverted, meaning I enjoy my quiet time and being alone as well as being with friends. I don't have a huge group of friends, just a few very good ones whom I know would give the shirt off their back for me should I ever need it. I can get along with people and try to treat everyone with respect and kindness but I wouldn't say most people gravitate towards me unless we share common interests. I'm also a little eccentric compared to most of the women around me since I love things like video games, comics, anime & manga, action movies, sports... etc. things guys usually enjoy. This makes it hard for me to make friends with women since most of them just don't care for that stuff and probably don't know what to talk to me about. I even understand their reaction even if it makes me a little sad since most don't even want to try.
Though I enjoy the geek culture I still dress and look like a woman. I'm not the most feminine girl out there (more Lara Croft type, to put it in game terms) who's always in a dress, but I do enjoy girly stuff and dressing up once in a while too. I've been told I'm a "beautiful woman" by both friends and random strangers. Yet men never seem to approach me unless they're drunk out of their mind. I admit my weakness is that I'm slightly shy and insecure when it comes to men. I'm pretty much clueless if a man likes me unless they plain and simply just say it, I don't pick up on subtle hints. I do go out to parties and bars every once in a while, but at the end of the night I always leave alone.
So, why do I end up alone and what could I do differently? All views and hints are appreciated.
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Are you fat?
Are you ugly?
Or are you kinda hot?
Do you give off prudish vibes?
Do you give off a vibe that you might be too complicated for a man?
Words can only explain so much when you're mostly describing your personality lol. But to be honest, whoever is not approaching you is missing out. You have this dream personality that none of my exs ever had lol. I think it must either come down to your looks or your insecurity/shyness pushing men away. If a guy was trying to flirt with you and you couldn't tell, he would probably get bored at a point and assume you to be too complicated. Let's also remember the guys that aren't approaching you because they're shy. And unfortunately, your dating pool is lowered by the fact that many men in your age range are married/engaged/LTR... but assuming you're average looking or hot, I'm going to out the blame on your shyness and insecurity when men approaching you. I'm not going to lie, but I would easily give up on a woman who didn't flirt back or showed any remote hint that I had a chance and I think many men are like that too.0
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