He wants to get his life together before getting into a relationship?

So, everything I've ever read is that if a guy really wants to be with you, he'll move heaven and earth and nothing will stop him.

I was just wondering if they're are ever exceptions to the rule. I've been casually seeing someone from work (he's 6 years older) for about 5 months. We've been very honest about what we want and we've taken things painfully slow.

He doesn't want a relationship until he's gotten his life in order. He got divorced a few years ago and is living with his mother but works and goes to college full-time. This was a red flag to me but I also sort of understand what happened. He doesn't want to be with anyone until after he graduates and gets his degree in December and has moved out on his own.

Should I continue to casually date him and be patient or should I move on?


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  • Men and women are very different in this sense.

    If a woman doesn't feel like she's worth a man, then she looks for a man that makes her feel like she's worth it.

    If a man doesn't feel like he's worth a woman, then he refrains from claiming one for himself until he views himself as one worth a woman.

    Men find their worth in how they view themself, women find a lot of their worth in how others view them. Unless a man views himself as worthy of anything, he will never allow himself to have it unless he makes himself believe he is worthy. What he thinks will be worthy of you is a steady job, place to live, and education. Nothing less.

    Be patient with him. He's a good guy

    • That was really insightful. Thank you! I didn't think he wasn't worth waiting for, I just wanted to make sure I wasn't being led on. He's definitely a really good guy. :)

    • You're welcome! glad I could help.

      If you want to try and nudge him along just let him know those things don't matter to you.

    • I've told him before that him living with his mother isn't as bad because he's actually working towards putting his life together and that he demonstrated a strong desire to be on his own. He's still not happy with his situation though. I've also expressed that I didn't desire a relationship but that was a few months ago and things have changed with us a little bit.

  • Casually date him and be patient...


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