This is a question that has been lingering in my mind for a while.
How come so many people are obsessed with the man being taller than the woman in a relationship? Some people even go as far as to make fun of tall women and short men, and often they outright refuse to date these people. I just don't understand.
Why is it so important for the guy to be taller than the girl?
As @Mesonfielde pointed out, why don't you take self-defense classes or carry pepper spray?
And how come a taller man makes you feel protected? After all, tall does not automatically mean strong. I'm genuinely curious.
Most Helpful Guy
That's actually quite simple, it's cultural indoctrination. People rationalize it saying "they want to feel protected", but that doesn't really make sense in today's context. In fact, if they truly wanted to feel protected, they'd take self-defense classes and buy pepper spray.
In reality, these girls also tend to claim that the "guy should be tall enough so that she can wear high heels and still stay shorter so that she will feel like a woman next to him". That is obviously not a biological concept, women aren't biologically designed to wear high heels (or in general, ever, at all; high heels are terrible for your feet).
So technically there seems to be some kind of sense of self-validation of an ideal that one learns to expect from a relationship. If that makes any sense. I don't know if that makes sense, I'm high on caffeine right now.13
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Most Helpful Girl
I think it's completely ridiculous that society puts so much emphasis on this. I like tall guys and I like short guys too. The whole protection thing is fine but #1 just because a guy is small doesn't mean he can't protect you and #2 protection ultimately falls upon yourself.
I brought up this concept of short guys with taller girls to a group of my friends and they all flipped out. They wouldn't even consider it. I think That's a really great way to pass up on lots of amazing men.6
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