Been there, done that, got the tee shirt. Daddy issues are not about a girl wanting a man to be her "father" as most who are not in the know assume. It is not about a man pretending to have relations with a 12 year old girl either. It is more about the girl being cared for in a way where she can put life responsibilities aside in those moments they share together. It's a place where she is free to let go of work and worry and feel like a pampered princess. Her Daddy is usually also an authoritarian and puts her in check when she gets out of hand. So, there is a bit of check and balance. The girl does not have to be some dysfunctional teen who's father neglected her, but is often a woman with heavy responsibility in the workforce seeking a place where responsibilities are handled for her. If she is younger and pre-educated / pre- career she is often still confident and strong and seeking a place she can let go of that stress and be timid and docile. He does not have to be older than her, but is rarely younger. He is a man that is confident and strong and makes her feel safe. He wants to treat her very special and make her happy which often leads to her naturally behaving a bit spoiled. Exit cuddly Daddy, enter no nonsence Daddy. Often a look or a phrase will send shivers down her spine and get her right back in line as his perfectly playful little princess. However, sometimes her feminine nature kicks in and she can't help but push back. It seems in times like this she really craves a firm hand from him. There is something very therapeutic about a good hard cry for her. It can be a wonderfully rewarding experience for both due to the very loving, tender and playful aspects of this type of relationships. This dynamic offers a way for a couple to seemingly breeze through ordinary difficulties. They don't suffer harsh fights and periods of silence that modern couples do. They both not only accept their specific roles, but actually crave them. This unigue chemistry has a way of ending the power struggle between a man and his woman and ends up being a very rewarding experience for them both. I have seen a lot of negative responce to this type of question in the past from people who have this negative association to incest or pedophilia. I hope this explaination shines a healthier, more accurate light on this type of relationship. Now you see when I say I've been there and done that, I actually do not only own but where the tee shirt free from shame.
Lol this is for a friend isn't it haha? Back to serious face, been there done that and I personally am not on this earth to be an emotional tampon or a therapy provider. I need someone who is content and fine with their life. I dated a girl who had her dad walk when she was three. She has never trusted men since and thus never trusted me since I'm male. Prior events form future trends so I wouldn't. Get a good emotional stable lover, not someone who needs every moment to be saved by my own happiness.
At my age there are extra red flags - I was with someone 10 years younger than me who came from a very insecure childhood and a lot of lines blurred in our relationship so I would be incredibly wary of possibly going into another relationship like that again.
I never really undestood what traits constituted as someone with "daddy issues" but say they need more attention or affection than the average female (because of an absent father) then I'd be willing to give her the extra attention and affection. I tend to treat women that way anyways. In fact, it may even be a positive thing because i tend to seek out somewhat clingy women because when I'm in a relationship with them it takes a lot of pressure off of me being too clingy. And instead of constantly seeking reassurance from her, I'll get that reassurance through the way she seems to need me.
I became friends (almost dated before she got back with her BF) with a girl who had MAJOR daddy issues. •She was not a slut, only had slept with her boyfriend, at worst she posted a nude to Reddit for attention. •She was actually very sweet and caring, but was so hurt on the inside she couldn't see how great of a person she was. •Her father turned things around and while they don't have a strong relationship, he supports her now, which has improved things.
Almost all of her pain is now from her abusive ex, so Dad was just a small issue. Daddy problems doesn't define a girl, just makes them lose trust in men generally.
Nope absolutely not, daddy issues are honestly one of the biggest red flags out there, and they often come with a huge amount of other issues too stemming from the daddy issues.
I would only consider dating them after I was completely sure they worked through their problems, preferably with therapy or in some professional way. The main reason is that I have never heard of a relationship where the girl having daddy issues wasn't an issue, but I've seen it too many times when it basically ruins the relationship. For example my friends ex cheated on him with some older guy and the only explanation she could give him was that she couldnt stop him.