Bottom line I am 20 years old, very attractive (8/10 according to most girls I talk to), never had a girlfriend, and I really just want girls to ask me out and initiate things. I have tried the initiation thing and it really isn't for me. Everything about it is basically conflicting with my personality, its extremely difficult for me to take risks, I am not good at communicating with other people outside of an environment where I understand the topic (I dont understand women or relationships), and I dont understand ques of any kind (whether they are verbal, physical, or whatever), and all of these things are pretty important when initiating. I figured most girls are way better at all of these things then I am so they should be approaching me. Unfortunately since I adopted this philosophy I have had zero interest from girls, being an attractive guy I've had a couple girls try to have sex with me but I am looking for a relationship NOT sex, and girls looking for serious relationships just never approach me. Whats the deal here I thought this should be a viable thing for me to do right? I mean what kind of girl doesn't want a good looking guy who will treat her right? Will girls start initiating things with me eventually or am I doomed to fail?
Most Helpful Girl
I don't think you're doomed to fail. You just have to put yourself in the right environment. If you're in college you can join a fraternity, a club, or play a sport. If you have a job in a retail or restaurant environment you can meet people there. I don't think the bar scene is what you're looking for, but I do have friends who are in a relationship that started as a hook up. They are the exception though.0
Most Helpful Guy
Well... I actually used to be a fat, unattractive slob during my teens and early 20s, yet some girls asked me out. Both my previous relationships happened during that period, and the girls themselves initiated things in both cases.
It's strange that after I shed the extra pounds, got a make over and often get complimented for being more attractive, I hardly get female attention!
So you see, it's not about looks here. It can depend on several factors. But a lot more girls these days are open to initiate, than what we are made to believe.0