Oh sweetie, it's not just you lol! Most guys our age are colossal fuckboys. Not all, mind you, but most of the ones who hit on girls a lot are complete douchebags. The problem is that so many of the better guys are too shy for their own good. It would be nice if they would get some balls and start asking out the girls they like.
As for fuckboys, yes dressing slutty will get you even MORE attention from them, but in their mind it a numbers game. The more women they ask the more will say yes, so eventually they will ask every woman they see. They don't care how many times they get rejected.
Shy guys can be tricky, especially for extroverts. Most shy guys are natural introverts, it sounds like you just are handling them wrong. Remember what comes natural to you isn't natural to shy and introverted guys, its hard for us.
I'm guessing you like to hang out in loud places with lots of people around as a "loud extrovert?" Try someplace quiet like a coffee house, let them talk, and make sure you remember that being social doesn't come as naturally to them as it does to you. Make sure you NEVER seem bored around them as they will take it personally. Use your extrovert charm to make them feel special, and that you enjoy spending time with them, even though they are not the social butterfly you are. Also, read a few books. A lot of introverts and shy people are avid readers, and like to discuss books they've read, and liked.
Might I suggest "Quiet" by susuan cain. It will help you get into the mind of introverts!
I don't mean to be rude but often fuckboys have lower standards, contradictory to what many believe the guys who often want something real and are truly sweet have incredibly high standards on looks and personality, if we are going to be with one girls she's got to look far above average and be sweet. Even if the guy is subpar looking I've noticed that guys who want something real are typically much more picky on looks as well. I'm not meaning that to be shallow just honest. I know I'm this way with my high standards on body and mind in a girl before I give her a shot and I want to wait until marriage for sex
Why don't you try to surprise him by making the first move. As a shy guy I can tell you we're shy because we are worried we'll say something lame, and we know the smallest mistake will easily kill our chances of getting a girl. To make matters worse you don't seem shy at all and they assume you want a guy more like you. If you strike first the shyness will disappear and things will fall into place. No promises it will work I'm just telling you what I think will work for you. I wish you all best of luck
It may be the places you hang out. Can't really say for sure based on what we know.
As for shy guys maybe you come on to strong with them. Maybe just slowly work your way into getting to know them before you try to make anything happen. But if you are seeing signs the whole way that say he doesn't like you then assume that's the case.
I dunno... maybe you're on some secret Fuckboy hit list or something. As a typically introverted guy, I'll say that I prefer women who are loud and extroverted because they can keep the conversation going or even bring out a side of me I don't show often.
Fuckboys hit on girls constantly, so every girl is hit on a lot by them.
It's like asking 'why is my email so often spam', or 'why are so many phone calls telemarketers.
Spammers, fuckboys, and telemarketers aren't that common, but they spend huge amounts of time cold contacting people.
Maybe you're a hoe
Its not only you, its what this feminism thing has done to men. Just like how feminism is hurting mens lives, dating and relationships are hurting women. It both ways. My advice, just focus on your career, most people will end up single and lonely in this world.
Women have to be incredibly competitive because the dating pool consists of very few good men and a large population of good women
Fuckboys try to get with every girl... But it may be the extroversion that's intimidating the shy guys. It might not necessarily be that they don't like you back, but they might be so shy/nervous that it SEEMS that they aren't interested.