My boyfriend will take two weeks on vacation. I feel like he has his own life, he doesn't need me in his life. But more important, I can't go anywhere because of the stupid visa. Why he can't just come and visit me? He said he will spend two weeks on vacation with his parents. He needs a break without work. Should I be suspicious? I just feel like we can't be together any longer, he's not trying...and I don't know what I can do
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Yah...I think you have a definite cause for concern. When you really love someone, you just want to be around them at all times. Some people will say, there's nothing wrong with wanting to spend time away from a significant other, sometimes you just need a break. A break from what? Love?
The fact that he's vacationing alone isn't the issue. That's a red herring. I will have an all-girls weekend, or my husband will go on a weekend trip, but two weeks without each other? I couldn't imagine, but we are each others' best friends. The question really is, does he see you as more than a "girlfriend". Where do you rank in his life? If you feel he's not trying, have you conveyed that effectively and if you have, why hasn't he addressed it?
I for one don't think anyone should stay in a relationship where it feels one sided, like you are maybe number 5 on the list of most important people. You deserve to be on the VIP list, and for someone to make you feel like you matter and that you are loved. I think your gut and intuition is right on this one. I say, make a real final push and effort to get him to see things from your perspective. If you continue to feel like this, then you know its time to cut your losses.
I wish you luck in love.0