So I'm finally dating the girl of my dreams and up until yesterday I was really happy with my life. But that was until my cousin told me about how easy she was and told me about the guys she would date. All douchey a**holes. I'm basically the only guy she's dated who isn't into drugs and a party hound. I'm the only dude who doesn't use her for sex and treat her like sh*t. And I realized that she's incredibly stupid and really easy. Now I feel like I'm being ripped off because I worked really hard to get her to like me when she would've put out for other guys without any trouble. And now she's noticed that I'm acting differently towards her and I don't know how to tell her that her past makes me kind of sick. How do I explain to her that I'm a bit ashamed of her without hurting her?
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Well first off...ask her about her past...don't use the cousin's words for the truth. Go to the actual source...and ask your girlfriend face to face what is up. Then...DO NOT tell her you are disgusted by her past...it isn't nice and you wouldn't like someone saying that to you. Just ask her how she feels about you and is she being real with you and if she really cares about you. Just because you don't like her past does not mean you will hate her present with you. And I don't think it is a good idea to judge her by her past...because people change. And if her past is such a big deal..then why is she with you? And not some other jerk? See my point? And also...dating someone you are ashamed of...is kinda stupid..sorry...how the hell will that relationship work? Would you want to be in a relationship where your significant other is ashamed of you? Probs not...so ask her about her past and ask her why she is with you and does she feel the same about you as you feel about her...good luck.
p.s. and if after you talk with her...you still think she is too stupid and easy...then you should probably not be with her anymore...1
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