Say you went on a date with a girl you met randomly and were very interested in. You got along really well, dinner was great, had a few drinks, danced all night, and spent the night together making out and some fooling around, but no sex. You tell each other you really like each other before going to sleep. The next day you say goodbye, tell each other you had an awesome time, hug and you give her a kiss on the cheek. Later that day, she texts asking how your day is going. You tell her you are feeling very tired and still recovering from the night before. She jokes and says she can't believe she had that effect on you. You say it was the alcohol, not her who drained you. You text a bit more back and forth until she says she hopes you feel better. You say nothing in return. Later, she adds you as a friend on facebook, but you have yet to accept the request.
How are you feeling? What are you thinking? In short, how do I know if he really had a good time? When is it too soon to contact and see if he wants to hang out again?
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Right afterwards, I would still be in a heightened emotional state. However, my rational mind would eventually dominate and I would analyze the night's events after a day or two. I would think it went too fast. There was infatuation involved, promoted by emotions (which easily trumped rationale in the present). I would expect that she'd want to have just as much or more physical contact on the next outting. I would also wonder if she did this to all the guys she met and if she did how easy it would be for her to, oops, accidentally cheat in the middle of a committed relationship.
Some of those feelings could be corrected, but constant and repeated contact by her would only make it more difficult. Wait a week and then ask him out. Mention that think it may have escalated a little too fast and you want to slow it down if it's ok with him. Invite him to a daytime activity where there is no opportunity for making out.4