And how can you tell apart being lukewarm vs cautious.
And how can you tell if the other person is lukewarm if you are not.
What do people mean when they say, "I just wasn't feeling it?"
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To me it seems like you know more about not feeling it just by what you wrote so far. It means just that. Not feeling IT !
If had experienced "IT" then you would most definitely know the answer to this question.
I use to continue in relations with feeling lukewarm or blah if it worked out or not. Didn't mean anything was wrong with them personally or anything they did or didn't do. Just the feeling wasn't there. I use to hear the line it's not you it's me. I have said the same to others.
but it wasn't either. What was missing was the "us" !
In a relationship there is You Me and US. The us part has it's own power. it is the third entity in the relationship that you both sense at the same time. A magnetic draw to the other. It is the strong compatibility the LOVE of the relationship. without it you are cheating yourself.
The saddest part about the lukewarm part is usually not as noticeable to both parties. One will feel more than the other and will typically be a hurtful break-up for the unexpected.
Until after you find the US with another.
Only then did it finally make sense to me what the relationship was missing and I will not settle for less than US !