Ok I'm glad you asked this question because I'm in a similar situation. There' s a girl I like and she's told me several times that she wants to be friends and that she just doesn't have time to go out with anyone until she gets out of school, yet she still talks to me, flirts and asks me to hang out sometimes. When I ask her to hangout, she gives me a detailed explanation of what she's doing everyday, so it's not like she just says no to me and drops me. She told one of her friends that she goes in between liking me and not liking me very quickly, like one week at a time, on and off like that. I think she just wants to play mind games with me for a while until she feels like she's had enough, and then will actually go out with me. I guess she wants me to play hard to get or something, but I really don't want to. Maybe that's what this guy is doing with you. It's immature, I know, but sometimes someone just won't go out with you unless they feel like you're worth it to them. Please let me know if this helped you, or if you have anything to comment on, let me know.