I understand, it's definitely irritating. I'm saying that from experience by the way. This could honestly come from many different reasons, it could be that it comes from how she was raised or maybe she truly believes that you don't do anything around the house, etc. In my experience, it was because they were too busy to notice. This didn't only come from my parents though, it also came from my roommate when I moved out. I realized that she was so focused on what she was doing that she never really got a chance to notice anything I did. What I'm trying to say is it can be a multitude of things.
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Your younger sister is 11 you are a full grown adult living rent free, fed, laundry done for free, free internet it's only right they expect you to help out more so don't compare yourself to you younger sister. Its time to grow up it's wrong you feel entitled to be a kept women.
Yeah, my mother is the same way, and her ENTIRE life is eat, sleep, work, Facebook games. She works 3x12 hour shifts, and does nothing else by play games in her time off. When it's her night to cook, she pouts and whines until my father takes her to dinner.
My boyfriend and I buy some of their groceries, we take care of their animals, we wash all the dishes, even when we weren't home for dinner and none was saved for us, and we do all the sweeping dusting mopping etc. But I'm the lazy one who never does anything.
Don't worry, my mom does it to me too, and I'm 22. My 16 year old sister does nothing but sit on her ass 24/7, while I'm going around doing HER chores, and stuff around the house to please my family. I could work for 6 hours, my sister could do 10 minutes of work, and my parents will still complain that I don't do any when I clearly do. Sometimes parents do this to the older sibling to make the younger one stay quiet. It's extremely annoying, I know. I wish parents wouldn't, but that's how they are I guess
I can't speak for all parents but if they have high expectations from you and you're not doing them they will see it as you're not doing anything even when you know that you are. some times the little things we do doesn't matter much if they want us to go more above and beyond.
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There are two ways to see this.
1) You really do the work and she doesn't notice. In this case, go on strike for a week (ie, stop doing anything).
2) You spend 2 hours doing a chore which requires ten minutes. In this case, you think you are entitled to respect equivalent to 2 hours of work, but the value you provided is only 10 minutes. In this case your mom is right.Just keep helping. read at night. ask her do she have anything else for you to do. wipe walls. help your little sister keep hee room clean. the point is if she naggs clean more when you are not on class.
Yes that happens with families, when one comes home from
college it's like no warm welcoming , it's more like they want
you to do everything and be at their every beckon call with
me i would need to get my own place and move on with life
maybe they purposely like to irritate you just to see how far
they can push you or maybe they are trying to make your life
miserable cause their hoping you will get your own place
it's hard to say but It sounds like their not playing fair by you.She sounds like a woman who is never happy with anything. Even if you did do something that would think blow her out of the water she'd probably say you did it wrong. Honestly just keep doing what you are doing anything and try to shut her out. You don't need the negativity in your life.
Ask your Mom why she says you do nothing around the house. If you truly do the things you said and you do them regularly, not just on rare occasions, she is the only one who can answer your question. Go to the source and get the truth.
You either don't clean it to her standards or she is taking her anger and frustration out on you.
Don't bother!
I have been through the same, when I was in college, my mom used to complain all the time.
I know it really pisses you off.
But just hang on. Can't help it!girl, I feel you. I'm 22 and still live at home. I nanny part time. whenever I get home, the first thing my mom wants me to do is the dishes I had nothing whatsoever to do with. she's always having my dad yell at me saying that I never do enough to help out which is total shit. when I'm home I cook meals for the 5 of us, do laundry and other house work.
sometimes I'm tempted to just stop all together and see what she thinks when I really get lazy.Start recording what you did each day on a chart of the fridge. That way your parents can see some indication that you do take it seriously. Maybe you'll see you don't help as much as you should, or maybe they'll see you do help often enough.
I think you should work in front of your mother and always make sure to tell her what you did. I worked for me (I am pretty lazy) ;P
I. Hate. That. My brother does absolute nothing. -.- and they want me to do everything. It sounds like your mom... hmmm I don't know. I would need more details 😂
haha, most reason because they felt so tired, thats why they get their attention with us , whom they can make their pressures out
speak up for yourself and let then know your doing stuff
Hey that's me at times, my dad tells me to spent less time on my phone, WHILE HE'S ON HIS F***ING PHONE. my parents also do that with chores because they're fat and don't want to loose weight because we still get doughnuts
Do you do them in front of your mom? With parents, if they don't see it, it didn't happen. And if they see you doing something (like reading in your case), they think that's all you've been doing.
my mom tries to tell me i dont do stuff around the house as well
Just move out if you have chance. After that, if they keep nagging about it, just cut the contact. This type of family can be called "toxic"
parents are never satisfied with what you do. but she still loves you. just be patient until this time period is over.
it's because ur the oldest they expect u to help them around the house
Why tell us? Go tell your mom everything you just told us.
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