Best Guy Friend Gives Mixed Signals?

[Anonymous]

I have recently started having feelings for my one of my good guy friends. We are in several classes together and work together at our internship. We text constantly in class and I catch him staring my way all the time and he used to look away. Now he continues to stare. The only problems is I used to see him as a brother and get insecure because it seems he always has a few women interested in him. I'm usually the one he seeks advice from but he has moments when he retreats from everyone, which I've come to accept. Now that I like him, it drives me crazy if he doesn't text me back or flirts with girls...So then I try to stop liking him and reinforce our friendship by discussing my exes with him and talking about how all men are flawed.

Once really drunk, before I even liked him, I asked him to make out with me and he completely rejected me saying it was because he respected me. Since then I am concerned he isn't attracted to me. However, he stares at me constantly, gets ridiculously upset if I get angry or disappointed with him and has stopped talking about other girls in front of me (something we used to talk about a lot).

A few weeks ago we had a huge drunk fight because he was talking about attractive women in public and I yelled at him about it. He snapped at me and said "Don't be jealous! Sorry you aren't hott!" This started a huge attacking fight we had with one another. Since then I have no confidence that he is attracted to me but maybe he just likes my personality as a friend. The sucky thing is, if I ever need him, he is there in a second and will sacrifice things dear to him to be there for me more so than for other people. Also, the staring in class is constant and I am very confused. Also, the way he looks at me sometimes..I haven't seen him look like that at anyone...

I'm not sure if he is being a friend or more. I'm sure I have given him equally mixed signals as well to complicate the picture.

[HanaKimi]

This is really tricky! It's difficult to find out if he sees just as a friend or maybe a bit more,since the two of you seem to be pretty close it's not unusual for him to act nice to you or pay you attention.

I think you confused him by asking him to make out...it could be that he now tries to puzzle out your behavior and stopped talking about other women because he's aware of it and doesn't want to hurt your feelings. Of course there could be other reasons as well...how I said it's difficult.

But what about you? Do you want to risk your friendship if things don't work out? Try to think about it and if your answer's yes you should talk to him.

Good Luck!

[Anonymous]

he has little respect for you and looks down on you. don't waste time with this guy. when he was drunk he pretty much told his true feelings for you. don't waste time trying to chase after and waste feelings on a guy who doesn't feel the same way. sorry girl. he likes you as a friend but that's it. don't hold out for anymore or else you will just be like a booty call for him, he won't date you boo let it go

[Nijababe99]

she has a point ..when people are drunk they say what they want to say the truth to them

[alexablack]

I think he does like you and the fact that he didn't make out with you when you were drunk was because he likes you and has to be careful because you guys are friends. Seriously get it all out in the open. If he ends up saying he doesn't like you then you can move on and stop worrying yourself with doubts and if he does than you stop wasting time wondering what if.

[rndmprime]

I think he likes you because you're cool and you guys get along and because he know you like him... but I think he's holding back because he's not really that attracted to you. Is he having sex with anyone? Who does he spend most of his time with? His buddies? Any girls (other than you)? I think you guys should probably remain friends and not try to take it to the next level. But, you seem like you're gonna take it to the next level... so... know that you guys will either date or not be friends after it... one or the other. you choose.