My boyfriend parties too much, what can I do?

[Anonymous]

My boyfriend works a lot, so we can only hang out after he gets off which can be as late as 11:00pm. and I the weekend he parties, which if I asked to come along he'd let me but I really don't like that kind of scene (his friends are wanna be gangsters and I'm not a big drinker anyways) I just want a little quality time with my boyfriend... and I get jealous thinking about him partying with girls and having a good time with out me. I don't want to seem like his mom, but this is really making me second think our relationship. Maybe we are too different, is it possible to change a partier? Also his friends already don't like me, so me taking him from them will p*ss them off even more and they will probably talk crap and tell him to dump me... :/

Can someone give me some exact words to say to him?

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+1 y

I could see him being such a good boyfriend.. I know he has it in him:/ Maybe I am too needy? Should I back off and just be satisfied with seeing him for only a few short visits?

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+1 y

I don't want to break up with him over this, I am attached to him, I know I could get others guys but I don't want other guys... maybe he will change own his own..

[WoIIie]

You aren't made for each other. Whatever he's doing to keep you around this long (probably a good f***er) is commendable. His lifestyle choices conflict with yours. There is no reason to stay in this relationship any longer, especially if he's doing this know how much you dislike it.

[Asker]

well, I have been really passive about it, I don't want to scare him away, or seem like I'm trying to control, him.. which I am, maybe if he liked me more he would ditch the parting? and yes he is a good f***er. hahah

[WoIIie]

Dammit. Have some self respect. You're letting the d*** control you.

If he loves you, you won't scare him off. If he loves you, you won't be "controlling" him. You seem like your on your knees begging for something when you should be standing tall and demanding it.

Be strong.

[WoIIie]

ROFL. He won't change. Forget it, no sense in talking anymore.

You are committed to his dong. Have fun struggling to change a guy who won't change.

[Asker]

oh that is scary, but it's true. He's not some horrible guy, I just believe he gets something from partying that I can't give him, I know he would cut down for me, but I want him to want to...

[Asker]

I don't want him to resent me for changing him

[WoIIie]

I can't help you. You don't have enough dignity or pride to help yourself.

[Asker]

well this isn't so important to me that I would dump him.

[Anonymous]

you should tell him how you feel, but don't try to change him.

[Misty_04]

You can change someone but they'll resent you for it. Either wait it out until he gets bored of it or dump him. You won't change his mind even if you say "me or them" that will push him away. So yep.

[Asker]

exactly, I know he would change if I ask him, but I also think that would make him resent me. He doesn't even know it upsets me, so should I tell him how I feel about it, but end it with "do what you want". (That's basically asking him to change..)

[Chrissy1986]

a person will not change if they don't want to and if his friends don't like you that can cause a lot of probles as well, id just tell him exactly how you feel and let it come from the heart

[GodzillaMan]

"I'm glad that you're having fun and all but sometimes I want it to be just us. can't you stay home and spend some time with me? You're always at work! I just miss you a lot baby, so lets forget about the party for tonight." And for some added fun... "I'll make it worth your while." Followed by a suggestive wink.

That's all I got. :)

[Asker]

oh I like that, maybe I will try;)