I have been dating this 21 year old girl for two months now. She and I get along very well and we care a lot about each other. One of her coworkers is a guy about her age and they hang out together sometimes.
The first time she spent part of the day with him alone was last month. She went shopping, then as they were "bored". He took her to a strip club! They spend most of the rest of the evening there. The dialogue between them according to her was silly/friendly. She told me he got a couple of lapdances and highlighted the fact that he was flirting a lot with one of the strippers. Yet she sat at the bar.
She also told me that he got one of their numbers too. In other words, was pursuing other girls possibly. She spoke of him as a "good friend" who has gone through a similar situation with previously abusive relationships so they "confide in each other."
The second time was tonight. I had to work all evening so could not spend time with her. She got together with a bunch of girlfriends at one of their houses, then she parted ways and went solo together to a night club. She said he was real excited and she "just wanted to dance"..
I am not a jealous person nor an overly possessive one, especially regarding time we spend apart with friends, but do I have a reason to be concerned here? Despite the fact that she spoke of me on the phone with him in a positive light once regarding me as her boyfriend, I'm still just a bit nervous about the situation.
Even if she has no intention of cheating or feelings for him, he may be the opposite. I've never met him but after all, he is a guy and my girlfriend is pretty and they get along good. Plus whenever dancing or alcohol is involved, its a pretty sexually charged environment.
Should I be worried? What can I do? I don't want to accuse her of anything or make an issue where there is none. I care about her very much, trust and respect her freedom with friends.
The first time she spent part of the day with him alone was last month. She went shopping, then as they were "bored". He took her to a strip club! They spend most of the rest of the evening there. The dialogue between them according to her was silly/friendly. She told me he got a couple of lapdances and highlighted the fact that he was flirting a lot with one of the strippers. Yet she sat at the bar.
She also told me that he got one of their numbers too. In other words, was pursuing other girls possibly. She spoke of him as a "good friend" who has gone through a similar situation with previously abusive relationships so they "confide in each other."
The second time was tonight. I had to work all evening so could not spend time with her. She got together with a bunch of girlfriends at one of their houses, then she parted ways and went solo together to a night club. She said he was real excited and she "just wanted to dance"..
I am not a jealous person nor an overly possessive one, especially regarding time we spend apart with friends, but do I have a reason to be concerned here? Despite the fact that she spoke of me on the phone with him in a positive light once regarding me as her boyfriend, I'm still just a bit nervous about the situation.
Even if she has no intention of cheating or feelings for him, he may be the opposite. I've never met him but after all, he is a guy and my girlfriend is pretty and they get along good. Plus whenever dancing or alcohol is involved, its a pretty sexually charged environment.
Should I be worried? What can I do? I don't want to accuse her of anything or make an issue where there is none. I care about her very much, trust and respect her freedom with friends.
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I just realizes that I put this in the wrong category.
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She just texted me back saying
"i went in a cage and danced, it was fun, but I have more fun with u"
Maybe she's sending me a message that she's thinking of me and not tempted?
"i went in a cage and danced, it was fun, but I have more fun with u"
Maybe she's sending me a message that she's thinking of me and not tempted?
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