Should I Stop Pursuing After She Says We're Just Friends?

[johnbrown]

Theres this girl that I really like don't really like girls often enough to consider something serious but anyway she's really cute, smart, funny and athletic runs track like me;) well I really want a relationship with her and she know I like her from a long while ago but she was talking to some other a-hole but like she tells her friend that she only sees me as a friend should I give up on her or try and change her views about how she sees me maybe boyfriend material?

[tex151]

She told her friends that she only likes you as a friend, so what she didn't say that to you did she? So if not then step up your game, take her out on dates, and don't treat her like a friend, compliment her, but don't go overboard with it. Don't call her your buddy or your pal, because you don't want her as that you want her as a gf. When you take her on a date don't make it ackward or weird , just casual and if you to know the ultimate test to see if she sees you as boyfriend or as a just a friend, kiss her at the end of the night or at least try. I guarentee you'll find out right then and there her opinion of you. Don't ask to kiss her, just do it man, if she backs away hey man it was worth a shot sometimes you only get one, so might as well take it when you can. If she backs off and says woah I don't think we should or I only see you as a friend, then be cool about it, just say oh ok well it was something I wanted to do for a long time now and well you may have rejected it, but at least I had the guts to try. But who knows man maybe she will kiss you back, maybe you will become friends with benefits or even boyfriend and gf, you never know till you try.

[Superstrength79]

It sounds like she is still figuring out what she wants from relationships. You could try asking her what she thinks are attractive qualities about a guy; work it into a casual conversation. If you find you really need closure so you can move on, ask her what it is that prevents her from liking you... not an ultimatum, just let her know that it's bothering you to care about her and she isn't giving you any feedback. I find that when I've been allowed to know the reasons someone doesn't like me, that often enough it is such a shallow reason that I'm able to move on with my life and never give them a second thought.

[janelov]

Well I don't think you should pursue her. she already said that you guys are only friends and seems that she wants to keep it that way.... I think most of the time when girl say "friends" it is because they really don't see more than that but maybe over the time it could change.... she already knows you like her so what any moves can you do to change her views about how she sees you?

I think if you keep trying, she will probably feel awkward around you and eventually will try to avoid you... if that is what you want...

Or maybe you could give her time, I don't know how much you know her or how long do you know her... so depends on this .... you could wait and see what happens ....

[santabear]

Give up on her and find someone who is into you

[candeeroo82]

If she has already told you that she only sees you as a friend then you should let it. If it's not there, it's not there. I'm not saying that she will never see you as the boyfriend type but there is nothing that you can do to change her mind. Just be yourself and if it happens it happens. And in the mean time explore your options. There are lots of cute, funny, smart, athletic girls out there you just have to find them. Good luck :)

[glowgirl3]

I would stop pursuing her. When a girl sees a guy as "just a friend" it's pretty hard to change her mind. Not impossible but very hard.

[Stanley]

Did she tell you or her friend? Makes a difference. If it was you, then you're screwed. Women don't evaluate you on your character; they let their hormones decide what guy is worthwhile or not.

On the other hand, if she told her friend, then I wouldn't give up yet. People lie all the time and there's no reason to believe that she was telling her friend the truth.