How to deal with anxiety at boyfriend's birthday?

[Christyyy]

We've been dating for 2 months. I'm his first girlfriend. He invited me to his birthday which is going to involve laser tag. I'm really worried since I've never played it and I'm afraid I'm going to suck and everyone will feel sorry for me and point it out. I always refuse to play games or participate in activities especially with other people. I get easily embarrassed and don't want something bad to happen. It’s not only me going, it’s his 2 friends, his dad, sisters and cousins. I’ve met his mom and sisters but not his dad which I’m nervous about.

I'm fearing my boyfriend will stop liking me or think I'm dumb or weird. I have a hard time following directions. I told my mom I don't want to go but she is forcing me. I tried making her say I'm sick and can't go but she said no that I have to go and it should be "fun". I have a feeling my mom told my boyfriend's mom that I’m getting anxious about laser tag and that I don't know how to play.

No wonder he didn't text me yesterday. He only called me to tell me what time he’s picking me up but no text after. His mom was telling my mom about what’s going to happen. I hate myself and I hate my life. I can’t take this anxiety anymore. I feel so embarrassed. Maybe I’m just over thinking. Did he lose interest in me already? I don't want to go...

[madhatters4]

take some deep breaths

i'm sure people have said it but you are going to destroy yourself with worry over this and it's really not so important. it's only laser tag. if you suck you suck, it's only a game and no one will judge you as person simply because you can't play a game.

you're biggest risk is blowing this situation out of proportion so that your boyfriend may be worried about your ability to handle relatively mundane situations. So just go with the flow, step by step, know that there is literally almost nothing you could do playing laser tag that is going to make him stop liking you

again just breath

[yaddayaddayadda02]

It's just laser tag. It's a blast. Go have fun. It's really nothing that you need to 'know' how to do. You're in a dark room, and other than a score, nobody really has to know anything.

You are completely over thinking. Take a deep breath. Relax. He likes you. Know that you're self-sabotaging behavior has to stop.

And, lastly..if you ever thought laser tag was something to be taken seriously, watch this video

https://www.YouTube.com/watch?v=jW7HSShdNIs

[tokioangel95]

Relax, the world isn't out there to judge you. He should like you for you, if he doesn't then he isn't worth it. If it worries you too much, just talk to him. Sometimes guys aren't the best at picking up hints and hidden feelings, you may have to more direct. Above all you must not feel, forced or pressured into going to this party, go because you want to.

[Christyyy]

I keep thinking that his mom told him that I don't know how to play and that I get anxious and he acts all confused thinking I'm dumb because I don't know how to play and him telling his other family members about that. I feel like he doesn't care if I'm going or not because he didn't text me yesterday but called me telling me that he is going to pick me up. He didn't text me after and I'm thinking he lost interest in me. I'm not sure if I'm just over thinking and it's just anxiety...

[Christyyy]

I have to go anyway so I can't make an excuse. My mom will find out...I'm going to meet or see his dad too and I heard he was sort of racist...

[tokioangel95]

Google around the rules of laser tag, and as humans we tend to over think things a lot

[deWho]

1/ relax. 2/ go find a "public time" for laser tag with a girlfriend. You will get some confidence.

Hey...smile when you play with him. If you smile nervously when he is only looking at you, OTHER people will notice. That said...BE yourself. You put up a false facade he will smell it.

3/ relax. DO NOT try too hard. You may actually have fun.

[neoagent1]

I've read all of your questions. You over think EVERYTHING I've read you have questions on with your boyfriend. Stop providing yourself so much anxiety and enjoy the relationship. You're in high school. He's not the last boyfriend you'll ever have.

[Anonymous]

drink beforehand