Valentine's Day

How to move beyond flirting?

Anonymous
One of my coworkers and I flirt a lot. Not all the time though, which can be confusing (i.e.: sometimes he'll take the long way to come see me before running an errand, sometimes not... sometimes we will go back and forth flirting via email sometimes no response). All the signs are there... excellent eye contact, catch him staring, joking with me, wanting to know my weekend plans, asking me to see him outside of work, etc... I try not to make myself too paranoid about the little stuff (when he isn't openly flirting with me one day, or not doing exactly what I would be doing in his shoes). This has been going on about the last month or month and a half.

My question is how to move beyond flirting. There are a couple of things here. First, I used to be married and am now divorced. I do not discuss this at work, however I still have a hyphenated last name (haven't gotten around to changing it), my ex husband has called my work a few times to talk with me (one of those times I think my crush at work overheard someone tell me he was on the phone, only they referred to him as my husband), and my ex husband sent me a dozen red roses on the Friday before Valentine's Day which crush for sure saw. (ex husband is clearly crazy). I guess there's some wonderment in my mind on whether or not he knows I'm single. Plus, my crush always asks me what I'm doing before each weekend, and I always tells him I'm hanging out with friends doing this Friday night, and doing this Saturday night, and usually it ends up I just tell him we're going drinking and we'll look at cute boys, lol.

Anyways, my point is... what can I do to move this beyond flirting? I really want him to ask me out but it's been over a month and he hasn't so I'm losing hope. :(

Thanks!
How to move beyond flirting?
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