Said he wants to "slow down"?
I was seeing this guy for about a month, I know it isn't long at all but we spent all our time together. We got along so well right from the start, we met at an event and hit it off and he asked me for my number and we started texting right away and went to a movie the next evening, it went great and from there we were talking/together pretty much all the time. He always just randomly called me to say hello and talk for a while and I really loved that because I always end up with guys who are complete d-bags who just ignore me and treat me horribly, all the time. He was really sweet and thoughtful and that was a really nice change. I broke up with my ex at Christmas because I found him cheating on me, with more than one girl... and he was always a huge jerk to me and treated me absolutely awful. But after hanging on for a year I couldn't take it anymore and I finally had proof of my suspicions. so long story short this new guy was really what I needed he treated me the way I've always been treated but never had. by any of my boyfriends. The other night I asked him if something was wrong because I could tell something was bothering him. He said that I didn't do anything but that something was bothering him (this was through texting) and asked if he could call and we could talk on the phone and I asked if he wanted to come over and talk in person and he said yes and came over. He told me that he was scared he was getting too close to me too fast and said he wanted to "slow down". he told me we should "take a step back" because he got out of a long relationship a year ago and he was scared to make a commitment yet. He said he made the ultimate commitment to his ex only to have it thrown in his face, and that he doesn't want to make a commitment too soon and feel like he went from being really serious with his ex to being really serious with me too soon. I told him I understand about the stuff with his ex- she cheated on him, and it was a horrible, long, miserable breakup. My ex cheated on me and it was a horrible, long and miserable breakup. However, what I don't understand is this: he said that he doesn't want to commit himself yet and he wants to see what all is out there, and I asked him oh so you want to be open to see multiple girls and he said kind of and I said so you want to sleep around? and he said no it isn't like that at all and he seemed very honest but how else could I take it? my exes enjoyed sleeping around apparently, so this really hurts me. He said he still wants to hang out with me and talk but he wants to do it once a week rather than every day. Of course I got upset over this whole situation in general because things were going GREAT and I was not expecting it. I cried and he hugged me and tried to make me feel better and told me not to cry. He told me I was great but he wanted to do this now rather than waiting longer and making it harder. When we said good bye he hugged me for a while and said he wanted to see
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