Domination - women, especially attractive women love dominant guys. They want the guy to lead, to decide what will happen next and to feel confidence with him! Instead of asking her what she wants to do today, try to come up with something, even something unusual and you can even make a surprise for her. Being more assertive and initiative it's the key in relationships!
Strength, confidence and self esteem - the elements to becoming more attractive to women! As I said before women want to feel like there is a strong man beside them and nothing bad can happen. With low self confidence and low self esteem you are not exactly the guy they are dreaming about. How to improve your confidence? That's not so hard! Try to talk to new girls around you, take some phone numbers. The confidence will come with an experience, and after you will talk to 10-20 girls you will feel more confident about yourself!
Learn how to say "No" - there is an old expression: woman turns to a woman when she says yes, man turns into a man when he says no! if you will always try to impress her, try to please her and do everything she will ask you - you are not a man she wants to be with. You are just another guy who will become her friend. Show her that she won't get anything that easy from you, that she has to earn it! Also you have to let her know that you also have your own life, your friends and your hobbies! Don't call her 10 times per day, like you have nobody else to talk with. Don't be available for her every time she wants to meet.
If you don't want to be her friend, don't act like one - nice guys have a little problem, they are always trying to help the girls out. Stop it! It their friends' job to listen to all her problems and to be the nice guy that is always there for them! You are not one of the nice guys anymore, you are not of their friends. You are a potential boyfriend, so start acting like one. Instead of listening to all her nonsense take her out, drink some beer and have a good time with her. Make her forget about the problems when she is with you!
I really hope that I helped you. Women are complicated creatures, and a lot of men just don't understand them and what they want! Thank you for reading the article!
Because for all the "inferior", immoral people (about 85% of humanity), the ability to not obey the regularities (rules) and to do things that are not something they are used to is considered "EXCITING" and "EXCITING" is considered "FUN" and therefore "the ability to have FUN with someone" is considered "ATTRACTIVE". And the "bad boys" provide that, they provide unusual experience with tension and randomness.
Personal experience: A girl told me once, "can't you even be slightly bad?" And I was like, "Nope!" We never got together, bwahahahh. xD
Anyways, about the nerds.:
One, a nerd does not walk up to a girl (usually) and expects the girl to come to them, well that won't happen. Girls are lazy and say "but the guy is supposed to do the pursuing" (these girls are those who want to feel "feminine and protected" and are more driven by their "animal instincts" they actually learn about", AND there are the girls who don't approach the guy because they are just as intimidated as vice versa; OR the guy just doesn't seem to have anything attractive (physical and personality) visible at all, and don't seem worth walking up to..
Two, a nerd doesn't seem to do anything exciting - they are just hidden in their books and doing nothing unusual, nothing random. Spontaneous random ridiculous stupidity is something that girls seem to love because it makes them laugh, I never completely understood why, but whatever. Therefore, they seem incapable of doing "fun" things because concentrating on studies is "no fun". It's unfortunate, but it's sort of true.
And anyways, the girls who like bad boys are all -rotten to the core-. You shouldn't want to pursue such an ill-mannered girl who wants everyone else to suffer for her own enjoyment. There are a few intelligent girls out there who see through this nonsense and just want a cheerful guy who does interesting activities but does not necessarily cause harm for others and disobey the law.
Also, random simile - a bad boy is like a cake that you see, it's almost in reach but you can never have it. If you're constantly given a cake (like how a good guy always shows love and affection and all that), you'll just get bored of the cake, and also get fat. xP
Why do nerdy guys act like every guy that isn't a nerd must be some bad, horrible jerk? I've met nerdy guys that are huge assholes too. Not all nerds are sweethearts.
Personally, nerdy guys that are super concentrated on their studies are usually just not attractive. It seems like there is generally a correlation between how much people focus on their studies vs. how much they focus on improving their looks. The stereotypical bad boys happen to be hot, as well as masculine and confident.
Let's be honest: Why do you think nerdy guys don't pay much attention to their nerdy girl counterparts who are also super engrossed in their studies? You know the answer. The same nerdy guys will overlook nerdy girls and notice the pretty or hot girls.
Now I'm not saying all nerdy guys are undesirable though. I had the biggest crush on this guy that was an engineering major and had a 3.5 GPA. But he was although athletic, well dressed, well rounded and confident so he wasn't exactly a nerd. He also smoked weed which was illegal, but not what I consider made him a bad person. He wasn't out getting sh*tfaced drunk. He had nerdy qualities but he wasn't a straight up nerd. I appreciate guys that have nerdy qualities but I wouldn't generally be interested in a total nerd. Sorry.
Hahaha well okay I think that initially when we're all still immature we do go for the bad boy. Mostly because he has more self-confidence and is more willing to let it be known if he likes you. Flirting is fun and typically he's more likely to engage in it than the nice, nerdy guy.
Now fast forward to when we've had our fill of the bad boy and begin to FINALLY realize how absolutely retarded he probably is. That's my current position and now I'm in love with my best guy friend whose a total nerd but I love it.
Some girls never realize and they end up with dbags forever but there are plenty of girls who will realize and hopefully exercise better judgement.
I've also noticed that some of my friends realize their boyfriend is sh**ty but just seem to like being treated that way. These girls have what we call "daddy issues". Their dad was a prick and probably slept around on their mom all the time and treated her like hell so they go for the same thing because its what they grew up seeing.
I started out dating a bad boy, and it didn't work out well. But the reason why I did date him was he was always very confident in what he was doing. He made it very clear he liked me, and made it very clear he wanted to be with me. Basically, he made everything really easy for me. This is generally why girls go out with bad boys - the bad boys are so confident that they make everything really easy for the girl, and when you first start out dating, why wouldn't you want everything to be easy? Bad boys also generally have a bit of mystery to them, and are generally quite good looking, meaning that when a girl is with a guy who also has other female attention, she feels good about herself. Over time, girls start to realize how badly the guy is treating them and eventually move onto nicer guys. It takes time though. I'm with a nice guy now and couldn't be happier :)
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You have to clarify what a bad boy is. The real "bad boy" that girls are immediately drawn to are Spontaneous, unpredictable, rebellious, mysterious, and are ironically more sensitive then the shy nice guys. And so women try to get to that center because its a real chore to get to. Look at James Dean, he was the absolute most sensitive person like ever of that time ha. But people still saw him as a "rebel" or "bad boy" Those are the bad boys women drool over. Not like assholes or pricks. So having those traits make women gravitate to you. But its either you got it or you don't. Look at the movie "the thing called love" with River Phoenix. The main girl went on a date with River's character they kissed and hooked up and then ignored her and kind of was distant, so she started spending time with the "nice sweet guy" but then out of nowhere River's character had her come up on stage and sing with him. And that unpredictability made her fall for River's character all over again. And dump the nice guy. And throughout the movie River's character's behavior was constantly unpredictable and that gives women a thrill. I mean it got so unpredictable River's character proposed to her in a gas station with a ring from one of those quarter machines. See he was constantly spontaneous and unpredictable and she loved the thrill of not know what's going to happen tomorrow. That's what women want. But like I said there is no training in this or becoming like this. Its either you got it or you don't.
I agree with everything Mesonfielde said.
But to put it simply, girls like bad boys, or they are the ones seeming to have the most female attention, is because they are confident enough to make the first approach. Nerds and/or nice guys... not so much. Honestly if I got my choice, I would date a nice, nerdy guy. But I find myself surrounded by "bad boys" because they are the only ones that will approach me first. Remember most girls are too shy or insecure to approach first, or even just want it to be traditional where the guy approaches them first.
I think it's a huge misconception that girls want stereotypical bad boys. Sometimes they fall for them because they want excitement and intrigue. But in reality, very few guys have such extreme personalities anyway. Most guys are more balanced, and they are probably who most girls want.
Everyone is so focused on stereotypes and I think that can be misleading. Maybe people who are having trouble finding the right person want to blame it on a norm or social tendancy rather than questioning themselves. I don't want a stereotypical nerd or nice guy or bad boy or ANY of that. I want a guy who is unique and can offer what I personally need.
i like bad boys caus their scarstaic and say thing truthfully straight up and don't care if they hurt your feelings . Wile nerds are shy and worry about if telling you the truth. Bad boys are more reblish and outgoing, they do what they want and most of all the can keep up with me. I'm really hyper and since I do cheer and dance I'm busy and when I'm not at pratice I like someone who's adventrust and wild ,crazy. That's just the typ of guy I like and am drawn. Someone who's an ass to everyone but show's me that side of him that is so vunrable
i once dated a bad boy and he was attractive to be because he broke all the rules and didn't care. looking back now, it was one of the worst days of my life to agree to a relationship with him. girls want a thrill in a guy, some girls just think that its within the baddest of the bad. if you can show a little thrill (but not law-bending) I think you'll be good :)
I find it's usually the girls who are younger and not quite as confident about themselves that will go after the bad boys. I am dating a nerdy nice guy right now and couldn't be happier. He started out as a video game programming major but switched to graphic design. He has nearly a 4.0 GPA and made dean's list last semester.
It is true that some girls want bad boys. But the other half of girls want a good guy.
In my experience, I've had enough of bad boys, I just want a nice guy who isn't going to mess me around.
I think in general girls (and guys) just want what they can't have, and usually bad boys give the impression that you can't get them.
Bad boys have charm and they act nice at first but then that changes. Have you ever heard of the term "too nice"?
Many girls don't like that, we want a guy to be a man and not a p**** that has no personality and caters blindly to what we say. I hate when guys are too nice and act whipped, it creeps me out and I feel like I am with an empty shell.
I went with a bad boy because of the fact that I couldn't be shy around him.. the nerds around me at school were always too shy to try and kiss me or even to tell me they like me.. but bad boys are more like "hey I want u" If they want a kiss theyll go for it and I won't be as shy.. But "nerds" as you call them aren't bad.. They are smart.. and they won't hurt you like bad boys will
I genuinely don't... guys have to be at least the same level of education as me, so they have to be in uni or have graduated. I prefer geeks. I'm going out with an engineer.
Bad boys are kind of pathetic.
I think its excitement...women don't like boring guys. Bad boys are unpredictable.
Women need to be entertained 27/7 or else they get bored and leave. They are fickle. Low attention spans. That's what this is about.
To be honest I really don't. I would rather a nerd with a good job and sound mind then a guy who uses drugs and wouldn't be able to support a family.
I love guys who have a bad boy aura. A guy whos reckless, sexy, playful and seductive. I love them because they are the only ones who can keep up with me.
yes, girls love bad boys..I should know, I get lots of interest from girls even when I totally ignore them, and I figure it's because I'm not law-abiding...
They definitely do. Most of them just make excuses for the mistakes that they make when dating a complete piece of trash.
i guess I never really thought about this, but yeah, that does happen most of the time doesn't it? I think it's because girls think that they can fix them or correct the "bad boy" per say, and find it intriguing. maybe?
No. But I like a guy that has a life outside of the academic world
Depends upon your definition of bad boy, but mostly, no I want nothing to do with them.
Men are actually programmed to be "bad". We're supposed to be warriors and protect our wives/girlfriends.
love them..
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