How do you know if a female friend that flirts with every guy likes you?

[Anonymous]

Any signs I should look out for?

18yo

[dance89wrln]

I'm the kind of girl that flirts with every guy; it's very unintentional. I always think it's the normal way to talk to the opposite sex, but everyone tells me it's flirting (outside perspectives always know best!). Growing up, I've always acted differently around the guys I actually had a crush on; I realized the more I matured, the more I pulled back from being "obvious".

At around 17 years old, you could tell when I liked someone because it was the ONLY guy I didn't flirt with; I would act very shy and different with him than every other guy.

At around 19 years old, I didn't act any different with my crush than the rest of the other guys. The only way you'd notice if I liked someone, was if that someone came around to talk to me and I showed signs of interest.

At age 22 (now), I usually flirt more with the guy I like; and when he shows signs of interest, I tend to blush a lot more than usual.

So it all really depends on her maturity level (more confidence than maturity, actually). It just takes time. If you try to talk to her, call her, text her, and she doesn't respond in an "interested" manner, you're most likely wasting your time; (girls don't play hard-to-get by completely ignoring someone). If she talks to you frequently and always seem to have an interest in you, she's into you.

Girls will always flirt with a lot of guys, honestly; but the guy she constantly talks to is the one she's going for!

[carlo]

how do you flirt? Teach me!

[mhairix]

I'm exactly the same, flirty is a confidence booster and I do it a lot. Guys too, but I always become more shy around the guy I like, I also tend to be mean to him instead of actually coming on to him, to hide my feelings. Anyway, if someone likes you, no matter if they're shy or confident - they will treat you differently to everyone else.

[BennyF]

She'll be a) kind of shy around you b) mean c) if you flirt with her her face will most likely light up and d) she'll act diffrent around you than anyone else.

[Anonymous]

Personally I don't think girls like this are worth chasing after. I think they constantly flirt because getting so much male attention gives them a thrill and makes them feel attractive. If you just go along with this because you want her attention, you won't stand out to her and she will just treat you like all the other guys.

You need to turn the situation around. Remember, SHE is the one who wants the attention, and she has most likely come to expect a positive response to her flirting with "every guy". So, if you act dismissive and cold towards her and don't react when she tries to flirt with you then, if she likes you after all, this will make her want you more and she will start trying harder to attract you to her (right now she is under the impression that no effort is required). If she doesn't bother and just ignores you then you meant no more to her than any of her other followers, but at least you will know then.

I would rate this strategem as "advanced level" - it's hard to act indifferent to a girl you like. Personally, I hate the idea of boys and girls playing games with each other and I think you have to remeber that it takes a hard heart to play them, because this type of girl breaks a lot!

Basically what I'm saying is get her to play YOUR game and don't play HERS.

[sikoo31]

first of all, she might just be really friendly, I knew a few girls who seemed to be hitting on everyone but they were just really friendly.

second of all, people play mind games, we can't tell who likes us by how they act or what they say anymore because people are planing things out now a days.

so my advice to you is, read her body language.

the best thing I know of that you can check to see if someone likes you is their feet.

if their feet(the tips) are pointing at you, it means they're thinking about you and want your attention or they're giving you attention even if it seems like they're not.

the best time you can check this isn't when they're standing in front of you, cause their feet are going to be pointing at you even if they don't like you.

the best time is when they're talking to someone else, if they're talking to someone else, and their feet are still pointing at you, or turned your way at least, it means they're paying attention to you even while pretending not to or subconsciously.

so watch her feet, I hope they're pointing at you.

[bobair]

I have another question... how do you know if that lap-dancing stripper has an STD?

My answer for your question and mine: Why take that chance when you can choose a different girl?

Even if she's into you is it really worth fighting for her attention? I suggest flirting with girls who are more selective about who they give their attention to.

It's just easier in the long run. ;)

~ Robby

My blog ( link )

[AndreoFigueroa]

that's a terrible way to go though life you end up missing out on a lot of interesting people. half the reason we know the other person cares for us is because they either chose us among others or because they fought for our attention. otherwise wouldn't you question why they care about you or how much they care about you.

oh and to answer your stripper question, it's the same thing if you want to know if a alter boy has an STD. You ask them.

[bobair]

Lol! Touche.

My strategy isn't for everyone, that's for sure. I just prefer to meet and date women who are more selective and who express clear boundaries. I've found that the opposite causes too much drama and competition.

I'm all about saving myself time and effort.

[ThickRick]

She will let you know. Don't lead yourself on.

There are subtle factors you can keep in mind as time goes by.

-Consider how much time she spends with you versus other guys.

-Does she tell you intimate stories that no other guys know about?

-If she's upset about something, does she go to you first?

There are more factors, but these should be enough to show whether or not she likes you as more than an ego boost. If you're scratching your head after reading this, she does not like you "that way".

[Phoenix52]

Watch her from a distance. Let her flirt and talk to the other guys.

If she glances at you, she's interested. Bingo. No need to worry about 'staring her down' and creeping her out. Just smile. Wait for her to come back while she's busy talking with the other guy.

[Anonymous]

Look for a change in her behavior with how she interacts with you. So, if she flirts with everyone does she flirt even more with you? Or is she perhaps a little reserved with you?

[spicyavacados]

Does she try to touch you more than other people? That's a big hint. Also, as someone else said, does she act any differently with you?

[georgeshrinks]

I had the same problem, turns out she didn't like me at all.

Be carefull around those types!

[destroyer]

Maybe she likes you, and everyone else. Try kissing her and see what happens

[calmmie]

How do YOU know if a female friend that flirts with every guy likes you?

[Anonymous]

She doesn't so stop fantasizing she does before you break your own heart and blame it on her. She loves attention and that's why she flirts.

[Teddy_Bear]

SHES AN ATTENTION WHORE!