My dad raised his hand to me... can he get in trouble for this?

[Anonymous]

My dad got really mad at me today because he found out that I was failing all my classes and because I have a boyfriend (of 2 years) that he never knew about. He is a single father, and way over protective. I swear, he ALMOST hit me (he raised his hand, but I looked at him and said "you wouldn't dare").After I said that, he stopped. Should I tell someone about this? he has never been so mad at me before, but it really scared me. Should/can I do something?

[gotc147]

Depends on exactly what you want to do to him. Parents can discipline their children using any method up to, but NOT INCLUDING abusive force, the exact definition of "abusive" is a subject of debate.

Put it this way, if someone hits me, I don't care who they are, I hit them back, that goes for women and cops too. I would NEVER throw the first punch but I will pay them back. I'm a big believer in "Don't dish it out if you can't take it".

He didn't hit you, so you have no case as far as the law is concerned.

He can't dictate who you can and cannot date, however he is entitled to his opinions. You failing in school isn't good and you need to work on that, but he cannot hit you.

Sorry I can't be of much help, but from what I'm hearing there isn't anything you can do until you hit that oh so sacred one-eight age.

[coolguy93939]

you said should I tell someone about this. that's hilarious

little girl, there's families that straight up

smack their kid if they do something

they are not suppose to. he raised his

hand, NOT THE RAISING OF THE HAND.

[Reeses-pieces777]

seriously, he just raised his hand?

I agree with Coolguy

my dad, when he was still with us, was way worst. but he's gone now. like when we were little kids, spanking or being grounded. just raising a hand is way lenient

dad's are supposed to be protective, you're his daughter after all.

the fact he didn't hit you , means he loves you and just wants to know you're ok, that this boyfriend you've been hiding is really a good guy or not.

[Anonymous]

My mom has done this to me before because I ticked her off severely. She once slipped and slapped my sister-that's it though. It sounds like he was very close to losing control. He didn't actually hit you though, so you can't and shouldn't report him. He has a right to be mad-you failed all your classes and lied to him for two years. As long as he doesn't actually hurt you, let it go and focus on your school work and earning back his trust.

[Simple-Simonette]

You can start passing all your classes, dump the boyfriend, and stop lying to your dad. Spanking isn't considered child abuse, so reporting him for raising his hand is jumping the gun.

Honestly, if you lived in MY house, you would wish all I did was raise my hand.

Your dad should get in trouble for letting you go to pot because you are an undisciplined brat. He should have taught you better a long time ago.

Tsk, tsk.

[Littletad]

Very well said.

[Asker]

I am veryyy disciplined.

My dad scares me soo flippen much, its not even funny.

[Simple-Simonette]

Then why are you failing? Sneaking around with a boyfriend? Lying (which I assumed you had to do because he didn't know you were failing)?

Your dad sounds overprotective - which is understandable with him being a single dad. You need to cut him a little slack because you don't know how difficult it can be to singly raise a child. You crossed the line, and he reacted. I wouldn't have stopped with the raised hand - I would have followed through.

[HopeIessRomantik]

No, because technically he didn't hit you, and I think discipline really isn't a form of abuse. You're lucky your dad only RAISED his hand at you, my parents are crazy with disciplinary procedures (I'm asian) ahah. I haven't called the cops on them, and I don't think I would, because I deserved it. And in this case, I think you deserved what it almost was.

[Anonymous]

well my dad had done that except he has hit me and is abusive and I screamed really loud and shatterd one of the glass doors and then he got really p*ssed but I found out I can screm really loud but I had a really sore face for a week but I would report him I would if I could report my dad but I am to scared to

[Anonymous]

You sound like a brat. He would be within his rights to hit you. That's not abuse, that's called punishment/discipline which is something you probably need since you're failing all your classes and are lying about a boyfriend.