Girls: whats your first reaction when someone confess their feelings?

[cajun]

How would you react when someone confess their love to you, whether you like the person back or not?

[BrighteyedAsh]

Hahaha well...if I feel the same way back...first off, if they know me well enough to love me (IMHO) then they'll know how I feel back and whether to confess.

Secondly, if it's someone I have feelings for/basically love also...it's still baffling for me! My eyes glaze over and I wonder if they realize what they're saying and whether or not I should acknowledge it. I'm sitting there like "Did he just...obviously he didn't mean it. I should make this easy for him and change the subject. Don't reciprocate. IT'S A TRAP!" I know I know. On the bright side, I have DISCUSSED this with him, so he does know that I feel the same but I'm really...I don't know if shy is the right word. He knows how I work so he gets it. I've worked out a way to tell him that I care for him that's as backwards as it comes, but he completely gets the sincerity...and that's what's important.

Now, if a guy I DON'T like in that way were to confess that, I do them a favor and shut them down. Not to be mean...but because I know I can't string them along with false hope. I tell a guy when I see him trying to be closer...and they still end up falling and then I tell them I know and that I saw it before he told me...and that, nothing personal...it would never happen. In my case, it was because if it DID happen anyway...no big deal...I was 'wrong'...but if I let him keep liking me and hoping for me to eventually reciprocate and I never do...well...that hurts worse. I choose the lesser of two evils.

[Ferruccio77]

Thats actually the right thing to do but I find it lame people tell someone they love them so early.

They dont even know the other person. I haven't even told my sweetheart I love her yet. It has to be after a super date many months from now. And a very special and romantic occassion.. before that, i treat her with care and respect

[Airi_Kou]

The very first feeling I have depends on my feelings for said guy. If I like the guy, I'd be thrilled beyond belief. If I didn't like the guy, I would be really weirded out and recoil. If I was unsure of my feelings, I would be surprised, and then immediately contemplate him in a romantic sense to see how I feel. However, for all circumstances I would have immense respect for their ability to grow a pair and come out and tell me straight up. There's something seriously admirable about when a guy doesn't play games and just makes it known from the start. In the end, I really appreciate a guy who confesses because more people should do it in this stupid world where relationships have become a guessing game. So basically if there's no romantic feelings, there is at least respect, possibly admiration and appreciation directed towards one who own up to their feelings and comes out genuinely and respectfully--that means not becoming a douche after being rejected, as I have seen. Just stay classy and be prepared for an answer you don't want to hear. But please: don't hesitate saying it.

[angelstar07]

If I do have a feeling towards that person, I will feel flatter and warm on the inside. My hands will sweat, my cheeks will turn pink, my smile will become more natural and my eyes will sparkles. And as I talk to him, my words soften and stumbled.

If I don't have a feeling, it would be awkward.

[angelstar07]

Ty for the MH :)

[Ferruccio77]

This is more of a confess of infatuation/attraction than the real said "love".

[Sensiblelady]

Well, when my boyfriend know confessed it was over Skype. And I am completely in love with this man so when he said that he loves me, I literally could not breathe. My heart started to pound uncontrollably and I just started all wide-eyed with my mouth open. I realize now that that was probably not very attractive, but I couldn't help it! Hahaha!

I honestly could not think! I just began smiling like a huge idiot and looked everywhere but him and said, "yeah?" And you know, it took me a good 5 minutes before I could actually regain my voice to say "I love you too".

So obviously, my first reaction is to become a mushy pile of brain dead goop. Hahahaha

[Ferruccio77]

That sounds cute... but darn it why did he do over Skype.. he should have treausred the moment and said it to your face. That way he could see your reaction..

[BrighteyedAsh]

Wish I could 'like' the comment below. If he's around it's better to be said in person.

And lol, we're the same...when it's somebody I care about too...I'm absolutely befuddled. It will take me a while to mentally recover before I can respond. I'm REALLY into the guy I've been seeing for about 5 months now...but it will probably still be a while before I make a decision like that.

[Sensiblelady]

The only reason he said it over Skype was because he was thinking and I began pushing him to telling me what he was thinking. Which was funny and cute because he was all flustered.

Believe me, he hates that he said it over Skype. But the first time we said to each other in person was just as beautiful.

[Anonymous]

You've made me come to a sudden realization. No man has ever properly deeply confessed to me before. Apart from the one guy who after 2 months of talking and a month of dating, upon me breaking it off told me he really liked me (I still ended it).
I've had guys who i sort of knew ask me out on a dates but it wasn't deep.
I've had guys who I didn't know ask me out on dates, but this was obviously shallow. And I suppose I broke it off before anything truly deep could develop but for various reasons.

Hmm, not sure how to feel about this haha.

[sherlocked]

That has hardly happened with me. But whenever it has, my initial thought has been "Why? Is this a dare for him? Does he have an ulterior motive?" etc.
So I guess you could say my first reaction is that of not believing. I truly find it impossible to see why would any guy like me.

[Anonymous]

it only happened to me one time, and my first thought was huh what is going on? i was caught off guard cause i was completely oblivious, and then i feel flattered, and then i feel oh shit now what do i do i haven't even processed how i feel about this guy because it never crossed my mind?

[CharmingMissSarah]

I've had a couple of guys confess to me quite suddenly and I was caught off guard each time and my first instinct is to turn them down. This being said I was never attracted to the guys that confessed to me anyway, so that could be a key player in the scenario.

[MissPhilippines]

I don't know what's wrong with me but i always feel i'm not worth it. that if they will know me better they will not like me.

[meibay313]

Depends who the person is.. if I know him really well, and I also like the person then of course I would. but if I barely know that person then I wouldn't go out or like him back.

[Masana]

I always feel hugely flattered, i say that to them aswell, but if i don't feel anything I thank them for getting up the courage to come and confess

[knotme]

If I have feeling for them as well, happiness. If that is not the case, uncomfortable

[rgb008]

if i like them, my heart will start beating faster, i'd blush and smile. Probably giggle a little bit because i wouldn't know how to respond.

if i didn't like him, it would take me longer to respond and feel really uncomfortable.