I'm pretty wtf am I single?

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I'm the pretty girl why don't I have a boyfriend. Yes I have a little meat around the edges but I still get hit on. I've seen humongous girls with boyfriends and I don't understand why I'm single. All I here is "damn she is fine ass hell" or "dude you should go talk to her" but these f*** lames are such p*** that they back off and just stand there like cowards ugh men and women have totally switched places I tell ya it's ridonculous out here. I have a great personality, charismatic, I know how to talk to people, and keep those around me smiling so why is it that I'm the one who is single? Oh and they say go out more there are tons of guys out there wtf do I go? I live in D.C. most guys here look like the cast of Avatar. I'm not saying they all are hideous but there are only a few I find physically attractive. I'm not looking for a supermodel I know what I want but I'm not the type to push people away if they are not up to par. I feel so boreedd with my life I know I'm only 19 but can a girl have a fling or two or something I mean c'mon. I see girls who look like friggin peter griffin off of family guy holding hands with a dude so why am I the only one who gets stared at but never asked out? Someone please explain to me wtf is going on in the world? Is it me? Is it them? Should I just join the lesbi wagon and start carpet munching? I don't know I just need help?!

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

Your attitude shows us that you are impatient and shallow. Sure, you might have said harsh things because you are frustrated, but you have to realize that we're going to judge you and your situation based on what you write on here, because that's ALL we have to go off of. Don't take offense from what we say.

From your original post and responses, I see that you are a bit immature. My biggest advice is to work on your attitude. For relationships, guys want girls with more than just a pretty face. We want girls that are beautiful in nature; that is, genuinely kind and patient with a positive attitude. Key word here is genuine. It takes time for you to develop these qualities as well as for a guy to find out whether you're genuine or not.

If guys aren't hitting on you, at least you still know they think you're attractive and you have the option of hitting on someone while knowing you have a high chance of them being interested. That's a blessing. Nobody is going to just hit on a random girl just because she's hot and expect something out of it at the same time. Whenever I hit on a random girl just because she's hot, I'm almost always expecting her to think I'm a pig haha. And that's exactly what you should expect from a guy that hits on you only because of what you look like.

What you should be looking for is someone who wants to ask you out even after knowing what kind of person you are. That's going to require you to make genuine friends.

mysupercoolusername · Accepted Answer

Did you ever see those pictures where you need to kinda not look at to see? If you stare and try to see it you cant. All you see is colors. But when you relax and stop trying you can see it clearly.

Your 19, you will have plenty of dates in your life. Just enjoy life, and it will happen on its own.

One of these days you will have more guys than you can handle.

And if you feel like your holding a little extra weight, why not lose it?

A clean diet and some excercise is always good. Makes you feel more confident. Makes you happy. Makes you more attractive, and gives you more energy.

Besides, your mr right might be at the gym right now, just waiting for you to walk in.

heavenonearth · Accepted Answer

Do you talk to some of these guys? Smile at them? Flirt with them? You have to give them some indication that you'd like for them to ask you out, because no one likes being rejected. If I were you I'd talk to a friend about this, he/she will know you better and be able to pick out the ways you can make yourself more approachable. Dressing nice helps.

Also, what's stopping you from asking a guy out yourself? Try that before you join the lesbi wagon and start carpet crunching :P , and if you're as pretty and personable as you say you are, you shouldn't have a problem getting a boyfriend. You're looking for a handsome guy with a great personality, cool, so find a guy who meets that criteria and take the initiative. Life's short, live it the best you can. Carpe diem and all that.

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

Maybe because you come off to them as knowing/thinking your hot. I mean ik this girl who thinks she is the sh*t, no she's ugly as sh*t. guys don't like girls who are conciended. I'm not saying that you can't be like, o I'm pretty, but for gods sake reading through this post, and your comments to other answers, I wouldn't even want to be around you. you need to get over yourself. I'm not saying settle, but bring it down a knotch. and if your one of those girls who thinks she's pretty because her daddy told her so, well all parents lie. lmao jk jk jk jk

ThoughtfulThinking · Accepted Answer

Well, the first thing I'm noticing here is a negative attitude. . . And that is one thing that will definitely send a guy in the other direction. Now, I'm not trying to judge you by saying this. I'm just being honest. One tip would be to simply keep your mind open. When you see a guy don't immediately assume things about him. Another tip would be to smile and have a more positive vibe about you. Smiles, even when not directed at a specific guy, are completely disarming and alluring. Hope this helps!

sigsauer45 · Answer

Well it should like you know what you are looking for in a guy but you my what to go out with guy that may not seem like you tip and you may find out that you will find the right guy for you by only looking for guy you what that may be y you are single they are a lot of guy out they that are having the same trouble you are you just have to keep looking for them and you only being 19 year,s old you have lot,s of time to find a guy you will like and like you so hang in there it will happing  for you

juaN073 · Answer

By what I can read from your question guys may be backing off from you because of your personality...oh wait somebody already said that...well...thats what I also think. Anyways you ma be miss universe but if you act all mean your gona scare guys off. Like wise, if your a participant of the biggest loser but you have t great personality and get along and are open to guys then somebody will talk to u.

brizzo · Answer

You're right, love and relationships have changed a lot in the last few decades. its no longer the man who has all the balls in pursuing a women. Responsibility for building relationships is pretty much 50:50 these days. I say embrace it, enjoy the fact that it's not frowned upon for a girl to make moves.

If guys are showing as much interest in you as you say they are, then you should feel confident enough to show it right back.

Good luck!

diamond3 · Answer

well I am single also and I am an attractive women.. a lot of guys say they assume I had a man. so I think most guys think you won't be interested or taken so they don't bother. but then again looks isn't everything. you say big girls have men and that is true but they more then likely have a great personality. what I am saying is looks doesn't promise a boyfriend it is more then looks that will attract a guy

Sammyness · Answer

If you get hit on, why don't you actually follow it up, and initiate a relationship? It's really not that difficult. Also, it's hypocritical to have "a little meat on your bones" but expect a partner who's in prime physical form...

mike5150 · Answer

Some guys like bigger girls not to mention differant people view what is attractive in differant ways. If a guy flirts with you than he is interestead and yes a lot of guys won't make a move that doesn't make them pussys.

Voltaire · Answer

You sound like a fairly unpleasant person. Even if you're pretty, your attitude will turn lots of guys off.

xxspottoxx · Answer

just calm down first, just think about it...guys see a beautiful girl and think "wow she's hot...there is now ay she's single". Don't leave it up to the guys hun. Ask somebody out don't just sit around and wait for a hot boy with great personality to fall into your lap...

Rubybubzz · Answer

I feel that your kind of getting attacked. You just need a little patience, good things come with time. I know that sounds totally cliche :D... But true

Anonymous · Answer

Seriously? Are you kidding? Ur rude and inconsiderate you need an attitude check! Ur a conceded little brat who needs to get a grip and stop putting those other girls down! How dare you even ask why your single!?!? You must have no brain if you can't see how conceded and arrogant and bitchy you are and that is why you don't have a boyfriend.

bleepbloop · Answer

tell me about it. I'm in the same boat as you. I always see less-attractive girls with boyfriends all the time and I wish I knew their secret -_-

Anonymous · Answer

you know, personality has the tendency to stand out more than looks...

sweet_18 · Answer

You just need to flirt more and show guys that you like them by making the first moves or making it so obvious that the guy is very confident about making a move on you

tohrment · Answer

I have no idea! You sound like such a nice person, & BEAUTIFUL? Winning combo.

bel42 · Answer

maybe other people don't find you attractive even though you think you are OR  maybe they  aren't attracted to your personality.

Anonymous · Answer

WELL AT LEAST YOU DON'T HAVE TO MAKE THE FIRST MOVE OR INITIATE ANYTHING

Anonymous · Answer

your 30 lady time up u played the waiting game and the waiting game ever payed off and you wasted your youth RIP

Anonymous · Answer

Well, reading your post - you sound like a shallow bitch. That might be why you don't have a boyfriend.

zebralove97 · Answer

u seem stuck up hun.  .  . beauty isn't everything.  .  .  .

dx021 · Answer

lol you don't sound like a very pleasant person.

I'm pretty wtf am I single?

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