My take on the relationship of a random guy on internet with a website
Namaste from India. It is always a pleasure when people around the world read what you have to say. This paragraph is a little bit off-topic and is only for my fans, nerds, stalkers and curious people. I am criticised for lengthy takes so you can just scroll down until you see a picture of banana. At least it will cut one or two paras and save some time.
Why I am writing a take about why I am here? Why should you know? What's the point? It's been more than a year that I've been using this site. I spent just way too much time here that it really affected me somewhat, but I carried on because I always thought that I am always right, nobody can stop me from doing what I wanna do here. My opinions are better and that's why I can judge the people. New users are ruining the site, moderation is unfair, this place has become a popularity contest.
I still remember why I signed up. A guy was so confused and I was like "Man, the solution is very easy" but I needed an account to help him and rest is history. It was the place to make your opinions count. The UI was awesome, that captivating 'Guru' badge which made me feel like I'm not in an uncharted place. A cool mod badge which was like you are stung by a spider and you became spider-man. Oh boy, good old days. But I made a mistake, I became addicted. I was just a mere visitor of this website. This site was for me, I wasn't for this site. I started to mention the things I "hate". Then, there came a guy that I thought wasn't helpful for this community, he taught me that "hate" is such a powerful word. You may dislike several things but hating something will deride your own values. If you "hate" this place, then why are you here? I was speechless. I had no answers.
Some other users also told me to take a break or just discontinue for good because I was no longer the man I used to be. Thank god, I realised it on time. And now after logging in again, I felt like I am coming back to my home sweet home after accomplishing so much in my real life and being a better person. But why I logged in again? Scroll down.
Here's banana so, we can start counting the reasons why I will probably always keep an account on this site.
1. Introversion and lonliness
The most obvious reason why more than 90% people are on this site. Some people don't have close friends to talk and share their feelings, some people are depressed because of various hurdles in their relationships, some people are so shy and hesitant to meet new people and some are just introverts sitting inside their bedroom wondering if there is another human on this planet or not. No wonder, I am one of them. Fortunately or unfortunately, I am an introvert and unluckily, I am a shy guy too. I don't talk as much as I type on my computer on a daily basis. I have so many friends but I always felt detached with the society. There are a few close childhood friends too, who know me more than anyone else but as we grew up, I started losing them one by one. Human is a social animal and without society, he cannot expect life. This site compelled me to write, compelled me to participate, compelled me... to talk. My weakness. I never felt that happiness before. An ingenious person said:
There is no introvert, online.
2. To understand the opposite sex
GirlsAskGuys is all about closing the gap between genders by bringing them together to help each other by sharing their experiences and opinions to help the opposite sex understand their own. Thanks to GAG, I am finally 1% closer to understand what women are. It's so easy. All you have to do is not to do what you are supposed to do which should be done but don't even think to speak about it and at the same time don't remain silent and perpetually reply to her questions like "are you okay?" in either no or yes (which also means 'no'). Simple af. Thanks GAG, you the real MVP!
Jokes aside, it is really helpful to be honest. Generally, we meet the opposite sex as one of your parents (who won't judge you and be nice to you), your friends (who are the best peeps on the planet) and your SO (who loves you). They will keep you happy and frequently try to compromise. Then how are you supposed to understand what's actually in their mind? How are they from inside? The answer is, anonymous community. You can find a real piece of constructive criticism here. I started to look girls from different angle now. I believe, there are only three astute users here (yes, I'm egoistic) who are always better percipient than me. And out of these three, there are two girls. 66%!
3. A million ways to live in the west
I'm not a traveller kind of person, thanks to my weak immunity and lazy friends. There is so much to learn from the countries around the world. Eastern and western world is so alike and yet so different. Being advanced and trendsetter, it is nice to juxtapose and keep up with the western peeps and their culture. With around 47.72% from US, 7.94% from UK and 5.91% from Canada, this place has a tremendous share of western visitors. I learned so much about their lifestyle, fashion, culture, festivals, music, revolutions, perspective and some other random shit. Some things are better while rest are bitter, creating an equilibrium across the globe indicating we all are given equal amount of resources and opportunities. The most shocking one for me was the parenting system. Parents there don't care about the grades but happiness of the child unlike here, but once they grow up, they have to pay the expenses while here in the east, I am browsing this site without any concern while my dad is paying the bills. This sums it all up.
4. To learn English
I cannot believe I am admitting this. I put this in #4 because generally, people tend to read first two and last two points of the article and ignore the rest. This is the real reason why I joined and used this site a lot. I am a little bit ashamed to admit this. "Little bit" because it is not my mother tongue and I belong to a very backward city, where if you will try to speak in English, 85% won't understand a single sentence and rest would consider you a show-off. In order to become a successful person, it is kind of necessary to have a good knowledge of English and a good vocab. At first I joined this site, I was terrible but now, I guess I'm improved. In fact, a lot of users complimented my English, lol unbelievable. I took some help from my best friend too (he is very good at English). I showed him my opinions on GAG and he was like "Dude, wtf happened to your p*nis?" I replied that there is nothing wrong with my pee pee but I am helping someone. He replied that "But why do you care about someone else's p*nis?". That convo was really awkward haha but at the end of the day, I learned a lot.
I think my trick worked. I never showed the people here that I can't speak English. I lied, I kept it simple, I repeated and finally, people believed. THIS is what I want to teach some Turkish users here. Last year, I visited a lot of questions from Turkish fellows. They wanted to learn English. The mistake they made was that they admitted it directly. I tried to help them, dunno if it worked but at least they logged out happily. So guys, either pay for a good teacher or just... fake it and try over and over again by indulging in discussions and similar environment. Even a lion will start eating grass if he left in grassland alone.
5. Only site where site owners talk to me (us?)
Admins are always available to hear your cry and feed-backs. They also accept your rants as long as they make sense. Good thing is, they reply. I used so many accoladed sites, they receive your feedback but they don't contact you back which makes this place unique.
Out of the blue, they even teach you some serious life lessons. I was talking with a senior admin about the inequality of this site and his response made me realise that I have a long way to go.
6. To make this world a happier place
THIS makes this site really addictive. Ask questions, share opinions, help each other and be happy. Loved every reply containing "Aww", "Thanks man", "It helped", "You're really a nice guy" (dunno if it was for or against), "I'm feeling better :)", etc. etc. I noticed that there is an xper system and points which will give you rewards. I didn't want anything. I have everything so what could I do with those points. I found that there was an option to donate to an organization called RAVEN. I have witnessed domestic violence and believe me, it is traumatic. It was such a pleasure to contribute (by just having fun on a website). I felt so contented. It is a dream to make every person happy. I know it is impossible because even god failed to do so, but since my birth, I realised that this burden is upon my shoulders. I think I really made this world... a little bit less terrible.
7. To actually get some help
I joined this site when I was on the verge of break-up. I returned after a long break and history really repeated itself. Life is so unfair and people are so mean. I must say, people here provided a good support in my dark days. There was a point where I was so scared of some transmitted diseases but ~20 users answered my question and gave a relief. That serenity is worth a million. I usually use this site for fashion and health tips, it's top-hole!
8. To do what I can't do elsewhere
First of all, I hate ("dislike" I should say) to write articles. I dunno why I am doing this but I really-really don't like it. I was born intelligent but education ruined me. I never got more than 7 marks out of 10 in article writing. But here on GAG, I don't know how easily my takes were promoted. Either they must be god or I'm improving. I use this site to enhance my writing skills too. The thrill of getting your work promoted is marvellous.
There are so many things I do here which I can't do in real world like uploading ugly pics (no one will judge you here and if someone did, would you even care?), pics in formal suit (my friends would mock me if I did that on Facebook), trolling (harmlessly, just for fun), teasing random strangers to their limits, sharing your measurements (no seriously, I never did that)
9. Love don't let me go
The reason that I log in over and over and over again is YOU. Thanks for every moment we shared with each other. This is certainly not an anonymous community. The founder and developers knew that their site will get lost in the horde so, they included social elements to keep the people interested like telling the users' age, location, sex, relationship status, profile picture, ability to follow them, their mood, 'about me' and various other things. Having a humorous username and being outspoken, the inevitable happened. I came here to keep a low profile but this site operated in a way that I made some really good friends and I treat some of them like my family members. It'd be so mean to leave it all behind. We laughed, we loved, we lived. This is my second universe. The sheer tenacity is the product of all the members' participation. It is your love, which doesn't let me go.
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Second unit director or Assistant director
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Thanks for reading. Hope you liked it. I really enjoyed writing another myTake after a long time and it was about the whole community that really was the icing on the cake.
What about you? Why do you use this site? What makes you log in every day? Share your thoughts. I would love to hear from you.
Game on folks, believe!