I'll make this short, sweet and to the point. People seem to think when people point out certain things in their gender or just other things in general, that they have some diabolical plot looming underneath. When really, they are just doing what most people on here do. Which is, giving their opinion on a certain topic. Saying how they see things from their point of view. It's not really more complex than that.
Now, that's not to say there aren't people who say things with a certain reaction in mind or with a certain motivation behind it. Because, there are those people like that. So, it's not completely off the table but I'd say most people don't write what they write with an ulterior motive in mind.
When I wrote my take about men being "damned if they do and damned if they don't", some people said I did it to kiss guys asses and get them to like me (or something like that) but I wasn't. I have never in my life done anything with hopes of getting people to like me, it's just not how I am. I wrote it because I wanted to and I just wanted to get a bunch of stuff off my chest and that's exactly what I did, but I didn't do it to impress guys. That's not my style.
I saw another take yesterday by a girl who wrote about the things she hates about her gender and one girl told her she only did that to "get men to love her", when really she was just expressing herself and how she feels. And, being as that she mentioned in there that she has a boyfriend, why would she need other men to love her? She's already got the affection of the man she wants, so she doesn't need attention from other men. So, why anyone would think that was her motive is beyond me. People do that all the time and I don't get it.
So I Ask, Why?
Why can't someone simply come on here and express their opinion, without an ulterior motvie in mind?
Why can't someone just have the ability to see that all people are flawed, both men and women and are willing to admit that and bring it to people's attention when they feel they aren't?
Why can't someone just see both sides of an issue or both people's point of view? Why does there have to be a reason it for it, what if it's just who they are?
Why can't someone say they are different then most, without someone thinking they are just saying it to be cool or make themselves sound special? What if they really are different then most? What if it's just the truth?
What if someone was staring you right in the eye and telling you the samethings you read on here, would you assume they have an ulterior motive or are the rules different in your mind when they are standing right in front of you?
See, I think people believe no one online could possibly actually feel that way, because it's just not the norm. So, they feel there's a motive underneath it all. When really, there's no motive at all.
So, next time you read something you don't agree with, don't assume there's an ulterior motive. You have every right to disagree but you don't have the right to discredit the persons opinion by stating they have an ulterior motive, simply because you don't agree with them.