Guys... Hangout VS Date... what's the difference?

[Lioness]

Just curious... Please list the differences for us inquisitive GAG Girls ;D

[OlderAndWiser]

In both cases, you have some romantic interest in your partner for the evening, but with a date, there is a clear understanding that I have a romantic interest in you and I am hoping that you will feel the same. With "hanging out," I gonna act so casual that if you think I'm interested, I can deny it and say you over-interpreted the situation because it was just chillin'. And then, when you hang out several times and its obvious that there is something going on, you will say "we're dating but it's not official," (like you need to go register at the courthouse to make it official!) so that, if it falls apart, you can say, "well, at least we weren't officially dating!" And when you break up, you'll do it by texting each other and you'll announce your status change on Facebook instead of actually telling people. Finally, later on, you'll complain to your friends that you and the guy just didn't seem to have an emotional connection.

Go fucking figure!!!

[Shaft50]

I suppose hanging out is more casual with no real intention to court, no pressure on either party, but hanging out could be the ultimate cop out as well. You could hang out with a friend as well as you could with a girl you may or may not have an interest in... dating is when you really enjoy the other person's company with a possible view to the relationship developing, I believe.

[Lioness]

Makes sense Shaft50 but does a guy act differently when it's a date vs not a date?

[Shaft50]

For sure... more effort put in for a date... appearance is focused on because a date is designed to impress. Hanging out doesn't require anyone to impress. If I was spending time with a girl I liked, I'd like to put some effort into it...

[Lioness]

Aha What if the guy is not the "dress up" kinda guy... but he's wearing cologne and looks casually cool?

[Shaft50]

In that case I would be tending to think that the hang out is turning into a date... even if it is in a casual environment.

[Shaft50]

Thanks for the mho, Lioness

[Lioness]

Welcome Shaft50 ;)

[emmabee11]

Hanging out is just friendly interactions, no obsession, no asking each other out, no trying to get physcial just chatting and light hearted jokes, a date is obvious attraction, hugging, kissing your cheek, going for dinner and always complimenting you on your looks and your personality.

[Lioness]

What if the guy starts "interrogating" about past relationships?

[emmabee11]

Definitely weird and non of his buisness

[chercheur]

Not a guy, but adding my thoughts if that's okay...

Hanging out is for the teens and young adults. A date is what happens as we get older.

[xxbebosxx]

Date is more intimate like romantic restaurants and so fort, while hangout could be with friend, at home, or bars

[PT1911]

In this day and age, where actually saying what you want is considered a crime, or showing a sign of romantic interest is embarrassing, they mean the same. A guy will hay "hangout" to make it seem like there is less pressure.

Now I say date, because "date" makes it clear that I'm interested in her romantically. For the record, I don't ask out a random person, the few women I've asked out, I've been decent friends with first

[Lioness]

I see.. so how would u act diff if it was a "date" vs just hanging out with a friend?

[PT1911]

I put a lot more effort into my appearance if I'm on a date. I really don['t just "hang out" with female friends unless we're in a group of mutual friends

[OlderAndWiser]

@PT1911 I'm glad to see that someone under the age of 40 sees something wrong with this culture based on hiding from your feelings!

[PT1911]

@OlderAndWiser

Thank you, though I would be a liar if I said I didn't think like that at one point

[DarkxAngel20]

A hang out would be more like doing stuff normal friends do together, and nothing mutual, while an actual date means there's something mutual actually going on.

[Lioness]

Interesting... What do u mean by mutual? For example friends going to lunch but the guy wants you to look "hot" because u are meeting him at his work? And then u guys are both dressed up and he pays everything?

[DarkxAngel20]

Well, by mutual, I mean that there are feelings slowly developed in an actual date.

[Lioness]

Ah ok... I don't really know what is considered "normal" hangout with a guy because only guys I ever chilled with I dated or they tried to date me. This guy is my only male friend so that's why I have nothing to compare his behavior/actions to.

[DarkxAngel20]

Oh okay. A normal hang out with a guy would be just going to different places or going to each others' house just to chill.

[Octavion]

You're not really trying when you hangout. You don't get dressed up or go to fancy restaurants when you hang out.

[Lioness]

So what if they guy kinda makes effort with his look but it's not a "fancy" restaurant? And after you get drinks?

[Octavion]

I think that'd constitute as a date.

[DarkHumorRUs]

I'd say a hang out is still a date but nobody else would say that.

[Lioness]

hmm what about a hangout with a friend? still a date?

[DarkHumorRUs]

It depends on what they both think so that's why it can't be answered.

[Anonymous]

Real men date. Hanging out is for guys who aren't interested or wimps who are too scared to ask the girl out.

[KhaysunDei]

You kiss when you're dating... and touch each other! I like dem touches!!

[Lioness]

ok, so hypothetically... if you are not on a date "officially" but the guy pays and then after the girl kisses the guy and he responds... does that now make it a date?

[KhaysunDei]

yes!!

[Anonymous]

Sometimes guys will say hangout because it's less nerve-wracking than saying date.

[Lioness]

Well what if a guy says neither.. and just says we should go to lunch? and pays?

[Opinion Owner]

It's probably a date. Especially if he pays.