Why do guys only compliment me on my body?

[Yasmine_yasmine]

Every guy I've ever met, with the exception of literally one, has always complimented me on my body and never on my talents or personality. Their idea of something sweet is "I like your big tits" or "I'd hit that" and it's so disgusting to me especially since I do not post revealing photos on social media or even wear revealing clothes. I want a guy to compliment me on who I am, or even something like my eyes or hair if personality is too much for them. Why are guys doing this? Even my ex boyfriend complimented my body more often than anything else.

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+1 y

I do have talents and I do have interests and I am certainly not dumb.

[Northeast106]

Men usually compliment physical features to show they are attracted to you. Also, women can be very difficult sometimes. There's a ton of women posting that they don't want a man to be wimpy, or too sweet or woman like. For a guy to say something that sounds like it came from a soap opera, she might loose interest right then and there and laugh about it. No man wants to be known as the emotional or the dramatic guy. We just get loads of contradicting advice in general. Then there is also what seems to work in the real world vs what people say. Bottom line I think it all boils down to looks and physical preferences for both genders. Personality comes second. I'm not saying it doesn't factor in, but initially attraction is based on looks.

[Yasmine_yasmine]

If a guy truly respected a girl, would the first words he says to her be about her body? Even if his attached was based on looks. That just doesn't make sense to me

[Northeast106]

@asker I see what you are saying. There are some disrespectful "compliments" thrown at women all the time. Also, the very first words probably shouldn't be on her body, probably an introduction and some convo would be better.

[Northeast106]

@asker My point I guess is that some of them are just are not aware that is comes off as disrespectful. What one person finds as a compliment and would like to hear, others don't want to hear it and find it offensive. Everyone has their own style I guess.

[Northeast106]

it comes off*

[Red_Arrow]

Sure, there are guys like that. But I am surprised that the only compliments you have gotten are from guys like that. If I wanted to flirt with a woman I would probably start with a compliment about something she actually controls, like the appearance of her hair. After getting to know her my compliments would be about her personality and/or talents, and about the looks she has that she doesn't control, but not sexual. Like facial good looks, height, eye color, etc. Once I knew her and we had some kind of connection, then I would let her know that her body was appealing to me.

Have things changed so much that youth openly comment on body appearance to relative strangers and do not see anything else?

[Red_Arrow]

Thank you for MHGuy. :-)

[WhatTheHellAmy]

Well, sorry to hear that... Being in your position might be hard.
I don't know, try to do more things that make people think that you're not only body but brain too. (Don't get me wrong, not sayin' you're dumb)

[Anonymous]

Because those guys don't know anything about women. They are just horny and go by what men do on TV and music videos and they think it works in real life

[Opinion Owner]

Thanks

[JuicyBrain]

If the guys are your age, it's because they are not interested in your worth other than physical worth. Why should they? At that age, intimacy is not yet in their priorities and girls are mostly potential sex partners.

Also, you are 15. I don't know about you, but at 15 you mostly haven't had the chance of proving yourself in life. It's normal, you are learning, you are in training. Nobody expects you to find a cure for cancer. So nobody is "impressed" yet

Also, do not expect this kind of compliment from people who don't know you. The only thing most people know of you is the image you project. So it's normal to compliment you on your image...

If you find disgusting to be told you have nice tits, why don't you go tell this to a girl who is constantly put down and told she's ugly. You might find out it's not such a problem after all...

[BlackMac97]

Hey Yasmine :D It's probably cause majority of guys view women as an object and don't really see them for who they really are. I myself compliment girls on their body a lot but it's kinda just a natural instinct when I see a women with a nice figure. On the other hand, when I compliment on a girl's personality, they look at me as if I'm not sincere or they'll give a laughing thank you. But aye, if you have a nice body, getting compliments is expected and a blessing.

[OrangeBoy]

Because guys in your age are passing a very problematic time, when we just see asses, boobs and everything very sexually.

Other thing is... the body is immediately visible. Your personality and talents need more time wtih the guy. Maybe you dont do that and they dont know you well.

[Anonymous]

A guy who doesn't know you can't compliment you on your talents or personality--because he doesn't know you! What else does he have to go on other than your looks? If you get to know him and he only compliments your looks, that might be a problem, but initially, it's unrealistic to hope he will, because he'd only be making crap up.

[Anonymous]

Probably because you have an exceptionally great body? And yeah--it's also a sign that the guys you roll with aren't too bright. Everyone knows you tell the attractive girl she's smart and/or talented and the smart or talented girl that she's attractive.

[Anonymous]

Because
A) your body must be so good that it overshadows your personality
or
B) because you have no personality or talents in the first place and the body is the only thing that stands out.

From your picture, are you really 15? You look 18

[WhatTheHellAmy]

Mean but honest XD

[Yasmine_yasmine]

I'm 16. I have a personality and talents. Everyone does. I don't think you understand the question.

[Opinion Owner]

I understand your question very well. It's as simple as it can get. Assuming you do have a personality as you claim, it really doesn't matter to the boys of your age. Your body is hot, you think they value personality and talents at that age? hahahahahahahahaha. For years to come, everyone will be trying to use your body, good luck.

If you love the attention, then continue doing what you're doing. If you want guys to appreciate your personality more, then you actually need to DRESS down. You got some killer curves, not gonna lie.

[AloneLove]

There r two posibilities in here
1) Your body is really attractive so deserve compliment
2) Guys only wanna sleep with u and its all reason of compliments (This option is more strong for me)

[Words_and_Wisdom]

"Hey baby, I like your personality"

Honestly you do expect anyone to say that when they first see you outside of irony? First thing people see is your looks you know.

[Yasmine_yasmine]

I'm talking about body not facial compliments

[Raging7x]

Your Damn Sexy and i just simply love those curves... yum yum!

[Anonymous]

I don't know but I don't find anything special on you, sorry just like average body.