Why are (a lot of) guys such insensitive assholes?

[Anonymous]

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Again, from what I see on this site daily, it seems to prove my point.

[Fearless_banana]

Because nice guys get trampled on. I'm sorry to tell you that most guys will get crushed in this world by trying to be nice to everyone. As far as dating goes it is literally suicide for a guy to try and be nice. It's a guys best interest to be aggressive and take what he wants.. in his best interest to show little to no emotion. If he is looking for a serious relationship or wife then sure.. but I wouldn't understand why I guy would be doing that at a younger age. Also you should probabaly stop acting so bitter and stereotyping every guy to be an insensitive asshole. You had one experience.. that doesn't make us all terrible.

[Asker]

I said a lot of, not most of... but I can tell that you are one of them by that answer.

[Fearless_banana]

You have no idea who I am at all lol. Further proves how bitter you are.

[what_the_hell]

I agree you are an asshole, do keep calling us bitter you loser

[awesometjgreen]

Unfortunately they don't have enough experience or haven't learned that being an, "alpha male" (being a man whore wo gets laid everyday) never pays off. Same for the, "nice guy" who has to learn to focus inside and learn who he is and why girls don't necessarily like him. (I was that nice guy) but tjis summer I've learned a lot about relationships from male and female perspectives so I feel good regardless of being teased about being single and a virgin :-)

[Asker]

A very insightful opinion. Guys like you give me hope for the future of man kind :)

[awesometjgreen]

Pray for me girls my age think I'm weak because I'm smart and skinny and wear glasses yet I have the most common sense out of the majority of my peers. Pray that I find some kind of girlfriend before highschool ends I'm gonna be a junior this year

[Asker]

Let me tell you thIs. I never had a boyfriend in high school. I was smart and focused on my academics. I felt like there was something wrong with me because I didn't have a boyfriend. I actually didn't end up dating and losing my virginity until I was 24 in University. It's just the way things happened. I actually met someone who appreciated me for me.

So, don't give up hope. It may not happen when you want it to, but it will eventually :) you will find a girl who likes you for you and is not concerned about some silly immature norm.

Best of luck :)

[awesometjgreen]

Thank you so true I won't I'm already working on me :-)

[LouisvilleGirl826]

Most of my experiences with the opposite sex were negative until I started college about 4 years ago. I've met a lot of nice guys there, so I know they're not all the same. But I just think it's funny how many guys act do act like assholes, but then if another guy turned around and acted that way towards their daughter, sister, or someone they love, they wouldn't think it's so funny then -_-
Then again, it is assholes we're speaking of. They still probably wouldn't care

[msAlovescookies]

I don't know, girl. I'm trying to figure out the same thing. You have to know that not ALL guys are ass-wholes, though. There are some great guys out there. I've met like... Two of them in my lifetime. 😅

[Beautifiedgirl123]

Oh not again! Can we just accept the fact that there is good and bad in both genders. And if someone is an insensitive asshole, it has nothing to do with gender but it's rather an individual thing

[Asker]

I sure hope so because there are A LOT of them on this site :(

[wankiam]

but if you was a guy you would be asking why are girls such insensitive bitches... oh no wait a minute. some of us dont feel the need to think in such general terms. we are all different and whilst you may have bad experiences, if you start man hating then you won't see the ones that do care

[Asker]

I know. I try not to generalize, but the way some men are in the real world and the way a lot of guys act on here makes it hard to believe.

[wankiam]

but if you go down this path dont you see that you will just become a lonely manhater. there is a term for it but i can't think of it right now but basically you are sabotaging your own chance of happiness

[Asker]

I understand. It's just disheartening the amount of guys on here that bash women constantly. I don't go out of my way to bash men, I really don't. I just feel like the hate on here is disproportionately skewed towards women for no valid reason.

[wankiam]

most of them aren't 'men' there are lots of boys on here

[AhGojira]

If we always pandered to everyone's sensibilities we wouldn't be able to make decisions in the face of criticism and lead other men to accomplish things. The reality is that most people don't give a fuck about your feelings, they tend to care about the people close to them like their family and close friends... So until you become someone important to them, they probably don't give a fuck about you...

[RBD12]

I see. Even to the nice girls that did nothing to them? welp there's karma.

[AhGojira]

@RBD12 Just because someone doesn't coddle you, that doesn't mean they did you wrong. The world is a rough place so sometimes a little bit of grit helps to prepare you for the rest of your life. You have to learn to deal with people, and people are not always going to be nice to you.

[aficionado]

The same reason why (a lot of) girls are shallow gold-diggers. It works both ways, you see.

[Nomad69]

Amen

[aficionado]

@Nomad69

Thanks mate! And see, already two downvotes from butthurt females! :P

[Nomad69]

That's probably what the gold diggers say we are asses

[unpleasentruth]

AfuckingMEN

[aficionado]

@Nomad69

Strange, isn't it? The upvotes from men and the downvotes from women, both keep increasing! :P

[aficionado]

@unpleasentruth

Thanks for the acknowledgement!

[Cosytoasty]

Oooo vote war LETS ROLL!

[aficionado]

@Cosytoasty

Absolutely! It's fun! ;)

[unpleasentruth]

LOL even one female agreed. its just a sad fact that women are often shallower than men.

[aficionado]

@unpleasentruth

I know, right? Women can be as shallow, if not more than men. But unlike men, women usually don't admit that they are shallow! :P

[HyperNova]

ZING!

[Nomad69]

@HyperNova hit the nail on the head, men are more honest.

[Tomsta]

Beacuse the nice genuine guys get trampeled all over. Even the ones who show geniune interest by flirting etc. beacuse until girls hit thier mid twenties they are kind of 'rebelling' in the sense of they will date someone who they know thier parents won't approve of ergo they date, emtionally distant arseholes who only care about themselves

But also people seem to have this notion that nice guys are boring both in life and in the bedroom. I know that's false

[Omar5881]

Why are ( a lot of ) girls are sluts?

Not a ( lot of ) darling because I am pretty sure you never dated more than a 100 guy in this world and if you dated all the guys in the world then it's your problem to assume that ( a lot of ) guys are insensitive assholes

[Asker]

I'm mostly basing my opinion of men on this site. I hope it is not a reflection on men in general.

[Omar5881]

Ahh on this site , well it's the Web what do you expect , any coward can write anything behind the screen

[SomeoneImportant]

It's what women are attracted to. Obviously no girl ever admits it, but it's true.

Being an insensitive asshole, or at least having some of the traits, will give you more success in the dating world

Just is what it is

[Asker]

Success in sleeping with more women perhaps, but not relationships.

[unpleasentruth]

Most girls are stupid. They want rich insensitive assholes... yet they cry about it later. WTF?

[Asker]

@unpleasentruth immature girls but not women. I am an independent and financially sound woman on my own, I have no interest in dating men with money. I just feel men in general are insensitive when it comes to relationships.

[SomeoneImportant]

Yes, in relationships

[Jayded1]

Thank you so much for saying "a lot of" and not "all". We the select few appreciate it. I have no answer though, some guys are just selfish pricks.

[NatashaJ]

True people will be assholes you just have to deal with it. Karma will catch up.

[lucasnabizada]

Dude I heard this question 1 million times... LITERALLY... At this point I'm gonna say since girls are still asking... Because you're choosing the wrong kind of dudes LMAO

[Asker]

But most of the guys on here are insensitive pricks. It really reflects poorly on men in general.

[lucasnabizada]

Well... Thought shit... Men don't care about their self image, hell you girls care for us more than we do ourselves... Doesn't mean that all are like this solely on the basis of your bad experience love.

[Magmae]

They don't think they are because if you don't put up boundaries they will keep crossing them. If you do say something and he continues it then loose him because apparently he is one & doesn't care. Trust me if you were a girl of his dreams he wouldn't dream of being a jerk.

[Cosytoasty]

I love it when someone kicks the wasp's nest like this xD

[TonyRyanAgain]

I can't answer this, no one can. But in my opinion; typically, "nice" guys wind up becoming the bff while they watch you date the wrong type because they're too fucking nice to tell you (not that you'd listen) that you're dating the wrong guy.

[colourz]

because you only like to date insensitive assholes and ignore the guys who are kind to you

[Asker]

That is complete bs.

[colourz]

it's a fact that women tend to be attracted to assholes/jerks more than any other guy.

[NotTheFBI]

Why are (a lot of) girls such insensitive assholes? :v
Wait... we're playing the generalisation game? I thought we were? :v
#GeneralisationsEverywhere

[Anonymous]

We're not, it's just we don't treat you women like the princesses that you believe you are, so you get buttsore and salty.

[Nomad69]

Exactly unless your a super model nock it off

[Opinion Owner]

@Nomad69 Even then a supermodel wouldn't get treated like a princess by me. She excretes the same way I do, so she's on my level.

[Asker]

Oh so a girl only deserves to be treated with kindness if she is pretty? That is beyond shallow.

[Opinion Owner]

Now where have I said that OP?

[what_the_hell]

@Nomad69 a super model would never date you fool

[what_the_hell]

You ugly losers will die alone

[what_the_hell]

A supermodel wouldn’t give you the time of day bud

[what_the_hell]

@Nomad69 why would a super model date you shit face

[itsallover]

Because they think it's masculine. How wrong they are.

[J1020]

Not sure how to answer this... Its not just guys, realize that.

[Anonymous]

It gets them laid cos females go for it whilst their good friends (who are still physically attractive) who treat them nice, only see their innocent side.

[Minter15]

Most guys aren't insensitive assholes. Its ur fault... First u pick the wrong guy. And when he dumps u... You all be like "All boys ar jerks!!" ... JUST STOP... Had enough of this bullshit.

[Asker]

And yet this site seems to prove my point

[Minter15]

And i forgot to mention 1 thing. Why are (alot of women) are gold diggers? And how did this site proved ur point?

[what_the_hell]

How was she supposed to know he was the wrong guy jackass

[Anonymous]

To counter a women's emotions. The Ying and the yang. You may expect me to realize that you are upset and cancel plans to hold you because your 2nd cousins dog died. My natural reaction to that would be. Jesus Christ, here we go again.

[luisnunez]

When someone do something it is because it has worked for them in previous experience, no matter the gender